Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

eleanor73

daisiegg wrote: »

I keep saying little comments like "I'm looking forward to it" and "I'm really excited" and last night he turned to me and said very seriously "Don't get too excited - it's really nothing special". I just knew from the look he was giving me was that that was code for "No, I'm not going to propose when we're away" - he wouldn't want me to get my hopes up and be disappointed. Boo

Or could it be code for 'shut up and don't spoil things' or 'shut up-I don't want you to expect it as I want it to be a surprise'?? You never know. I know it might look like getting peoples hopes up but surely if there's one thing this thread has to have is hope?!

Thanks for the good wishes. I hope your Feb gets better Daisie. Mine is a stark difference to Vile January (I have named it this) and hopefully April will be even more different! Here's hoping:)

daisiegg

Maybe...but he has done this before, he really hates the idea of me expecting something and then being disappointed...a few weeks before Christmas he said "I feel bad because you're not going to get what you want for Christmas". At the time I wasn't totally sure what he meant but when we discussed proposals on NYE, he told me he had indeed meant an engagement ring so I think this is a similar thing. At least I should be thankful I know not to get my hopes up!

jtr2803

eleanor73 wrote: »

Or could it be code for 'shut up and don't spoil things' or 'shut up-I don't want you to expect it as I want it to be a surprise'?? You never know. I know it might look like getting peoples hopes up but surely if there's one thing this thread has to have is hope?!

Thanks for the good wishes. I hope your Feb gets better Daisie. Mine is a stark difference to Vile January (I have named it this) and hopefully April will be even more different! Here's hoping:)

I thought this too! Especially as he hasn't done anything like this before! I think I would have a shock heart attack is my OH even took me out for a surprise dinner, I do ALL the organising in our relationship.

PS - I found a dress on Ebay that I have slightly fallen in love with and it is taking all my energy to resist pressing that 'buy it now' button :rotfl:

nykied

daisiegg wrote: »

So sorry about posting my posts in weird little fragmented sections - my laptop is an idiot and will only let me post a few lines at a time! no idea why!

Your laptop has been Twitter-fied

daisiegg

jtr - link?! I was looking at wedding dresses online last night....soooo naughty.

AllyS

eleanor73 wrote: »

In regards to me he came back from his weekend and brought pressies and kept giving me hugs and apologised for us having the worst, most rubbish January ever and said 'we will have a brilliant year'. I felt like saying-'we'll only have a brilliant year if I get a flippin ring on my finger' but obvs I didn't. So things are good again and hopefully it will stay like that.

Awww so so sweet

daisiegg wrote: »

As for me, I am feeling slightly disappointed. I may have mentioned that OH has booked for us to go away for a few days over Valentine's Day, and won't tell me where we're going. He has NEVER surprised me like that before - we go away lots and have done lots of romantic trips etc but I am always involved in the planning.

Was going to say why and then I read your next message

daisiegg wrote: »

I keep saying little comments like "I'm looking forward to it" and "I'm really excited" and last night he turned to me and said very seriously "Don't get too excited - it's really nothing special". I just knew from the look he was giving me was that that was code for "No, I'm not going to propose when we're away" - he wouldn't want me to get my hopes up and be disappointed. Boo

Not wanting to get your hopes up, but are you sure he is not knocking you off the scent

jtr2803

daisiegg wrote: »

jtr - link?! I was looking at wedding dresses online last night....soooo naughty.

Just posted in the 2013 brides thread , I kinda work in between the two!

AllyS

jtr2803 wrote: »

Just posted in the 2013 brides thread , I kinda work in between the two!

Oooooooo very pretty

eleanor73

jtr2803 wrote: »

Just posted in the 2013 brides thread , I kinda work in between the two!

It's lovely. Hopefully you'll be able to press 'buy' soon!!

verandi

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Well I feel bad at the moment for this reason.... when my OH asked me for ideas, I sent him a pic of my fave ring as an example. The ring costs £350.00 but this is much more than I would actually really want him to spend... I know as rings go, this is not even that expensive but like some of you have already said, I'd be happy with a much cheaper one - it's just the meaning of wearing it than the actual ring itself...

I caught him looking at the jewellery website the other day so i think that when he does get me one it will be the exact one!!
It's not that we cant afford it but still, I just feel bad that he might think I EXPECT him to pay that much.... although I guess deep down I'm secretly thrilled that he would get it for me....

Oooh Squirrels can we see a link to it? Sounds promising for you getting the one you want the most!

Well now you guys are making me feel like a spoilt brat haha cos the rings I like are usually more expensive than that. But it completely depends. If it's a diamond solitaire then I'm 95% sure that I know what shape I want, and what type of band, but I am maybe a bit of a closet snob in terms of the size but also the cut/clarity etc It's something I accidentally (oops) read about last year and got really into it haha, so I'd become obsessed with finding the best spec possible for a certain price whilst also getting the best size and dimension ratio :rotfl: (showing the science geek in me there)... But if it was an antique ring or not a solitaire but something like a sapphire instead you can obviously get more for your money and I've seen some gorgeous rings like this that I'd love and that would cost half of what the solitaire would.

jtr2803 wrote: »

The one I saw and fell is love with is £550, I actually didn't think that was too excessive until I read your post!!!

:rotfl:

Dammit - I was going to post a link to the website but it's undoing maintenance, rahhh :mad:

Post it now! I love seeing what other people like.

daisiegg wrote: »

jtr - link?! I was looking at wedding dresses online last night....soooo naughty.

And *poke* daisiegg, I'm still waiting for you to link to the antique ring you saw the other day that you loved.

daisiegg wrote: »

Eeek, when we're in jewellery shops and I point out rings that cost around £2,000 OH says "that's too cheap for an engagement ring" and points out the more expensive ones! I think if he realised I'd be happy with one that cost £50 from Argos if it meant we were getting married, he'd have done it ages ago!

Blimey, he wants to spend that much! No wonder you are having to wait :rotfl: hehe.

daisiegg wrote: »

Maybe...but he has done this before, he really hates the idea of me expecting something and then being disappointed...a few weeks before Christmas he said "I feel bad because you're not going to get what you want for Christmas". At the time I wasn't totally sure what he meant but when we discussed proposals on NYE, he told me he had indeed meant an engagement ring so I think this is a similar thing. At least I should be thankful I know not to get my hopes up!

It's hard though isn't it, cos even when you know 110% that it's not going to happen, there will STILL be a teeny tiny (or even a not so tiny) part of you that will be hoping. If I could learn to switch that part of me off sometimes it would be a happy day indeed.