Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

wanchai_2

Massive congrats jtr!!!!!! Whooooop! :beer:

I am so chuffed for you petal.

Hugs to everyone else. Our NYE plans have gone awry but we're just going to have a quiet one in the house. Happy New Year ladies xxx

butterfly2001

congratulations

may this new year be full of many blessings for you

jtr2803

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Aggggghhhhhh :eek: I'm going to be the only one left on this thread soon!!!!! :rotfl:

Seriously though, that is FAB news - so happy for you - you can totally set your mind at rest....and spend the whole of 2012 making those plans!!! YAY :j:j:T:T

Great way to start 2012 - will you go out and choose a ring together or are you not too bothered about that?

Well done for bringing up the subject - I'd have to get a drink down me first!! Might have to take a leaf out of your book sometime in the New Year!!

Hope everyone has a great New Years Eve tonight - we are not doing anything special - no friends involved now, just us but I'm not expecting anything.... just going to get a takeaway, open a bottle of bubble and probably fall asleep before midnight!!

Perhaps there'll be others coming on this thread tomorrow with some good news! Fingers crossed!! :rotfl:

Thank you all, especially Squirrels & AllyS because I know how hard it can be to congratulate someone else when you wish it could have been you . I really think I would have waited forever if I hadn't plucked up the courage yesterday, it stressed me out so much I broke out in a cold sweat .

I hadn't really thought about the ring situation really, I am not hugely fussed by it, I would like to be able to 'announce' it but I asked OH if I needed to wait for him to ask me properly and he said yes so am a bit in limbo at the moment. I will tell my mum today when I go over for dinner but obviously I'd like to shout it from the rooftops so bit annoying that I can't. Suppose I should let him have his moment of glory though and know I can't have it all my own way. I think there is a bit of male pride in the way and he feels like he should do it 'properly' so I will have to wait for him to get his !!!! in gear!

Feels weird to think that it will be next year though. I just hope OH doesn't falter on asking properly as realistically it's only 14 months away (reality check - yikes!) and I don't want everything to be a last minute rush and I would really like 1/3/13 so need to find somewhere with that date available although I am hoping that as it's a Friday in 'low' season that it won't be too hard.

I have no intention of ever properly graduating from this thread though, everyone has been so kind to me and understanding and I will stay until every last one of you have graduated . I really can't wait for it to be someone elses turn :beer:

findingmyownway

JTR - congratulations, thats fantastic news!

I agree that you probably need to let him have his moment of glory before annoncing it to the rest of the 'real' world though. Just gently remind him that 14 months isnt that long, wedding dresses take 9 months to make etc etc and hope he doesn't make you wait too long!!

Congrats again:j

findingmyownway

In other news... I have gone from wondering when we'll get engaged, to officialy engaged and now its 2012 I can say I am getting married "this year" ! All in the space of about 2 months so things do move quickly once the brakes are taken off!!

AllyS

jtr2803 wrote: »

Thank you all, especially Squirrels & AllyS because I know how hard it can be to congratulate someone else when you wish it could have been you . I really think I would have waited forever if I hadn't plucked up the courage yesterday, it stressed me out so much I broke out in a cold sweat .

I hadn't really thought about the ring situation really, I am not hugely fussed by it, I would like to be able to 'announce' it but I asked OH if I needed to wait for him to ask me properly and he said yes so am a bit in limbo at the moment. I will tell my mum today when I go over for dinner but obviously I'd like to shout it from the rooftops so bit annoying that I can't. Suppose I should let him have his moment of glory though and know I can't have it all my own way. I think there is a bit of male pride in the way and he feels like he should do it 'properly' so I will have to wait for him to get his !!!! in gear!

Feels weird to think that it will be next year though. I just hope OH doesn't falter on asking properly as realistically it's only 14 months away (reality check - yikes!) and I don't want everything to be a last minute rush and I would really like 1/3/13 so need to find somewhere with that date available although I am hoping that as it's a Friday in 'low' season that it won't be too hard.

