Sex with a new partner... turning on the pressure...

*Louise*

I don't think 3 months is unreasonable, not much of a man if he isn't prepared to wait until his partner is ready. I'm glad I'm not on the dating scene these days, everyone seems to want sex on the first night, I was never one for that.

However OP, in your case, and reading your other thread...I hope he isn't ever getting it!!:rotfl:

shellsuit

QuantumSuccess wrote: »

When you meet a man and start dating is it considered unreasonable to wait 3 months or so before having sex with them?

It's not unreasonable at all, unless the other person just wants a leg over instead of a relationship.

I waited about 4 months, with the Father of my 2 eldest children, and I waited around 3 months with my now husband.

marywooyeah

agreed, sounds like he is putting the pressure on you to "do it", which to me is another red flag.
a phrase I always found effective is "do you really want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to/ isn't ready to have sex with you?"

usually sends em running if they're only after one thing! took me a while to get down with my soon to be hubby, but if they're right for you they have no problem waiting.
I'll echo what I said on your other thread: RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!

Nimeth

No, it's not unreasonable to wait 3 months. It's not unreasonable to wait however long it may be till you are ready to take that step. If he is pressuring you to have sex before you're ready then he's being unreasonable in addition to being completely self-absorbed with his own feelings and not caring at all about yours.

Though given the topic of your other thread I have no idea why you'd even consider sleeping with him. I repeat what I said in the other thread, it sounds like you'd be better off without him!

GlynD

I'm afraid I'm in no position to offer advice about sex - I'm married therefore know nothing about it. From your other thread though I'd be inclined to keep my hand on my ha'penny if I were you.

poet123

GlynD wrote: »

I'm afraid I'm in no position to offer advice about sex - I'm married therefore know nothing about it. From your other thread though I'd be inclined to keep my hand on my ha'penny if I were you.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::T

Gingham_R

He makes your skin crawl, you think he may be abusive in the future and you're considering sleeping with him.

I've been in more than one abusive relationship and I wish someone had said to me what I'm about to say to you - dump him and get counselling.

QuantumSuccess

CH27 wrote: »

Having read your other thread I cannot believe you are considering becoming sexually entangled with him.

I will not be having sex with him because I think he is a toxic person. But yes he did put the pressure on me to have sex with him before I was ready. I refused. He continued with the pressure and this got me wondering whether perhaps there is something "abnormal" now about wanting to wait.....that is why I asked.

CH27

QuantumSuccess wrote: »

I will not be having sex with him because I think he is a toxic person. But yes he did put the pressure on me to have sex with him before I was ready. I refused. He continued with the pressure and this got me wondering whether perhaps there is something "abnormal" now about wanting to wait.....that is why I asked.

Fair enough:)
I think you need to run a mile from him.

shellsuit

Just read your other thread and don't understand why you're asking whether it's unreasonable to wait 3 months to sleep with someone, when you've only been seeing the guy for 5 weeks, and he makes your skin crawl. Where does 3 months come into it?

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