Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

jtr2803

MrsDrink wrote: »

I am totally jealous jtr that you got the underwater photography course for Christmas!!

Thanks MrsD! I am super excited about it, I really wanted to be a Marine Biologist when I 'grew up' but I was really badly bullied at school so left as soon as I could and it all just went wrong. I learn't do dive last year and started taking pictures straight away. The lady who is teaching us has won lots of awards for her work and I think at last count, 8 of her students have won awards too. It's an ambition of mine to have a photo published so hopefully this will be a step in the right direction

I've been very naughty and spent around £1,000 on diving and photogrpahy kit in the last week *gulp*, Merry Christmas to me! :rotfl:

I didn't realise you were into the underwater world too?

MrsDrink

We learnt to dive in October - in preparation for our honeymoon - a week of diving at Sharm El Sheik. I cannot wait!! Would really like to go somewhere over the Easter weekend, but with the wedding I'm outta luck there (ha!) I want to do the underwater photograph course too so I am totally jealous. For Christmas I was spoilt and was given some dive boots and a suunto vyper - am sooo pleased!! Now all I 'need' is my own BCD and regs and I'm away lol. (Okay I know I know I don't 'need' them I can hire them but then where's the fun in that.) We have only done the one dive after our PADI course - swam with some turtles - absolutely loved it!!

jtr2803

MrsDrink wrote: »

We learnt to dive in October - in preparation for our honeymoon - a week of diving at Sharm El Sheik. I cannot wait!! Would really like to go somewhere over the Easter weekend, but with the wedding I'm outta luck there (ha!) I want to do the underwater photograph course too so I am totally jealous. For Christmas I was spoilt and was given some dive boots and a suunto vyper - am sooo pleased!! Now all I 'need' is my own BCD and regs and I'm away lol. (Okay I know I know I don't 'need' them I can hire them but then where's the fun in that.) We have only done the one dive after our PADI course - swam with some turtles - absolutely loved it!!

I learnt to dive in Dahab! I wish my OH dived too but he has a bit of a water phobia so no luck there. Am jealous of the Vyper, a computer is the last thing I need. I bought a Cressi Flex travel BCD today and a set of Scubapro Regs with a Subgear 2 gauge console for a total of £404 so I was dead chuffed with that. I figured that between hiring kit for the photography course and diving on the two holidays I would be spending upwards of £200 so this will save me money in the long term and it will be nice to have my own kit. I have booked a pool dive for the 5th of feb so I can try out my new camera too . The honeymoon sounds fab, Sharm is a great place to dive with lots of easy sites for beginners. I dived a national park called Gabr El Bint when we went to Egypt and it's the closest thing to the Maldives I've seen so far but it might be a little far from Sharm.

You are welcome to have links to my fishy pics from the Maldives if you would like them?

MrsDrink

Lol I don't know if I want to see them or whether that would just be cruel as July seems so far off (when we next go diving). The advantage of your OH not diving is the cost lol. Everything we spend is doubled because we both want/need it lol. Absolutely agree about the long term savings of having your own equipment. The next Saturday MrD is free we're going to join the local PADI centre with a pool session - I want to play with all my new stuff. I did spend Christmas morning walking around the house in my cressi boots lol.

squ1rrel5

I did a diving lesson about 10 years ago when I was in Turkey and absolutely hated it - I love all the photos and stuff that get taken so will look out for yours once they're done but just wouldnt want to do it myself!!

I've been having a right think today but not sure if its not done myself any good!
I confided in one of my friends the other day about my current feelings about waiting for OH to propose - she is a few years older than me and has gone through quite a lot of similar stuff in her life to me so we have always been pretty close.
She actually proposed to her OH (albeit on a drunken night out) but they got married about a year later and have since been happily married for about 10 years or so...
I told her that I expect it soonish but she pretty much said that I just just blummin well do it myself - I said that I had been thinking about 29th Feb but she reckons I should just do it whenever I feel like it, as it obviously worked for her!!

Thing is like I said I was originally thinking that if he hadnt asked by Feb I would do it myself on the 29th but thinking about it today, I have decided that I REALLY do not want to do the asking - I dont mind dropping a few hints here and there but I do not want to be the one to pop the question.
I'm all for equality and everything but at the same time, I dont think I could bear the shame of people asking me 'oooh how did he propose' only for me to go 'well actually....it was me'. All of my friends have been proposed to except that particular one and she is much more ballsy than me - I dont think I would ever hear the end of it from anyone and I dont think I could live with that. I know I say I dont care about the situation it happens in but I do care that it has to be him that does it!
Most of my family and friends already know that I'm 'waiting' (why can EVERYONE see it but him!!!!!) but none of them quite know the depth of my frustrations although I imagine they would if they found out I had asked him rather than the other way round...

