Please give me a hug - am having a crap time....

D&DD

Although I don't have any advice to offer just wanted to send you a huge hug for all you and the kids are going through at the moment.:grouphug: Hope things get better for you soon XX

Mike_St_Helens

Oh !!!!!!.... Please please do not let this person banck into your life evre ever ever again.....

I hope you are OK. You have great parents BTW ! Love them and your kids well...

MIke

lady_noluck

:grouphug: J, I'm sending you the biggest virtual hug I can. You're in an waful situation but with the love and support of your family and friends you will get through it. I've been in the same situation and it's extremely hard to walk away but it has to be done. Please don't ever go back to him even if he promises to change. The fear of him being his old self will always be there. As it says in the book i'm reading, relationships are like china. You can glue the broken pieces back together but there'll always be cracks. (It's called "it's called a breakup because it's broken" A great book for anyone who's finishing a relationship for whatever reason)

If he threatens suicide again, ignore him. He's only using it as emotional blackmail because he knows it works. If he does try it it's not your fault. He's a bully. Let him get on with it. (I don't mean to sound harsh but chances are he'll threaten it, maybe even dabble in it to scare you but he most probably would never go through with it)

I hope you can feel some security and hapiness at your parents over xmas. Things will get better and like wilf55 and ginger have said, if you wanna chat any time just pm me. We're here for you hun :grouphug:

Red_Fraggle_3

Having been thru it - be strong you have good surpport good luck :-)

Dumyat

my goodness. how awful. please take care of yourself and your children. sounds like you have supportive parents.

leebarton

Things are really difficult at the moment, but it will get better. A new year is just round the corner complete with a new start for you.

Big hugs - take care of yourself.

thriftyjo

:grouphug: Hugs for you and kids. :A and an angel to give you strength. I think to put up with everything you have been quite a strong person - remember that because you need to keep strong now. Keep in touch with the police - make sure you get a restraining order and it may be worth only allowing him supervised visits to the children as he sounds very unstable.

I'm sure your children will have a great christmas staying with your parents. They get to be spoilt and you get the additional support and love you need. Stay strong and keep positive for 2007. :A

I'm not sure how long it will take your rabbit to get over the trauma of the police dogs though!

wannabedebtfree_2

You are very lucky to have such great friends and parents, so many people find themselves in your situation without a support network, so although its hard right now, look on the bright side.....

He is out of your life now, and hopefully will be (apart from seeing the kids) please do not take him back, regardless of idle suicide threats, if he wanted to die he could have done something a bit worse than take some antibiotics, surely all that will do is make him immune to any bugs he might come across for a while!!

He quite clearly has some deep issues, and you and your kids shouldn't have to suffer, my mom was in a violent relationship for 6 years and went back to him several times, he would be incredibly sorry for what he had done, and was the nicest bloke you could wish for, until his dinner was on the plate wrong, or his coffee hadn't been stirred correctly - it was completely random, you could never tell when he would blow, and he couldn't even use drink as an excuse - he was just a nasty piece of work.

This may have been the first time he has been physically violent towards you, but after living in fear of my mom getting hurt for 6 years of my life (aged 5-11) I know that it screws with kids minds, to be hurt by someone you are relationship with is hard, but once should be the only time, dont allow yourself to become a statistic of repeated domestic violence.

Your daughter will love any presents you get her, and hopefully the bike and scooter will turn up, along with your car, the main point is that you are safe, and you clearly have neighbours who will be keeping an eye on your house.

(((((HUGS))))))

pipkin71

Hi jpet77

Sending you big hugs during this difficult period.

I guess it's hard right now to make a firm decision as everything is so raw, but you will make the best decision for you and your family, however hard that may seem.

1998 was the year I finally decided enough was enough, and despite the fact DD1 was a baby and I was carrying DD2, I haven't looked back.

Your parents / friends sound very supportive, and I wish you well for 2007.

God bless
Pipkin xxx

chevalier

I am really sorry that you have had all this happen to you just before Christmas. But it would have hardly been a happy one even if you had all been living in the same house.

One very practical thing, if you have a joint account, make sure that you take out your half of the money (or whatever proportion is appropriate compared to what you put in). When one of my sisters broke up with her OH, he smilingly promised not to do anything until Monday la la la, and then emptied the account of several thousand pounds!:eek:

Do not give in to his bullying, remember your children will be absorbing your reactions like sponges, and the last thing you want them to believe is that it is ok to be bullied, or hurt.

Big hugs from me too, remember this is the beginning of a new journey as well as the end of the old one
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