Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

Dumyat

I'm one of those who read because I want to I dont post much, but I think you are all an inspiration to me and I'm sure many others who follow your stories.
take care. x

Stormybay

Thanks Dogrose

Thanks for seeing through all the typo's on the above post too!!! You just couldn't tell I'd had a glass or 2 of Pinot Gricio could you? Lol

Stormy
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minniemum_2

Thankyou Stormybay for your lovely response to my message. Its a really strange feeling but it is sort of a comfort to know that someone can identify with the emotions that I am going through.
I married Mark when I was 19 and had been married for nearly 24 years so to say its a shock being on my own is a bit of an understatement. I agree that everyday seems like an achievement but I still feel a bit like I'm on autopilot just going throught the motions.
But anyway, pull myself together and get on with it.
Hugs to all that need one. xxxxxxx

AnW'sMum

Hi minniemum so sorry to hear about your OH and your mum, I can't begin to imagine how you got through those first few weeks other than being totally numb to everything and being on autopilot. I know for one that is how it was for me.

You have definately come to the right place, we are a friendly crowd and no matter how you feel there is always someone to offer a hug, shoulder, glass of wine even Feel free to rant, rave, shout, cry or even laugh on here, we like to do all although the last one can seem hard at times.

I have been having a tough couple of weeks, been busy with trying to keep the house tidy (and failing miserably), going to work and trying to sort Ian's memorial service. Hence I have not slept well as so much is racing round in my mind. But yesterday at work it was a slow afternoon and we had such a laugh we were practically rolling round on the floor, it felt good for a change.

Hope everyone else is ok, been thinking of you all even though I have not had a lot of chance to post, oh and snaggles I love the pic of Natasha she is gorgeous.

Right better skidaddle or nothing will get done today and I don't want to take Alice swimming in my pj's! :rotfl:

(((HUGS))) to everyone

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mandymoo

Morning everyone,

And what a lovely sunny day it is.

Stormybay I hope your ds is feeling better, what an awful thing to happen. I hope you are well and looking after yourself.

AnW`sMum all the very best for Ian`s memorial service your family must be so proud of you, Alice and William, you have been and are an inspiration to us all, thank you.

Jbatista My thoughts are with you and your family and I am sure we will here from you when you are feeling more up to it, but we are here for you.

Anniestar I hope you and dh are feeling better and the cats are all ok.

Minniemum welcome to stormybays thread. I can only repeat what AnW`sMum and Stormybay have said we are here for each other and we all bring different things to the table but we all have one thing in common we have all lost someone very very precious to us and we all know the hurt that goes with that.


Well I started my new job on monday and for three weeks I have to do an induction course and there are four other people with me.
I never took any exams at school and have really been a stay at home mum for 18years it was hard at the start of the week to grasp all the paper work and understand what all the rules and regs are but I am slowly understanding it all. I have never done this type of work before (support worker for people with learning disabilities) so it is all new, where as the others have, so at first I really was odd one out (well thats how it felt) but they have all been great and very encouraging.
Dd is doing very well with her eating and is more positive now so that is a plus obviously we are all keeping an eye on her and talking about it, we went and collected her prom dress last week and she looks stunning and where she is eating more correctly she looks more healthy and the dress has given her a big boost.

Well can`t you tell I have not been around for a week I will now stop waffleing and get on with the day.


Love and hugs to you all

mandymoo xxxxx

jbatista

Hi all, I am back on here writing to you all, finding it all very hard to cope with everything my DH is too, we go away tomorrow until the 30th to visit my inlaws in Portugal but it won't be the same knowing that I wont have Dad to come home to. We had already booked this holiday before Dad passed away, he wanted us to go away so thats what we are going to do. The kids are coping well, better than I expected. It all seems a blurr and now I have to think of the financial side of it all, solicitors etc I feel even worse. To make thing s worse I have not been to work since Dad passed away and dont get paid so I need to go back to work too.
I went to have my hair cut this morning and the hairdresser told me that I have some bald patches in my hair. Thats upset me now, I relly feel awful and am thinking that when I get back I am goign to see a counsellor along with DH. All for now. Thanks for being here for me.
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AnW'sMum

Hi jbatista and mandymoo, great to see you both.

