Stormybay's Thread a bit of comfort in a hard world

taxi73

Hi Anniestar..I'm sorry to hear DH isn't well.Hope he gets better soon.Don't feel you are alone..these boards are for ranting as well...it's what keeps us sane

anniestar

Thank you so much. You have no idea just how much all your support means to me. What wonderful friends. A XXXX

jbatista

Oh anniestar my love I do hope that DH gets better soon, I am praying for you all, my faith at the moment is my strength.
Love to all you lovelies
((((((((((((Hugs and kisses))))))))))))))))

mandymoo

Dear jbatista and family my thoughts and prayers are with you all for tomorrow

love and hugs
mandymoo xxxx

AnW'sMum

Hi everyone

Stormy, hope you and Rosie enjoyed the extravaganza, sounds like good fun.

jbatista BIG HUGS for you especially for tomorrow. I know it will be a tough day for you but you will get through it, and please don't worry about what other people think, what you are thinking and feeling right now is perfectly normal. Everone reacts in a different way, there is no right or wrong way for you to feel at any given time.

As to the not crying thing, Alice and I were about the only people not to cry at Ian's funeral. I can't tell you why it happened like that, personally I think I felt I had to 'protect' Alice and everytime I looked at her I smiled at her to say 'it's ok, we are ok' To an ourside observer it may have looked like we didn't care but we know how much we care and so do all those who know us. I never made a concious decision that I should or shouldn't cry. I remember hearing Ian's best friend breaking down behind us as the rector read out the eulogy that he had written. I knew if I looked back I would start crying as well.

The most important thing is to do what feels right for you and sod what anyone else thinks! He is your Dad and only you know how much you miss him. Remember we are all here whenever you need us.

Anniestar thanks for the hugs, I could really do with them today, been feeling quite down these last few days, think it's because we are coming up to our wedding anniversary and Ian's anniversary. Hope your DH get's better soon, and remember a moan shared is... well a moan shared I'll open a bottle of wine for all those that want a glass. Feel free to rant away, that's what this place is about, that and getting support from friends

mandymoo hope you are well and things are getting better for your DD, sending BIG HUGS to you.

If I have missed anyone it is not intentional, keep safe everyone and I'll look in over the weekend.

xxx

AnW'sMum

Hi everyone

Burning the (almost) midnight oil here again. Alice and I designed and printed invites for Ian's memorial service this weekend and I have emailed a lot of people as well. Emotionally shattered now, I think I have put off doing this before now as it another step and further confirmation that we are not living in a horrible dream and that Ian is not going to come home.

I have been trying to plan the service as a celebration of all that Ian means to us and hope to involve the kids in making some montages of Ian to take down to church for the service. Think I will get a guest book for people to sign as well (if they want to) so that there is something I can pass onto Alice and William in the future, other peoples thoughts of him.

Hope you are all well and thanks again to you all for the support you have shown me and everyone else over these last few months. You have no idea how much it helps.

Catch you all soon

xxxxx

Snaggles

AnW'sMum, the memorial service sounds lovely and the guest book will be something your children can look at in years to come. Hope you are okay, try and get some rest, it's bound to have drained you emotionally. Take care xxx

(oh, I understand your username now - A&W's Mum....lol, I'm a bit slow....)

Stormybay

Hi Annie, I hope you are ok, you are such a support for everyone on here, now we are here to support you...................it's the very least we can do.
Jbatsia................I hoe all went as well as these things can go, I@m thinking of you lots and sending lots of hugs to you and your family.
AnW's Mum...............I'm off to Cardiff in a bit with work, but will be back for the weekend, I do hope everything goes ok, it will be so hard, yest bitter sweet for you. The guest book sounds a great idea and the Children will appreciate it for years to come. You are so brave, I'm thinking of you often, you are my inspiration.
I've just returned form A & E, I had to take my son, as he burnt his eyes in work, so it was quite dramatic, but he's going to be ok. It was awful, cos the last time I went there whas when John had his heart attack, I nearly cried when we went in, but was ok after a few minutes.
Take care everyone and I'll check back in on Friday when I get back from Cardiff, having tucked my Son up in his bed for the next 48 hours in a darkened room, with my eldest daughter playing Florence Nightingale, and cheif cook and bottle washer for the next couple of days, although Rosie has announced that she is actually the babaysitter for her big brother and sister.
Love and hugs to all, and all those not mentioned, thinking of you too.
Stormy

minniemum_2

Hi Stormbay, I've plucked up the courage to send a message because I too recently lost my husband (23rd Nov 06), he had been suffering from a rare illness called Mutliple System Atrophy and although we knew that it was a terminal illness no one prepared us for him to die so soon, he had been diagnosed a year ago and the life expectancy is approx 8 to 10 years.
Then three weeks later my mum died in hospital with lung cancer, i just couldn't grasp what was happening to me!! I had two funerals to arrange within a matter of weeks, no one could believe it.
I have three daughters aged 20,17 and 15 so I can totally sympathise with your story. The girls have been brilliant and we are trying to get on with life as best we can. I still cry every day and feel guilty when I laugh or feel happy.

Stormybay

HI Minniemum, I'm so sorry for your double loss, how so awful for you, and how brave of you to post on here. I don't know how I would have coped in the very earlie days without the support and help from these lovely people. The people who have and are surviving everyday with theirf loss and tragedies. It has relly helped me to not feel so alone in my grief, and for people to tell me that I'm not going mad when my emotions and feeling didn't feel natural.
Please contiue to post if you feel up to it, or send a pm if you'd rather. All I know is that every day is a struggle that turns into an acheivement when I find myself at the end of the day having survived it. My children do keep me going, although some days I wish I was totally alone to wallow in my grief, it is probably better that I don't.
It is unbelievable how much people have gone through and yet death is such a prolific event, it's also such a taboo subject. To put my thoughts and feelings on here, I know that I'm not 'boring' my friends or not making them feel uncomfortable, I know that people who read this, do so because they want to, rather than they 'have' to. If you know what I mean.
Thanks so much for posting and I look forward to your next post, however sad or happy it is.

Sending you, and all my friends on here lots of love and hugs,
Stormy
xxxxxx