MSE Pregnancy Club 22

alison2020

Gilly I deliberately avoided babyGap as i knew i'd only spend too much money there!
Other Gap was really messy but they had a great selection of maternity stuff in the sale. Quite a lot of summer clothes too. I got a thin knitted hoody for £7, another knitted cardie for £10 and a long sleeved long stripey top for £5. All were nearly £30 each to start with. Don't think they'll be selling out of the size 2 and 4 stuff in a hurry. I haven't seen many skinny mums-to-be around Belfast :-)

jcr16

afternoon all, not much to say from me. pains getting easier.

Clarieloo

Jrc that is not even remotely funny what your FIL said - I don't blame you for being upset <<<HUGS>>>. I suppose if you know that's what he's like though you probably just have to realise he's the one with the problem and move on - easier said than done I know. I would have been very upset too.

On another note, I need urgent help this afternoon guys. As I mentioned, the other day I have been offered a new job within my existing company. HR have just contacted me to ask what my anticipated return to work date is so they can draw up the letter confirming the position. I have an idea of when I will be going back but I didn't know if I needed to tell work now or not. To be fair she has asked for the anticipated date so I suppose I could give her this but its still my right to change it later on if I want to? Any advice - I need to respond this afternoon.

Cheers

Lirin

jcr- it isn't funny, but he's maybe trying to be. My parents are great, so is MIL, FIL is such a nice man, but so very reserved, and has the same problem as I do- jokes don't sound like jokes, they just come out wrong. It's possible he meant absolutely no offense- just a ill-delivered attempt at a joke?

I was asking my sisters what all I need for the first few weeks- so I can start getting organised. They just kept telling me not to worry, they'd lend me everything, or give me everything..... That's fine, but I'd like a list just of what I need, there's a few cute things in shops near me (must be nesting instinct starting, I'm definitely not a shopper.).... I can't really force an answer as they're both being kind enough to pass stuff on, so will have to wait til I go to my hometown some weekend and see what they have. Don't want to buy something in case it's something they're passing on, so I suppose I'm saving money.

Feel really rotten now- really sore throat and headache, and just want to curl up and go to sleep against DH.... only a few hours to go......

alison2020

jcr16 wrote: »

Sorry to vent, i'm so drained from crying, and i know i prob need to get a grip and forget it. but it so hard,when your always waiting and dreading what gonna get said next.

Poor JCR! I can just hear some old git telling that joke, and only he thinking it's funny. Your hubby is just so used to the crap insensitive jokes that of course he can forget it quicker that you. Unfortunately you can't change your FIL's sense of humour or forget how it makes you feel.
Your hubby is there to support you. Get him to tell his Dad how upset you are by these 'jokes' or 'jibes'. I know you don't want him to be piggy-in-the-middle, but you can't do nothing either. Don't let him ruin the party for you! I know it's so easy to say, and a world apart to do, but try and keep focused on the positive things around you (having wonderful kids etc) and block this guy out or your mind.
How about sending hubby and kids to his parents on their own and you stay home or go elsewhere? That's what i do 75% of the time. My in-laws aren't that bad but i make every excuse going to avoid frequent visits. The 'I get car-sick' one has worked well for me the last 5 months They aren't your parents so why would you want to visit them? let him and the kids go themselves and treat yourself to some 'me' time. *hug*

pigpen

Jcr... I am sure this one will look just like your others and be just scrumptious (though my ex-sil is pg and hers will be the ugliest child ever.. it doesn't stand a chance) I'd have said to him.. so you think the other children are ugly then? or that it probably wouldn't be ugly as it wouldn't look like him! I think you need to stop biting your tongue and trying to keep the peace... Maybe he was implying ALL newborns are 'ugly' meaning they are a bit squished and squashy.. either way it upset you and either you or hubby should make him aware of that.. you can't be getting all upset at this stage (says me who woke up this morning.. OH touched me and I burst into tears )

I have shifted 2 boxes of books, a bedside cabinet full of books and a chest full of fabric from the girls room so far today... only another 18 boxes to move.. 5 chests of drawers.. and a wardrobe... before Monday :eek: I almost ruptured my usher moving the bedside cabinet it weighs a tonne!

Squeak in bed squawking so Im off for food.. the baby wants noodles and chicken it said!

alison2020

Clarieloo wrote: »

On another note, I need urgent help this afternoon guys. As I mentioned, the other day I have been offered a new job within my existing company. HR have just contacted me to ask what my anticipated return to work date is so they can draw up the letter confirming the position. I have an idea of when I will be going back but I didn't know if I needed to tell work now or not. To be fair she has asked for the anticipated date so I suppose I could give her this but its still my right to change it later on if I want to? Any advice - I need to respond this afternoon.

Cheers

Most maternity leave defaults to 12 months (your max entitlement) and you can return as early as you want, as long as you give sufficient notice. So tell them 12 months and ask them how much notice they will need from you if you choose to return earlier. (It's usually 8 weeks)

delain

Baby wanted pancakes in my house :rotfl:

Winnie_in_Pooh

Claireloo - there is some really helpful info on www.directgov.uk about returning from maternity leave, might be worth a read?

JCR - hugs hun xxx

Pigpen - you are so productive!!! I thought I'd done well by cleaning the bathroom and kitchen and filling a binbag to fling but you've put me to shame!

ddebski_us

pigpen wrote: »

Jcr... Maybe he was implying ALL newborns are 'ugly' meaning they are a bit squished and squashy..

A lot of men think this... DH used to say the same until we fell.

It's the sort of thing my Dad would said too, more of a "tease" at me than the baby - it's the way my Dad is.

I'm sure it wasn't meant to upset you - just an off the cuff remark. If he knew you'd taken it to heart, I'm sure he'd be gutted.

xDx