I am on lunch break before whizzing out the door again!

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time jbatista but glad you found the time to post on here, we will all be thinking of you while you are away. We went on hols with mum and dad just 8 weeks after Ian died and I felt terribly homesick but it was the best thing for me at the time as I know I would not have done anything productive had we stayed at home. It did seem to act as a physical break to all that had happened just prior and gave me a bit of space to totally forget that life had just been tipped upside down (if that makes sense) and helped me to regroup for the tasks ahead when we got home.

Things will get better, just remember babysteps and ask for help if you need it.

mandymoo so pleased your DD is doing well, PMA goes a long way bet she looks stunning in her dress. Sounds like you are enjoying work, well done, bet it felt very daunting after being at hoome for all those years. I tell you I go to work for a rest these days!!!

Right time to go, wish me luck for the bellringing, see you all later (((HUGS)))

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mandymoo

Morning everyone,

Just checking that you are all ok.

Love and hugs to you all
mandymoo xxx

AnW'sMum

Hi everyone

Just checking in to see how you all are. It's been very quiet on here lately but if you are all as busy as I seem to have been that will explain!

Been a tough couple of weeks and this next week is gong to be the hardest of them all so far. It was our wedding anniversary on 23rd May (9 years) and next Wednesday it will be one year since Ian died. I still can't believe that he is gone and that he has been for almost a year.

The memorial service is going to be on Wednesday evening and while I haven't asked for replies to our invites a lot of people have said they are going to be attending. Alice, William and their cousins have made up some picture memory boards which we are going to display in church. They have all enjoyed doing that although it was hard to decide which pictures to include, I think we have captured him to a tee.

I have put together some words which I hope to read out myself and Alice and I are working on a prayer.

Hope you are all well, hugs for all those in need.

Take care

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Stormybay

Morning everyone, looks like it's going to be a lovely day in North Wales today, but I feel pretty sad. It's my birthday today, the first one for 13 odd years without John and I'm not sure how I feel about it. Obviously I can't sleep as I've been up since 5 just pottering about in the garden, drinking tea and generally wondering what the hell 'it's' all about!
It's also a year on Thursday day since my Dad died, almost 6 months since John died, and my daughter is moving into her new flat tomorrow and I will miss her like mad.
I've not posted for a while, as I've had a pretty tearful time as the realisation that John is actually dead, and not coming back, is finally starting to sink in. Quite frankly, I just don't like it, I've had enough, and he can come back now, thank you very much, I get the message!!!
Anyway, I din't want you lovely people to think that I'd abandoned this fantastic thread, I just haven't felt up to posting, although I have been reading and absorbing, I hope you are all doing fine, or as best you all can under bloody tragic and unfair circumstances.
AnW'sMum, I'm an so thinking of you this week, it must be so difficult, I will be at your memorial service in spirit and be thinking of you, Alice, William and Ian's families. I'm glad you posted here after your anniversary, I hope you were ok on the day, as I know I will be today, especially by the time I get back into bed tonight!
Mins - Thank you
I'm thinking of you all this morning, I'm lying in bed looking out of the window and can see my neighbours starting to stir, ready for another day in there lives, I sometimes wonder how they go on as normal, but I suppose they all have their cross to bear, and if they see me getting on with life, they probably say the same about me!
OK guys, enough of me feeling sorry for myself, It's a lovely day, I have 5 wonderul healthy children and my darling grandson and they are all safe (there but for the grace of God go I!), and...........I've treated myself to a new bed for my birthday (eldest daughter's having mine for her new flat), so that is arriving today, I'm off to work in Holyhead this morning, locally tomorrow and I've taken thursday and Friday off, so a lovely long weekend.
Sorry to rant so early in the morning, but thank you for being there to listen and read, you just will never know how this has been a lifeline since 22nd December 2006.
Hugs, love and loads of smiles for everyone,
Stormy
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