Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

mandymoo

nearlyrich wrote:

We have rather a lot of stickies but as this one is so popular I will stick it....;) it is a very popular thread.

Thank you nearlyrich, I`m sure this thread will run for a long time as a tribute to stormy`s husband john and will help others through there time of sadness.
I know it is helping me . Thank you xxx

twink

thanks nearly rich and mandymoo great idea to have this as a sticky

Snaggles

Annie, I'm sorry to hear about your friend, and I'm sure you wouldn't have been too harsh, I've never known your posts to be anything but thoughtful and well intentioned xxx

PS I've PM'd you

Chrismojam

It's lovely to see so many caring people offering comforting words and their stories...

Hope everyone is doing ok....I've not had chance to catch up on everyone's posts yet as I've not been online this week.....

Snaggles...strange thing to say...but your post about your nan's funeral made me smile.....just got this image of (very stubborn) little old lady in my head...determined not to go anywhere:o I think with so many things happening that day, she must have been there having a laugh at it all!

Annie.....my thoughts go out to your poor aunt and the rest of the family...I think others suggestions about maybe printing some of the thread off is a good one.....

Stormy and everyone else....my thoughts are with you...take care XX

Stormybay

Hello Everyone,

Isn't this great that this thread's a 'sticky', the posts on here are fantastic and have brought so much comfort for so many people, especially me. I actually missed you whilst I was away.

I was totally distraught when I got to my hotle room, I was so lonely, which is odd, cos I always go alone. I think it was cos I always phoned John on arrival to say I was safe (phoned all the children instead!). But before I used to go to bed, we'd haave a long chat and I missed that so much.

The course and the meetings where fine, until we went through our new HR policy, which included bereavement, at that point, I had to go out and make a cup of tea, as only a couple of people know the circumstances, but I was ok really. That night I phoned Rosie who was crying because she had a headache and I wanted to jump on the first train home, but phoned her later and she was ok. I just cried.

The second night I met up with stepdaughter 3 and we had a lovely evening chatting about John and having loads of memories, we both had a little cry (in the restaurant!!!!!), but mostly we laughed and shared our stories.

Well, I'm home now and all the children are fine and the house is still intact. My car is in the garage thought, some sort of fault, so it's off to work on foot tomorrow...brrrrr.

I've just read through some posts and you are all so brave, it gives me confidence that I WILL SURVIVE.

DS2 seems much better now and have told him to start a journal, apparently he already has on Bebo (????), so that's good. It's DS1's 20th birthday tomorrow, so I'd best get off to wrap presents and write cards, that will be hard and it will just be from Mum, it will be hard to write.

Thank you all so much, love and hugs to all who need them, and also to those who don't think they do, but do really!!

Stormy

AnW'sMum

Hi Stormy

Glad you had a successful trip I know it must have been hard but you've done it I should open a bottle of wine to celebrate.

It was DD's birthday last week and will be DS's next week here. It felt wrong not writing DH's name on the card so I wrote 'Daddy loves you soooo much' which she thought was great. We did have a good day despite DH not being with us, for me I concentrated on DD so that I didn't dissolve into tears all the time. At DD's request we took the ribbon from her cake and tied it round Daddy's cross which made her day.

Hope the car get's sorted quickly, love n hugs from us all to you and anyone else who wants some.

xx

mandymoo

Welcome home stormy, I`m glad your trip went ok and you met up with Johns daughter and could have a laugh and a cry it`s all good. My mum only this last year stopped putting my dads name on our cards.This is another thing that has no rights or wrongs it`s whatever you feel.
We have all missed you and I hope you did`nt mind me asking for the thread to be a sticky.
It is my dads 4th anniversary on tuesday and each day at the moment I am re-living everything, It still hurts so much but not a day goes by that he is not in my thoughts and I have photos of dad and family on my fridge so every morning I say hi and every night I say sweet dreams see you in the morning and each time I go in the fridge dads smiling at me (this is a great comfort knowing he`s always there all be it on the fridge lol !!)
with love mandymoo xxx

Stormybay

AnW'sMum,

I'm so glad you have managed ok, it must have been so so difficult for you, I can hardly imagine. You are so brave, I WAS thinking of you, it's all so sad all the time, I know this year will be so hard passing all the 'firsts' of everything. What you wrote on the card is so lovely, I may do the same if that's ok.

I need to go to the cemetery soon, I can bring myself to go, but I will have to go and tidy it up, after all the awful weather, I'm dreading the grave being a mess. Rosie want's to go and take some daffodils in a pot (too late to plant bulbs now), so I'll try to go at the weekend, I just can't bare the thought of my John being in a box under the earth, I hate it so much. But I must face it or I never will.

Thanks for everything AnW'sMum, I so much appreciate it

Stormy
xxxxx

Stormybay

Mandymoo,

It's great that this is a Sticky, thanks so much for suggesting it. When I came home I searched everywhere (not good on the finding threads thingy), so I decided to go back to page one and look again, and there it was....Fantastic.

I'm so sorry about your Dad. Dad's are great aren't they. Mine died last June and I miss him so much, especially now, he would have been so much of a comfort to me, as John was when Dad died.

It's sad again to day as it is my stepson's wife's funeral in San Diego, he is in absolute bits and not coping at all. I feel for him so much. He may be coming home to visit in a few weeks, so I hope to meet up with him then. It will be very emotional I know.

It's great you talk to your Dad, I do the same, although he's by my PC not on the fridge, and John is everywhere I look, which is lovely. I asked him if he'd missed me when I was in London!!!!

I'm tired now after my journey and I have a review with my boss tomorrow, so I'd better go to bed, I'm looking forward to my own bed, all be it without my John. But he is in my heart and that will never leave me.

Take care,

Stormy
xxxxxx

mandymoo

Night stormy and sweet dreams and best wishes for ds`s 20th tomorrow.