I'm still looking for those relevant articles to just leave lying around....no such luck yet. My friend who is a wedding photographer has said she'll give me some wedding magazines but I said that would be too obvious!!

I was thinking that my 2012 challenge could be to drop a hint every day of the year until he finally gives in but now I'm just starting to sound like a bunny boiler - I'll be lucky if he's still around come mid January if I do that!! Haha!! :rotfl:

I think one of my main resolutions (I hate that word but itll do for now) for the New Year will be to try and stop thinking about it so much but I'm not sure if I'll ever quite get to that stage until it actually happens!!!

jtr2803

MrsDrink wrote: »

Lol I don't know if I want to see them or whether that would just be cruel as July seems so far off (when we next go diving). The advantage of your OH not diving is the cost lol. Everything we spend is doubled because we both want/need it lol. Absolutely agree about the long term savings of having your own equipment. The next Saturday MrD is free we're going to join the local PADI centre with a pool session - I want to play with all my new stuff. I did spend Christmas morning walking around the house in my cressi boots lol.

The cost element is true but I'd love to be able to go away to Egypt for a week together diving, I try and do mostly shore diving in the Maldives so I'm only away for literally the hours dive and that's it as it's a big unfair to drag him halfway across the world and then let him sit there alone :rotfl:

jtr2803

I feel the same Squirrel! I don't want to propose to him as I proposed to my ex husband on Feb 29th , he actually told me I'd beat him to it by 4 weeks as he was going to do it on my birthday (I was pregnant with DD at the time) and as OH knows how I feel so I am leaving the ball well and truly in his court. Gah, tis hard being a woman eh?

squ1rrel5

Think I'm the same as I never got the proper proposal from my ex hubby. That was just a discussion that I cant even remember properly, we went and bought the ring and then on a weekend away I decided that I should actually start wearing it!!!

OH knows the deal with that too so he knows that I want him to propose and after the whole saga of last month, I honestly thought he'd be doing it sharpish!!

Only thing is is that he has the attention span of a goldfish (unless its to do with cars or computers) so I reckon every time its hinted at he forgets the next day which is why I think he needs to keep having to have reminders!!

I might start a diary in Jan so I can keep track of all the conversations we have about stuff like that so I can look back and see how long it eventually took him!!!! I'm starting to bet on next Christmas now - that way if it happens sooner I wont be disappointed!!!!

AllyS

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

I was thinking that my 2012 challenge could be to drop a hint every day of the year until he finally gives in but now I'm just starting to sound like a bunny boiler - I'll be lucky if he's still around come mid January if I do that!! Haha!! :rotfl:

I think one of my main resolutions (I hate that word but itll do for now) for the New Year will be to try and stop thinking about it so much but I'm not sure if I'll ever quite get to that stage until it actually happens!!!

Don't mention it too much I upset OH by talking about it intentionally ( meant unintentionally )everday, he said I was pressuring him too much and it was putting him off the idea cause I was so obsessed! I have since not mentioned as much, really hard but I am managing it

aylithuk

Finally managed to read all this thread during a slow work day!

This really strikes a cord with me as I have been with my OH for 6 years this pass Nov.

I know he loves me dearly and even after 6 years we're still very much loved up 'touchy feely' and when we have talked about getting married his answer is along this line

Doug Stanhope marriage
http://youtu.be/vXpsT3e8UsM

Now ladies and any guys reading this thread, this comedian is very cutting and makes Frankie Boyle look fluffy. You have been warned but he does make some valued points about marriage (gay, straight or otherwise)

All this aside my OH said he would like to marry me but that as far as we ever really get and it getting to the point i don't think it will ever happen unless I ask him.

Then I started to think would I ask him? Right now No because he's currently unemployed, our family - apart from his mom and dad live all over the world (France, Canada, Oz, Thailand and Germany!) and we don't have a lot of savings

So if I am thinking like that...surely he's thinking the same so I have come to the point of not worrying about it because planning a wedding is costly, a travel nightmare (for us) and we're broke!

Not bad for a day and nights thinking