Narcisism!

meritaten

I would have put it nearer a 3 year old zaksmum - they still think they are the centre of the universe then! a 6 year old has usually learned that OTHER people have feelings!

Zaksmummy

meritaten wrote: »

I would have put it nearer a 3 year old zaksmum - they still think they are the centre of the universe then! a 6 year old has usually learned that OTHER people have feelings!

I would have said younger too but thats what this article stated.

Going back on subject re my SIL, recently she has upset some of my friends with her Ways and now they can see through her, she gets away with it as she can be quite comical (centre of attention) but to me it comes across as nastiness, always take the mickey out of one person in group. She is always copying me too but that's a whole new thread :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

bestpud

I know a couple of them. One a close relative and one a 'friend'.

They are hard work and often leave me feeling as though I've lost the plot!

To make it even worse, I work with one of them and they are particularly clever at manipulating our employer and always make me look the bad guy if I speak out!

I have no idea how to cope with it, so have gone for the 'keep your enemies close' strategy!

dark_lady

There is an article on narcissm in this months Psychologies magazine (the August issue) i had an ex boyfriend like it. His way was the only way.

j.e.j.

This is really interesting. Is narcissism a set of annoying traits or could it actually be a syndrome :rotfl:

Ex MiL seems to fit the bill perfectly. I'm gobsmacked by her (to my mind) almost pathological unwillingness to see that there are other people in the world beside her.

She is always hard-done-by, and when you try to comfort her by telling her of others have been thru the same she turns it into a competition: "oh but they can do such and such, I can't, what about me..."

Any people she mixes with she finds fault with almost immediately. And it is always they who are at fault. She, presumably, is perfect.

I could go on:rotfl:

I second the bit about the person being like a six-yr-old child. Someone like that is for whatever reason emotionally immature and they are draining to be around

Lotus-eater

If you are a narcissist, do you realise it, or do you not realise it and blame others?

sassyblue

Showing my age now but a few years ago people were just 'selfish' now we have a new fangled name for it (even though l know it's been around for ages).

Yes l know a few, my sister is one, always a victim even though she's still brooding over things she believes were 'slights' that happened 15 years ago. She can't let it drop and if we have a family get-together you just know she's going to make a sarcastic comment about one of these 'slights' that makes us roll our eyes or ignore it, culminating it her crying because we don't care or she's always the black sheep of the family.

It makes me feel awful but she cannot see SHE is the problem, we've all tried talking to her to no avail so consequently l try not to be around her too much. So sad really as she can be a lovely person when she's in the right mood.

And don't get me started on her playing off members of the family against each other......

Cyril

Hi

I was the poster that started that thread originally and I was disappointed when it was moved.

The traits of a narcissist were,

Someone oblivious to the needs and sensitivities of others.
Always right.
Never displaying empathy to another person
Always needing to be the centre of attention
Very insecure inwardly but often arrogant outwardly
Often appearing rude to others
Inflated sense of self importance

etc etc

I believe the their is a syndrome called NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

The general consensus of the thread was that you can't change a narcissist and to run for the hills if you meet one.

Shazzadouglas

I married one, not a pleasant experience. I got shot of him after 16 months as he was emotionally destroying me.

Now hes married to wife number 6 and i cant believe i didn`t pay attention to the glaring warning signs that were flashing in front of me lol.
If now i met a guy who had been married 4 times previously, i would run a mile and if their family warned me not to marry them cos they would hurt me oh boy i would definately listen BUT i was head over heels in love and blinded thinking it wouldnt happen to me....boy was i wrong!!

I agree, you cant change a narcissist so dont even try and yes run for the hills before any damage is done

Shaz x

MrsRogers

meritaten wrote: »

and you can spell it! lol, its just one of those words I cant spell for the life of me! but its a word I know very well - as I had one for a Mother-In-Law and if I HADNT been doing a psychology degree would have ended up totally under her control! a very dangerous woman who the neighbours and friends absolutely loved! She could cause mayhem while appearing whiter than white!

I think we have the same MIL !!!! lol

j.e.j. wrote: »

This is really interesting. Is narcissism a set of annoying traits or could it actually be a syndrome :rotfl:

Ex MiL seems to fit the bill perfectly. I'm gobsmacked by her (to my mind) almost pathological unwillingness to see that there are other people in the world beside her.

She is always hard-done-by, and when you try to comfort her by telling her of others have been thru the same she turns it into a competition: "oh but they can do such and such, I can't, what about me..."

Any people she mixes with she finds fault with almost immediately. And it is always they who are at fault. She, presumably, is perfect.

I could go on:rotfl:

I second the bit about the person being like a six-yr-old child. Someone like that is for whatever reason emotionally immature and they are draining to be around

This IS my MIL I alway knew there was something up with her just never knew it had a name!! WOW thanks OP the pieces to the jigsaw have finally all fitted together.

Whats worrying me it, it also sounds like my best friends BF and I never saw it before .. A little worrying