MSE Pregnancy Club 22

delain

pigpen wrote: »

but it needs to sit on both sides of the bath? like a shelf?

See the second pic is has the grey doobobs underneath... they are pressure fixings like a safety gate so you can use it even if the bath is against a wall like mine. They go on the inside of the bath and you tighten them against the sides.

I'm not doing a very good job of explaining am I.

Yes it is sort of like a shelf.

If it helps I can go and take some pics of mine

ETA I don't think I've ever managed to drown the floor.

I didn't think about the bath being too tall, my fault, my bath is I think at my knees ish.

pigpen

Ive googled pic.. it wouldnt work with how the bath is and I dont think it woud work either.. You surely still need to get up there and get feet in the bath?

It sounds like I am making excuses now.. sorry.. I do appreciate it..

delain

I didn't have a problem with getting up on it but then I think my bath is lower, all I did was sit on it on the side of the bath, push myself back and lift the misbehaving leg into the bath, when the leg wasn;t totally dead I could sort of swivel into place. I can see it wouldn't be ideal though if you needed to climb onto it to start with. Sorry I am a bit brain dead today.

The size range you get in baths is bizarre, I used to live in a flat that had a massive bathroom, and a bath that was designed for hobbits. Honestly I could barely fit my legs in, much less lie down!

pigpen

I would need a couple of steps up to the bath to be able to sit on it.. thank you though... I do appreciate your help.. I looked into loads of tuff like thiswhen having pest and found nothing that would fit on the darn bath.. I need some steps for the girls too which OT were supposed to be providing but we havent managed an appointment despite a 2 year wait.. grrr..... I am unable to bath or shower them at the moment either as they need help getting in and out of the bath and OH simply wont help.. they arent his girls and he feels it is in appropriate to be seeing them naked.. you know what KHs are like he would probably be reporting us to SS if he helped.. it is so terrible things as simple as OH being needed to help would set KH off in such a manner but I am not risking it.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Well worth a read (Funny as hell!)

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/apr/23/sex-education-julia-sweeney

alison2020

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

Well worth a read (Funny as hell!)

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/apr/23/sex-education-julia-sweeney

Hilarious Mimi!!!!

My 4 year old is more interested in how babies come out. I've gone with the 'i go into hospital and the doctors take the baby out'. she asks, how? and i tell her she will learn all that when she goes to school

Anyone got any good answers for the 'how does baby come out' question?

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

alison2020 wrote: »

Hilarious Mimi!!!!

My 4 year old is more interested in how babies come out. I've gone with the 'i go into hospital and the doctors take the baby out'. she asks, how? and i tell her she will learn all that when she goes to school

Anyone got any good answers for the 'how does baby come out' question?

My DD is nearly 4. She’s pretty practical minded. I told her I had a baby in my belly and that OH put it there. She didn’t ask how or why at the time. I told her Santa was bringing the baby (am due boxing day) her first response was “well will he forget my presents?” – “no sweetie, he not” lol DD told my mum that I was going to have the baby in the hospital and that “Santa is going to cut it out of Mummy’s belly” she also told us it was a girl at the beginning of the pregnancy, if anyone suggested it was a boy she would argue with them, turns out – she was right about the girl! (If I have to have a c sec – I’m blaming DD!!) She saw a stork on one of my books and asked what it was, I mentioned something along the lines of “it carries the baby” (Wasn’t thinking what I was saying) – DD now insists that the stork takes away all the babies that people don’t want (In our instance, DD didn’t want a brother so if it was a boy the stork was coming for it!)

I’d go with simple – just say it comes out of your belly. If asked how, you could mention boys and girls have different parts (I did this with DD) – Like how mummy has long hair and daddy doesn’t, mummy has boobies and daddy doesn’t, mummy can have a baby in her belly but daddy cant, because mummy and daddy’s are different mummy is able to have a baby and daddy cant. I wouldn’t go into the whole “out of my vagina dear” JUST quite yet!

The best convo i had was with DD about feeding. She insisted i needed bottles – I explained mummy had special milk in her boobies and that the baby would get food from there. She seemed happy enough. Until I saw my mum, who explained DD went to her house one day and in front of a room full of relatives declared (with a disgusted tone) “nana! Do you know that my mummy is giving that baby milk from her boobies!!!!” (Que embarrassed mum!) “Why doesn’t she just bring it round here?” mum being puzzled asked “but why would mummy do that?” DD: “Well, you’ve always got milk in the fridge!!!”

ARGH!!!!

hngrymummy

jenjade wrote: »

thats for the advice re the risk assessments the problem is my manager wrote them with me and it is her that is ignoring them. i said to her the risk assessment says i cant work with violet or unpredictable people therefore i couldnt do that group her responce was if anything kicks off go to the office. The issue is that we are really short staffed. i am the only on there at the moment a new member should be starting in Sept so i just want it to be sept already!

i will tell her my concerns today about having to do the group in the woods and will let you know what she says!

You have a risk assessment telling you not to do certain things. If you knowingly do them then your company could argue that the responsibility for anything that goes wrong falls with you. You MUST abide by the risk assessment for your baby's safety. Do you have a union rep? if you do, go and see them. If not, put everything in writing and explain exactly why you won't be doing certain things, then send it to your manager. Please do not do anything that you are uncomfortable with, just because your company is short-staffed. That is their problem not yours.

Lirin

DSD raised this with me. Mind you, she's 11. I just explained it to her, fairly matter-of-fact. She knows where it comes out, how it got there (not to much detail on that part), and is fairly satisfied. She's an intelligent girl, and I wouldn't insult her by telling her a story. She's been fairly aware of basics of the facts of life anyway since she discovered her pet Lab going through it's first heat..... Her solution then was to try stuff it with chocolate, and that led onto a whole new conversation (Chocolate=poison for doggies, DSD!)....
At 4, I suppose I may just have told her that mummies and daddies love eachother and decide to make a baby, and it comes out mummies legs when it's ready.

Discovered with other areas of interest that whatever I tell DSD should at least have some resemblance to the actual event, otherwise there's an awkward moment somewhere in the future!

Might give the midwife a ring. I've had a constant nosebleed for three days- not as dramatic as it sounds! It's not actively dripping, sorry if TMI, but continually blocking and when I blow, it's all blood. I've had nosebleeds for a while now, but this one's lasting a tad long.... I'm in with her in a week, I'll survive likely until then.

pigpen

I told mine it comes out of my moo (generic terms for girly bits) they have never asked any further detail.. they were quite happy though completely grossed by that idea.