Buffy and the H fund..............

youareallhelpingme

My mother in law has always said that the first £1000 is the hardest, so thats that bit sorted .

scaredy_cat

remember - look after the pennies! they will turn into £££££££s!!!!!

Buffythedebtslayer

So it is the first of July, well for another ten minutes.

its about 30 days till I go on holiday. Sadly I am not going to lose my weight before I go! but I do have some clothes I can wear and I will be doing the Shred from tomorrow.

I am so sleepy, I wanted to type some more but have been distracted by my 101 list, e bay and FB chat..................

plans for July

1. file/shred paperwork
2. file work stuff.
3. finish my bit of the garden.
4. get up to date with the marking
5. look after the Guinea pigs better..............

snooze.......................................xxxxx

chevalier

good luck with your list . i should start the lists too. i am finally over this silly cold so will start shred from monday GULP chev

Buffythedebtslayer

I did Shred this morning, ouch. I didn't on wed, thursday or Friday, too tired/stressed.

However today I am feeling kinda light and happy which is you know weird! I have many plans for today and am hoping to get on with them once I have spoken to my friend about the holiday. Am getting nervous about it now, feeling fat and unsure - me on a beach holiday? but also part of me is so looking forward to nothing to do it will be so strange, I can read books and sleep...............that is honestly all I want to do. oo and swim a bit.

SO back in the real world, I have signed up for make £10 a day thread (spending money for holiday) and joined a weight loss challenge. I am typing here cos I am waiting for some oil to soak into my toe nails so I can paint them and then have a body scrub and deep condition(doing a bit of Goddessing a la Shoe Gal!). Tempted to get Mum to trim my hair although truthfully it needs a proper cut.......am so tight!

I must investigate the gym at the bottom of the road too, yawns...........but again am too tight to pay fees, however I am sure they do a month at a time plan

oops phone call xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Ok, spoke to my friend for about an hour. Feel crappy now and slightly worried about impending holiday.

She is a good friend, funny interesting, wise but she does like to over analyse things and I sort of don't - least not in conversation, writing here, absolutely and it has helped a lot but regarding work I do tend to think so and so is a A hole and move on. Over the years we have had two notable disagreements over our views of two people, one I thought was an alcoholic and another one I considered to be a manipulative liar. She viewed the first one as "having issues" and the second one has having a mental health problem. And remained friends with them both whereas I didn't( Although Me and my friend fell out quite badly over the Alcoholic, I suggested perhaps it would better for us not to drink so much when out with her(she who was drinking a bottle of whiskey pre pub and post pub and we found having sex with a man she didn't know in a club car park) and she had a go and I left the pub never to speak to her for 2 years (despite working in the same place) . She always wants to see the good in people and I sort of feel - horrrible and cynical as it sounds I am past that. I think comes down to she wants to fix people and I just think get the !!!! on with it. I think I am friendly and cheerful at work (really I am, well some of the time, not lately but then it hasn't been appropriate with people losing their jobs) and give everyone a chance but if I think you are a prat I try not to speak to you, work with you fine, socialise with you no.

anyhow I am just worried about how to get on with her on holiday...........any hints?

xxx

Lula-Hula

Hi Buffy,

Wow on saving £1,000 your first month after being DF :T.

I can imagine your angst on holidaying with a friend who has different opinions from yours. Are you going away to be with her, or are you going away on holiday & she is a companion ?

I'm sure we all have friends we love to socialise with but who we would dread to holiday or live with. I think your attitude to people you don't particularly like is both honest & healthy. I had a boozy friend who frankly, was an embarassment after a few drinks. It took ages for me to wean myself off her because we had so many other things in common.

Have you discussed holiday plans with your friend ? Do you intend on being together the whole time or will you be free to do your own thing ?

Make sure you get what you want out of your holiday, you have paid for & earned it

Don't spend money on a gym unless you know that you will use it. Just walking, riding a bike, doing an exercise DVD or swimming can help you keep fit.

Buffythedebtslayer

As I said I am too tight to pay the fees but wanted to go swimming there and need to work out if it will be cheaper to pay the monthly thing (no contract) or just pay as I go.

Its ridiculous but that bloody phone call has completely sodded up my day. I know I shouldn't let it but I am angry that work once again is seeping in everywhere. I had felt better after the big meeting during the week, we can move on now there is no more we can do. I had a big clear out Friday and decided it would be a new start.Then I had to speak to her, she wouldn't let me finish or start even. toxic toxic toxic. we have to see the good side, there are reasons sometimes its better not to know the truth and then in the next breath saying the complete opposite. Honestly I don't know which version irritated me more! It is what is it, what is done is done and any other cliches you can think up to say MOVE ON. I don't want to be stuck on holiday listening to her droning on and on about work.......................................GAH!


I have to go out and buy friend's birthday present, - different friend, good friend who I am seeing tonight.

youareallhelpingme

Go on holiday, find some fun people and meet her on the bus on the way back to the airport . If she starts going on about school, tell her to shut up, work is banned!

Buffythedebtslayer

Yeah, I do love her and yesterday as a fellow single girl she was very handy for the pre BBQ full of couples pep talk, hopefully by the time the holiday comes it will be ok, I shall take lots of books and no expectations good or bad.

I am generally feeling positive today. I have Shredded today and yesterday and am going for a bike ride later. As much as I hate exercise does make me feel better.

I have been sorting my 101 list and think everyone should have one

http://dayzeroproject.com/

also I love

http://www.futureme.org/

I have got a few e mails from the past, VERY motivating!

ok, as per usual I have to go!

wish me luck on the bike ride, I haven't ridden one in about twenty years!!

xxx