Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

spoonymoose

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I didn't see you as argueing OP,just raising points. I'm actually very nice and not an arguementative sort either:D .
This is an interesting point re Hollywood. I think it is also in part due to changed societal pressures. Men don't 'have to get married' anymore to get fed and watered:D. I mean, many do still choose marriage, some quicker than others, but there isn't the urgency.

That is a very true point!

I think men have cottoned onto learning how to cook to avoid some things, particularly washing up :rotfl: I hate the "I'll cook, if you wash up" compromise! :rotfl:

I think the whole wedding isn't as important as it once was - back in the day, you'd court each other, get engaged and married within a year and then have children pretty soonist after that. I do think with the whole economic climate, some couples are waiting as they want to save for a house deposit rather than a wedding.

squ1rrel5

nickki44 wrote: »

Having just watched DDTB where he whisked them off to New York, I have to play Devils advocate a little here.... (sorry x)

I know NYC is your dream wedding location, but is it your OH's too?

I know our wedding, to both of us was (after the actual commitment to each other) having as many friends and family as we could to share our moment and our day with us.

Now I know thats not for everyone, and some people prefer no fuss, are you sure that your OH would be as happy as you with this option?

If so - excellent - what a BEAUTIFUL location

If not - what a wonderful location for a propsoal and a lovely story to tell all your guests at your Gretna Green wedding?


Hope this helps - and I hope whatever happens I hope that it all happens for you
xxxx

No I don't know if this would be what he wants to do but I know he's totally for the no guests/abroad/no fuss option so I at least want it to be suggested as an option before We go, if he doesn't fancy it then well keep it as a holiday destination.
Like the proposal, I could get married anywhere (within reason lol) as long as he was there! But obviously wouldn't mind it bring a bit special!!

squ1rrel5

teabythesea wrote: »

It's just I thought this was a wedding thread for wedding planning and advice etc. Not for people who are wanting to one day be engaged.

It's still related to weddings so its still valid. Just because were not lucky enough to have a date set doesn't mean we can't plan for the future or contribute to threads...

Also if its a thread for PLANNING weddings as you say perhaps all the "smug already marrieds" should all b****r off!

Edit: That's not meant to offend anyone on this thread by the way, just adopting my Bridget Jones stance today in sympathy with the previous posts!!

MrsDrink

teabythesea wrote: »

It's just I thought this was a wedding thread for wedding planning and advice etc. Not for people who are wanting to one day be engaged.

How many of us actually wait till they are engaged to start their wedding planning :rotfl: I know I didn't!! From the moment I decided I wanted to be MrD's wife I began to plan our wedding... and I know there will be many girlies on here whose wedding planning started when they were 5 and prancing round their bedroom with pillowcases on their head!

wanchai_2

teabythesea wrote: »

I have read back my post and I should of said, it's not the people themselves that are bizarre. It's just I thought this was a wedding thread for wedding planning and advice etc. Not for people who are wanting to one day be engaged.

That is pretty harsh - and who are you to say who should and shouldn't be on the weddings board?

You're not coming across well here, tbh.

AllyS

wanchai wrote: »

That is pretty harsh - and who are you to say who should and shouldn't be on the weddings board?

You're not coming across well here, tbh.

I agree and no one has to read this thread it makes it very clear what it is about. Anyway I think it is great makes us 'bizarre' people feel not quite so alone.

Also, I have already got lots of ideas from this section found a really cheap marquee hire in my area that I have book marked, that company may never be mentioned again and I saved myself a lot of money! Another point is that I think a lot of us have chatted to our OH about our wedding and have an idea of the general plans for the wedding. We all know we will be married one day, just coming on here is a outlet stops us bugging OH's whilst we wait to set a date. Nothing wrong with that

Chick

teabythesea wrote: »

I have read back my post and I should of said, it's not the people themselves that are bizarre. It's just I thought this was a wedding thread for wedding planning and advice etc. Not for people who are wanting to one day be engaged.

I think if you read the title of the thread then it's crystal clear what the topic of conversation is.

I would also hazard a guess that many women (and maybe men!) are already planning a wedding before the actual engagement happens.

We are all entitled to contribute to this section and it's rather disingenuous that you suggest we are all people who are "wanting to one day be engaged", this is a rather patronising tone.

Er, no, personally for me I would one day like to get married and have children...the whole becoming engaged is just a step on the way there

jtr2803

teabythesea wrote: »

I do think it's very bizarre getting proposal plans in your head etc. My wonderful fiance proposed to me on my 21st birthday after a long walk up a wet cold and windy cliff but the main thing was that he chose it to be that way. If I had of had it all planned in my head I would've been either disappointed or not surprised. Proposals are meant to be surprises! Imagine if your OH has an idea of a proposal that he thinks is great, but you come along all obnoxious in a "I want it to be MY way" you could put him off proposing.

I read this the day you posted but really couldn't be bothered to reply at that point, you obviously haven't actually read more than one or two posts as you are drastically missing the whole point of this thread. No one has ever described how the proposal HAS to be and that is absolutely not what this thread is about.

teabythesea wrote: »

I have read back my post and I should of said, it's not the people themselves that are bizarre. It's just I thought this was a wedding thread for wedding planning and advice etc. Not for people who are wanting to one day be engaged.

So not only did you not bother to read any posts but you also chose to ignore the title of the thread which might have given you a HUGE clue - 'Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?'. And no this may be a WEDDING board but there is no rule on what we post about in regards to a wedding, A* to you for managing to walk into the thread and get the majority of peoples backs up by branding everyone bizarre. Anyone is welcome to post their thoughts and experiences on the thread and even if I don't particularly like what they say I will still take note it on board, but NOT when someone can't be bothered to ascertain what the thread is about.

PurplePow

After just over 5 years my OH proposed to me in New York last week!!

We discussed getting married before and both knew we wanted a 'no fuss, few guests, done abroad' type of thing, so we're saving to do it in New York in 2013, then do a 2 week roadtrip straight after in the USA. Excited!

jtr2803

Congratulations Gemma, that must have been awesome! :beer: