Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

AllyS

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

I've been onto the H&M website but it's not on there but I've found some other pics...

Actually made me think that I should start looking a bit closer at dresses in that way - as our wedding would be a very low budget one (clothing & accessory wise) I could do with finding a bargain like that, and you just known I'd never been able to find one when the time came...

Which incidentally may not be long now!!!!!! My OH has noticed my frustrations lately and in bed last night had a little chat with me....
He told me that he will ask me soon :j:j - he just wasnt sure how to do it.
I told him it didnt matter where, I just needed to be asked (first time I've ever actually said that to him!) and he said it was good that he now knew that. He said that he doesnt just want to ask in a way that's not that special but I told him it doesnt need to be over the top, so I think he'll plan a nice meal or a day out or something.... He also asked whether he should buy a ring pr whether or not we should choose together and I said well, the question is more important but I would like to wear a ring once we're engaged. He said I could send him some pictures of some rings that I liked so he had an idea of what to get.... !!! :j:j

I think the thing that clinched it is that we are also trying for a baby (I dont know whether I have alread told you guys that) but I told OH that I didnt really want to have a child until we were married (that wasnt a bribe lol, I really am quite traditional in that way and I know once we have a baby, the wedding will get forgotten about) and as he wants babies really soon (like now..) he knows he better get a move on!!!

I'm just browsing rings now (although I already have one saved in my favourites folder - sad - in case this moment ever came!!) :rotfl:

Awww dress is beautiful. Woohoo great news!! Hope it all happens very soon for you xx

jtr2803 wrote: »

I feel a bit glum today which sucks because I felt like I was doing ok.

I met my best friend last night for dinner and was talking to her about what had been going on and she made me feel like I was ungrateful, that I should be happy just that we were together and that I had someone who loved me. I know she would be mortified if she felt like she had upset me but she asked me why it was so important and why it made a difference and I felt like I couldn't really explain why.

My OH asks me this when I get upset about the whole marriage thing, drives me mad that I can't ever answer it how I want to mainly because I dont really have a reason for actually 'wanting to be married', I just want to spend the rest of my life being his wife.

Hopefully you feel a little brighter today, if not we are here for you xx

rachie_2011 wrote: »

I've been with my OH for 7 years this month, and went through the whole 'when's it going to happen', but to be honest... I've gone off the idea myself now. Other things have come along and it doesn't seem so important at this moment in my life. However, OH did inform me (drunkly) in the early hours of new years day, that if I should ask him (with it being a leap year this year) he'd say yes! ha Erm... no, if you want to marry you can ask me mate!!

I'm sure the urge to want to be Mrs S will come back at some time, but for now we are enjoying life.

This happend to my best friend, she doesn't want to live with her boyfriend either at the moment and they have been together a year longer than me and my OH, I know they love each other, so it is not that they hate the sight of each other already :rotfl: I really hope that it happens to me soon, as I want the feeling to go away, life would be a lot simpler.

Hope everyone is ok today xx

jtr2803

Thanks guys. Obviously I don't want to divulge too much about her life but she has a very unusual relationship and set up, they have been together two years and are 'not trying but no preventing' for a baby and they are setting up a business together so she has commitment in many other ways. I felt like she was suggesting it was the wedding day I wanted rather than the marriage which is really untrue. I think she desperately wanted marriage and children by the time she was 30 and when that didn't happen she almost went off the ideas. I guess it just proves how different we all are.

I just came away questioning myself and my reasoning and feeling like I was being unfair or childish .

eleanor73

jtr2803 wrote: »

I just came away questioning myself and my reasoning and feeling like I was being unfair or childish .

If we want something so wonderful and traditional how or why could that possibly be wrong??? Some people have a different view but fundamentally I just feel I'm pretty great and my partner should snap me up!! It's hardwired in my DNA too-my Mum and Dad have been married for nearly 40 years and I appreciate marriage. They are constantly working on it but that level of bond and trust and companionship is what I aspire to.

minerva_windsong

eleanor73 wrote: »

If we want something so wonderful and traditional how or why could that possibly be wrong??? Some people have a different view but fundamentally I just feel I'm pretty great and my partner should snap me up!! It's hardwired in my DNA too-my Mum and Dad have been married for nearly 40 years and I appreciate marriage. They are constantly working on it but that level of bond and trust and companionship is what I aspire to.

This is very similar to how I feel - my parents will have been married for 37 years in April and although they do have petty arguments about things there's always that love and affection underlying it all which keeps them together. I do wonder sometimes if the fact they've had such a long and happy marriage has had an impact on my own desire to get married, or if the fact my OH's parents had a fairly acrimonious divorce when he was a teenager is influencing his views on it...

eleanor73

minerva_windsong wrote: »

This is very similar to how I feel - my parents will have been married for 37 years in April and although they do have petty arguments about things there's always that love and affection underlying it all which keeps them together. I do wonder sometimes if the fact they've had such a long and happy marriage has had an impact on my own desire to get married, or if the fact my OH's parents had a fairly acrimonious divorce when he was a teenager is influencing his views on it...

My boyfriend's parents have an apparently even more solid marriage than my parents but I just don't think he compares himself to them or even analyses it. I still think he is more likely to compare himself to his older brother who is very single, living in Denmark and earning mega-bucks and he strives to be more like that (not nec single but successful). My fella just hasn't grown up yet! Well time will tell (3 months to be exact).

verandi

I think I'm losing my marbles

squ1rrel5

Aww what's up?

AllyS

You ok? Xx

verandi

Argh just another sleepless night with lots of over thinking things! It's difficult for me to post on here properly at the moment as me and OH are both off uni for exams meaning its hard to find time when he won't see! But I read this every day from my phone. Will try to reply properly this evening so I can congratulate everybody properly x

jtr2803

oh bless you . It's so easy to get yourself worked up and for things to play on your mind, I'm still guilty of that myself!

Sending hugs (((xxx)))