Turnips and Truffles

boredofbeingathome

Hello, did you miss me?:p

Had a lovely break and will take a while to catch up with you all. Brief rundown of trip:

Friday- car park as in M6/M5:o Stopped with DD1 and son in law
Saturday- first coastal walk:D Checked in at Country park where we were stopping and chilled with BBQ at night- perfick
Sunday-St Ives, shops and the Tate:D
Monday-Trerice House, Gardens, and visit to The Lizard
Tuesday-Falmouth, Pendennis castle, Maritime musuem, chillout night
Wednesday- St Michaels mount- have to do it every year! Culture at Minack theatre and watched magical production of The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie
Thursday Next coastal walk an 8 miler -totally fab Meal with DD( we have been spoiled)
Friday-Visit to Padstow, was a bit disappointed as it has changed a lot= spent ages in the car:o Had a lovely meal with DD and son in law
Saturday came home-shattered now washing for England but thoroughly enjoyable hols.:D

boredofbeingathome

Hope Beanie gets her laptop sorted- you could Pm Gunjack or Mark on here- they are quite techy

Nargleblast

Welcome back to the asylum - now get polishing those turnips!

boredofbeingathome

Nargleblast wrote: »

Welcome back to the asylum - now get polishing those turnips!

I will do after i have harvested the beans and tomatoes:p:rotfl:

Lula-Hula

Welcome Bob - you've been missed.

SW - do hope Beanie's lappie is ok ... sorry to say it, but liquid killed mine inspite of best efforts with hairdryer. Hopefully hers is made of stronger stuff
xx

savingwannabe

Welcome back Our Bob. Yay. You sound like you did loads do you feel all chilled out? I hope so.

My hols were fab. Steve and Andy come highly recommended. I proposed to them both (two rings for me!!!) and i am waiting for a response. They keep ringing me but haven't said yes. Darn who do i stalk now????:rotfl::rotfl:

Beanie is having company today. Aesop googled it and she needs to take it to a specialist so we are all hoping it can be sorted. Thanks everyone for your help.

boredofbeingathome

Well to be truthful, even though i had a good holiday i felt a bit down when i got back. Tiredness of a long journey and general 'fed up with situation and i have to face reality' type feelings:o Some of this was to do with Mr.B hardly contributing to the holiday which :mad: me off no end. The offspring have contributed a fair amount but wouldn't have the money to do so until this week..Mr.B just assumed as per, even though i have had a conversation with him about it- well several. So i am about £250 down on his contribution to the holiday and not only that, he hasn't got enough money to pay his half of the mortgage- so i will have to cough up for that as well.:o Really feel like getting my teeny little violin out or the big boot which says i told you so:cool: The one i use to kick myself up the arriss with every time he does this to me. Makes me wonder if it will ever change.

Luckily i had news on my pupils passing their exams today-was on holibobs when they came out and i couldn't get hold of anyone for the information until today..to say i am chuffed for them would be an understatement:D:j

So i am dusting myself off for a new term and looking for more extra work tutoring - it is turning into a profitable little sideline and if i am to make any kind of provision for the future then i will need all the help i can get. Plans have to be made and l do feel lucky that i have the money at the moment to keep myself afloat and the house, i am proud of myself for doing so it can only get better methinks.

On another personal triumph- DS's tax rebate came back after my letter to them and he is well chuffed:money: Offered me extra towards the hols to, i think Mr.B could learn a lesson from DS that's for sure.:D

ZTD

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

Makes me wonder if it will ever change.

He'll change when it is in his interests to do so. Currently he is £250 (plus the mortgage payment) up.

Be sure to point out to me the incentive for him to not do that, as I can't see it.

boredofbeingathome

ZTD wrote: »

He'll change when it is in his interests to do so. Currently he is £250 (plus the mortgage payment) up.

Be sure to point out to me the incentive for him to not do that, as I can't see it.

I can't think of anything to say other that what i have said to myself umpteen times.:o Totally berating myself over this.

I am trying to look at the positives.

If i hadn't booked to go, i wouldn't have seen my daughter and i wanted to, so i can't regret that. I enjoyed the visits and i can't regret that either. I enjoyed spending time with all my children and he needed that as well- i can't regret that.

So i need to move forward and make a proper budget and implement the plans re bank accounts. There is one for bills now, one for savings( in my name then he can't touch it) and personal ones. He has agreed to no spends re dinners and things and has said he will stick to a personal budget. Money owed me will be paid back as he has some shares he will cash in and that can be used as a buffer- not sure when it will happen and certainly won't be this month. I am not in a position to do anything at the moment until the joint debts are cleared, that will significantly reduce a lot more outgoings and he will no longer have any excuses to fall back on.

boredofbeingathome

As the title says i have had a good old thunk/think.

I really don't know why i have pandered to him, i kept myself in the mindset about not going further into the overdraft on his account-which in a way he is holding over me( if that makes sense) as he knows it is a major bugbear of mine and so will reason that if he pays more then the overdraft increases..but at the same time he is not appreciating that lack of budgeting on his part or expecting me to stump all the time when i am already paying for the major things and overpaying debts is a major stumbling block on my psyche..So i took the bull by the horns this morning and paid half of the mortgage out of his account( it is joint and i have a card)

I have no doubt he will whinge for England, but the mortgage has to be paid and it is fair.

Other major whinge this am is that once again HR have paid me wrongly so i have had to chase it up:mad: It made me think that i really need to get things sorted out re my contract as twice in a month just won't do- between them, Inland Revenue, and Mr.B i am totally exhausted with it:eek:

Phew feels good to get that off my shoulders.

Todays jobs are just consisting of end of month budgeting, sorting out shopping which will include a lot of things for my diet, as in decent food not trash. I am dusting the dreaded shred off once more and will be upping my exercise..so if you hear a loud thud in Lancashire, that will be dropping from exhaustion..but feeling ever so virtuous:D:rotfl:

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