I have no intention of ever properly graduating from this thread though, everyone has been so kind to me and understanding and I will stay until every last one of you have graduated . I really can't wait for it to be someone elses turn :beer:

Awww chick you are so lovely, please do not worry I really am happy for you.

I think you should look into venue's asap and then say to OH that you have to book it or else you wont get the date that you would really like, I am sure that he is already on to the official planning of engagement tho and just keeping it as a surprise

Yesterday was a funny old day for me, I asked OH if that if I officially proposed to him what would he say and he said he would find it really strange and a bit weird :mad: he said that it is something that he really really wants to do. I am just going to have to be patient, I know it sounds daft but I really liked the idea of 12/12/12 wedding date, but that is looking very unlikely now! Then whilst we were eating last night, my DS said to OH please marry my Mum I really want you to get married, I know! propose to her at midnight! OH nicely explained that he would not propose on a memorable date and then I said, please can we change the subject. I really didn't want to get tearful, make OH feel guilty and then ruin the evening.

Anyway I am rambling now, I really can't wait to hear your wedding plans JTR - any ideas what type of wedding yet?

minerva_windsong

Congratulations JTR! So chuffed for you. And March is a very good month to get married - my sister's wedding anniversary is 5th March

We had friends over last night and got the usual jokes about when we were going to get married, including one suggestion if my OH was waiting for me to ask on the 29th February. He did say it'll happen but didn't give any hints other than that, which I can live with for now.

Just done a quick Facebook check and one girl I randomly knew at school has got engaged, but I don't really talk to her any more so I'm OK with that. That said I'll be seeing the couple I thought might get engaged at Christmas next week and if they're engaged I have a horrible feeling I'll be devastated - it sounds so selfish and childish but it doesn't feel fair when we've been together longer than they have.

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Aggggghhhhhh :eek: I'm going to be the only one left on this thread soon!!!!! :rotfl:

No chance, I suspect I'll be here just as long if not longer by virtue of being one of the youngest on the thread...

Brighton_belle wrote: »

But it doesn't have to be. I always find it sad if people put off marriage because they believe it has to be expensive, perhaps because they have only been to big weddings. Absolutely fine if you choose an expensive wedding (and I am not criticing anyone that makes that choice). But honestly you can have a small simple wedding for £1000,if friends bring food, table decs etc that is still incredibly beautiful and full of emotion and the best day of your life.

I do agree your OH might be worried about that -I was sure that was one of the things stopping my DH from proposing. I had to try and drop hints without seeming like I was dropping hints about small cheap weddings,:D.
Re the logistics - that is a hard one, but I would work on the premise you are just not going to be able to get everyone there. I wonder if looking into a live video link idea to close family far away?

I agree about the cost - it seems to be that a massive expensive wedding has become the norm, and that actually makes me quite sad. Granted a lot of this might be because people want their family and friends around them, which I can totally understand, and then obviously that drives up the cost of things like the venue and food. But equally there are things that you don't necessarily need to have if you don't want them, and ways you can save money by making things yourself, calling in favours from friends etc without the wedding looking 'cheap' (and frankly, anyone who would think that about a wedding they'd been invited to wasn't worth the ink used to write the invite!).

I should point out I don't think there's anything wrong with having an expensive wedding at all - I know that we'll probably have to have one because of the number of people we'd want there so obviously we'd have to find somewhere to hold all those people and feed them - but I don't think that all weddings must be expensive if it's not what the couple want.

AllyS

minerva_windsong wrote: »

I should point out I don't think there's anything wrong with having an expensive wedding at all - I know that we'll probably have to have one because of the number of people we'd want there so obviously we'd have to find somewhere to hold all those people and feed them - but I don't think that all weddings must be expensive if it's not what the couple want.

A marquee reception or picking a day in the week might be your solution to saving money for a big reception, it will be a lovely day when we are all busily organising our weddings

becca0417

Jtr massive congrats!!

spoonymoose

jtr many congratulations! :beer:

Now you can look back at the thread, knowing that it's finally going to happen!

I'm so happy for you, can't wait to hear all the plans