advice needed re- benefits

kingfisherblue

I also hope that the OP is genuine, but it's a chance I'm willing to take for the sake of a few bags of food. I have personal reasons for feeling empathy with the OP.

I hope the OP is online again before morning, as that is the only time I can make it before Friday evening.

I'd just like to add how lovely rocketman has been - my earlier post sounds awful, but I can't think how else to phrase it. I take personal safety very seriously. From his pm to me, rocketman understands this and hasn't taken offence at all. Unfortunately, he lives too far in the opposite direction for me to collect the food parcels that he was offering.

Metranil_Vavin

Personal safety should always be a priority. I'm very careful about who I give any information out too.

kingfisherblue

sickofeverything wrote: »

thank so much for all your kind offer but i feel a little bit worried now about giving my details or anything out after reading the other posts i dont want anything to happen to any of us

I understand that SoE. That's why I suggested a public place to meet. I'm female, if that's any reassurance, and I have no intention of asking your address or other private details. I just want to help you if I can. Maybe we can meet inside a library or somewhere else you would feel safe?

PM me - that's probably better than discussing on a public forum.

kingfisherblue

I'm off to bed now, but will check in the morning to see if the OP wants me to meet her in a public place. I fully understand her concerns about safety - I thought long and hard before offering help. My conscience wouldn't let me ignore her need though, especially as she has children.

I'll check for PMs or further posts int he morning - goodnight all

whitewing

It is a tricky one, kingfisherblue. My concern wasn't over you, just forum rules and a concern that a lurker may turn up too.

Anyway, OP, take one day at a time. Desperate as the situation is there will be kindnesses along the way. Don't forget the Samaritans and Gingerbread and NSPCC are there via email for emotional support too.

kingfisherblue

Whitewing, I realise that your concern was for the OP, not me. It is a tricky one. I am also concerned about the OP's safety, but mine as well. That is why I suggested a public place to meet.

I don't know what the answer is TBH. I can get some food to the OP, enough to last at least until Monday, but to do so, we would have to meet somewhere. Obviously the OP isn't in a postion to meet me halfway, so I suggested that I go to the town where she lives. I have also suggested that we communicate via PMs now, so that any arrangements are not public knowledge. - but I would only ever meet in a public place.

As it happens, the OP hasn't made any arrangements with me. I'll check in again later, but will have to know by 10.30am if she wants to meet, as I have an appointment just after lunch.

If the OP doesn't want to meet, that's fair enough. I fully understand her concerns aout personal safety - for both her and her children. I don't know what else to suggest other than meeting in a public place though.

Metranil_Vavin

hmmm...again call me cynical...

Kingfisher you have shown great kindness, whether that is taken up or not is out of your hands now.

sickofeverything

i can send 1 message per hour so i will have to send 1 in an hour now, i had a visit from the lady at the homeless centre this morning and she said they are open again tomorrow tea and we are welcome to go down again for something to eat, shes also dropped a form off for income support form. do you think its worth filling in again? i have rang crisis loan this morning and the lady said she would fill the form in but would have to refuse it due to debt but would pass it to community care grants as its for living expences and i would hear back from a desision maker in the next 3-4 working days, i told her we had nothing now and she could hear baby crying as theres no milk left for her and i told her we have no food and are running low on gas and electric now and she wrote that in the form so hopefully they will do something today

whitewing

Gosh it's difficult, isn't it? Can people still ring into your phone? You must get milk for your baby or he/she will go downhill very quickly. I'd be inclined to take the baby to hospital (as they will have milk available) and stay until someone can help you.

Maybe first you could phone the NSPCC helpline free from your mobile.

sickofeverything

i dont have a phone i had to sell in a couple of week ago for food an stuff but can use the phone box if the number is free, will the hospital give some milk if i find one? if so where abouts in the hospital would i have to go? i had 2 bottles left last night but its gone now