Mother in law!!!

clw1

Does she visit the other children just as much ??

You need to speak to him but maybe instead of saying "I don't want your mum to come over" say "can we go to do XX this weeekend"

Yoghurt_Pot

one daughter lives in Oz and the other is at Cambridge Uni... so she doesnt get the chance

Person_one

Yoghurt_Pot wrote: »

one daughter lives in Oz and the other is at Cambridge Uni... so she doesnt get the chance

You could always follow the example of the sensible daughter who took herself to the other side of the world!

beabea81

Yoghurt_Pot wrote: »

she is very big on family she has two girls and him, she did have another son but he died, so my partner is the first born and now the only son

I'm very 'big' on family too and I worship the ground my three lil boys walk on.... part of that will be the pride I take in seeing them make good, successful lives away from my home (using skills I have taught them) as adults not coddling them and refusing to let them go!

Please don't make excuses for the situation and be tough!

Tropez

Is she depressed, lonely or suffer from some form of behavioural issue that your partner is worried about?

I pop in on my mum a few times a week and she comes here for Sunday dinner. As well as being nice to see my mum, it also allows me to keep tabs on her, so to speak. Her ridiculously proud nature prevents her from ever admitting that anything is wrong but she is a scatter brain at times, forgetting important things and she doesn't have many friends in the area and those that are work long hours. With my mum, I don't think she ever got over my father's death but trying to get her to admit to anything like that and seek help is like trying to type with my nipples, so at least I can provide some company, run a few errands and for my own piece of mind make sure she's alright.

the_cat

Yoghurt_Pot wrote: »

one daughter lives in Oz and the other is at Cambridge Uni... so she doesnt get the chance

Sensible people!:D

Noctu

Have you broached the subject with your partner before? & what did he say?

the_cat

So it has been going on for a whole YEAR? Seriously you need to stop messing about and have it out with him. Do you back down on seeing/hearing about MIL crying?

Ultimatum time. If he leaves for the weekend this week, tell him not to bother coming back

pigpen

They aren't having an incestuous relationship as well are they??? (that was humour for those with a deficit)

Seriously.. they both need to get a grip..

The weekends at mummy's have to stop.. what on earth would happen if, god forbid, you found time to have sex and procreate?

Pull yourself together and stop allowing this stupid behaviour to go on.. he is 30 not 3 and they both need to realise it.. the crying crap is emotional blackmail more fool him for being such a pansy!

What would I do?

I'd tell him to either move back there permanently or stop the stupid weekends sleepies there..
I wouldn't make her feel particularly welcome when she came round.. such as getting on with housework or reading or doing whatever I was doing before she turned up while shewas there.. they are not a guest when they are always there!

I wouldn't let him tell her either.. I'd do it myself.. while both of them were there.

I'm not sure if you are the wally here or they are just nuts!

Yoghurt_Pot

there is nothing wrong with her, she is only 54 and she is perfectly fine!

i spoke to my partner and he said if i didnt want to see her then i didnt have to come