Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

AnW'sMum

Awwwwwwwww thanks mandymoo you've made me blush!

I just feel such an affinity with Stormy and I think she is doing amazingly well given that her darling John passed away 5 weeks today (BIG HUG Stormy just realised Saturdays must be horrible for you, Tuesdays are my horror days)

I have been off work since my DH died last June, my employers have been great and have allowed me to stay on full pay for up to 9 months which has been a huge weight off my mind. I shall be returning on a phased basis from 23rd Feb, being the week the kids are back at school after half term. Stormy returned to work less than 3 weeks which I find very humbling, she is one FANTASTIC lady.

It's horrible when any of us lose a close family member and I just hope others can take comfort from the fact that we are all supportive of each other. There are no two right ways of dealing with any given situation but it does help if we know we can air our thoughts and concerns safe in the knowledge that no one will judge us.

Well we have got back from swimming lessons, had lunch so I had better try and sort out this bombsite! DS's godfather is coming to visit next w/e so I had better turn this room from a dumping ground/computer room/stock room back into the guest room it is supposed to be!!!!!

Have a good day everyone

xx

Stormybay

Hello everyone,
Thank you for your kind words, I was feeling pretty rotten yesterday, and I have the mother of all headaches today. I'm not sure I'm that fantastic AnW'sMum You are right, I hate, well fridays really (22nd dec), gosh, I hate that date too, I suppose I always will, and it's one I'll never forget. And don't forget you too, you are also brilliant, I know how hard it is with youngsters, never mind my lot.
Today was ok, I went for a coffee with SD1, John fitted her kitchen and just finished it the week before, it was actually nice to see all his handywork, I hated it on Christmas day and couldn't bare to go in there.
I went out and treated myself to a small TV to go in our bedroon today, I was really pleased, but I got it home and can't get a signal at all well, so now I'm going to have to fork out for someone to connect it to my outside aerial, nothing is ever simple is it.........Where's my John when I need him? Then the shower didn't work, but it turned out someone (one of the boys I imagine although they are in full denial), but have knocked the swtich off for it under the stairs, so that was simple enough.
Yesterday I had the deeds through for the burial plot, so I'm going to make a real effort to go to see John tomorrow, I know if I leave it any longer, I just wont go ever again.
It will be nice for you to have visitors AnW'sMum, I wish I had somewhere for visitors to stay, we are all squashed in here. Our plan was to move next year, but I'm not rushing into anything, I couldn't bare someone coming in and pulling out all John's joinery work.
How do you think you will get on at work? Is it a stressful job you are in? I know work has been good for me, it takes my mind off this horrendous life I'm living if just for a short while. I manage a great team of people, they have been fantastic all the time and I'm happy to be amongst them during the day.
Right, going to take my headache tablets........again, and try to read, I bought a book called 'Getting rid of Matthew', it's so funny and light reading, it even made me laugh out loud, that was interesting, I didn't think I would ever do that, although immediately afterwards I felt bad that I laughed. Good grief, I didn't expect this to happen to me, as I suppose none of us do!
Take care all, lot's of hugs to all that need or want them.
Thanks for everything all the time, my lifelines...........YOU ALL

Stormy
xxxxxx

Triker

Hey Stormy, nice to read your post, you said you weren't feeling too good yesterday so I'm wondering if you're coming down with something. Be kind to yourself and rest as much as you can.
Don't have much to say so sending you these:hello: :grouphug: :wave: to cheer you up. X

twink

what you all experience is normal, dont any of you think otherwise, and i dont think the feelings of guilt etc ever go away but the ability to cope with it is so much better, i will never like being in an empty house but i cope well with it, aided by a lovely family, i have ds2 and fdil staying over last night, i would say to anyone coping with children, it is so worth it as they will be such a source of pride when they grow up

love and hugs for today xx

AnW'sMum

Stormybay wrote:

I hate, well fridays really (22nd dec), gosh, I hate that date too, I suppose I always will, and it's one I'll never forget.

Oops I popped the calendar up here and must have clicked on 2007 not 2006! 6 is the number I no longer like. I was at work the day before it happened and in the paper it said something like 'Is tomorrow the date the world ends' as it was 6/6/06 and for me it did

Stormybay wrote:

I went out and treated myself to a small TV to go in our bedroon today, I was really pleased, but I got it home and can't get a signal at all well, so now I'm going to have to fork out for someone to connect it to my outside aerial, nothing is ever simple is it.........

We had a TV in one of our bedrooms and the signal was c**p but we bought one of those small internal ariels (only a few £ from memory) and it worked a treat, might be worth a try first.

Stormybay wrote:

Yesterday I had the deeds through for the burial plot, so I'm going to make a real effort to go to see John tomorrow, I know if I leave it any longer, I just wont go ever again.

Don't push yourself, if you don't feel comfortable then leave it for now, John would not want you to go unless you felt ready, remember he is with you wherever you are.

I work for a bank as a cashier, yes I am the one that askes everyone if they want a credit card or home insurance etc! :eek: Please don't shout we have to ask we are given targets to achieve. My biggest concern is what customers will say, I have been at that branch for 6 years and know a lot of the regulars. Most of them are aware of the situation as they asked where I have been but I know if someone askes me I will not be able to lie and say on holiday or some other excuse. But I'll get there the people I work with are great and will 'protect' me if need be. I have kept calling in to see everyone so that it is not as daunting when I do return.

Well I had better get dressed, we are having a party lunch at Mum and Dad's for DS today (he is 4 on Tues) so we have to go and get supplies for that.

Take care everyone, hugs to all that need them.

xx

spud30

Morning Stormy.

Dont forget, John, I'm sure, is always with you. You dont HAVE to go to his grave to be with him, if you cant face it at the moment. Talk to him wherever and whenever you feel the need.

Loads of love x

Stormybay

Hello people,
Not had a brilliant day today, feel really teary and odd, I don't like it as I'm not used to feeling like this, I was really upset at Rosie's football, then SD1 came around and she too was upset, so it made it all worse.
The other children seem fine, I'm just sort of 'not in the mood' for anything at all.
Sorry I'm not too cheery today, I don't really have much to say. Today I just want John and nothing else will do.
Grrrrrrrrrrrr
Love to all,
Stormy
xxxxxx

MushyPeas

Hiya Stormy
Sorry to read you are having a bad day, you will have these. Especially when all you want is your dear John, I'm grrring on your behalf because I know it's not fair for you
Sending big hugs your way, tomorrow is another day and you are doing brilliantly
Hugs to you MPxxx

Dumyat

hang in there stormy.

twink

sending hugs stormy, this is how you are going to feel but you will get through it, i promise and please do take care of yourself xx