Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

cloverfan

The fools bit was said as a joke in jokey voice with big grin on his face as when I first met him I was in the middle of a very nasty bitter divorce and described myself as a fool for marrying him in the first place (18 and didn't know how to put a stop to it all and knew I was making a mistake at the time )

Sorry if I gave you wrong impression xx

jojo-baby

ooo cloverfan that sounds exciting.
nothing really new from my situation, except that a close friend today told me he is engaged. and considering i didn't even know he was in a relationship that was a bit of a shock. but its basically an arranged marriage due to his culture. he was been winding me up calling me wifey for ages as he knows i want to get married and well, now today i informed him of his new nickname

im super happy for him, and pretty shocked (i must sound like a rubbish friend but we live in different countries) makes me a bit sad though.
OH has told me that i wont have to wait until the next 29th feb, so i guess that is some thing.....
ah men!

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

If I were a man in a commited relationship, I would either propose on our first anniversary (granted the relationship is going steady and we're not having fights&both of us graduated from uni/school,etc. and have jobs) or I would pick a random date and make it utterly beautiful and propose, I wouldn't wait for the perfect moment to come (never does!) or wait for a holiday,etc. It could be the anniversary of our first time meeting or perhaps the pancake day! I would make pancakes, breakfast in bed, then a long nice walk in the park, I would propose on one knee (not that I expect it from my OH, but it looks lovely in movies:D), overlooking somewhere near thames or if she were a theatre fan I would take her to her favourite play, would book a box (if applicable) and during her favourite scene I would put the ring box in her hand, when she looked at me I would propose (if it's not her first time seeing the play and obviously no one knee if we're not in a box), if it was her first time seeing the play then I would propose between acts or after the play in the foyer, nicking some romantic lines from the play, then going on about how I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, in sickness and in health (at this point she would be aware of the situation) and then one knee&ring.
If she were a person who always wanted to go a city then I would take her on the adventure of her lifetime, be it venice or paris or even africa! then at her favourite spot I would propose to her.

Yes, I've been thinking about how I would propose if I were a man, well there's no proposal in sight for me so I wanted to be the man for a change

And if my budget was very very tight then on a random day I would take her to the park and have a lovely picnic, watching people riding, etc. make a speech about how much I love her (would include something from shakespeare, I am a huge fan, and I love theatre&opera btw so the above proposal would knock my socks off:eek:) and propose, then we would go somewhere to celebrate, if we had relatives or mutual close friends living nearby I would let them know beforehand I was proposing and ask them if they could arrange a nice celebration drinks type of get together (bring your own booze of course, I wouldn't want to be any burden).

A year is no time at all, I can't imagine anyone young thinking about marriage so quickly.

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

Well I couldn't become lovers with a person I don't know well so my thinking is this: I get to know said person pretty well (character, way of thinking, preferences,etc.) and we date for a while and decide to commit to each other, 1 year AFTER THIS POINT would be the date, but I didn't put it well into writing you are absolutely right:T

I thought about me&my OH, we've known each other for 3 years prior to our relationship and been flirting all the time,etc. I've never thought of it as in day 1: meet her, day 365: propose to her to be honest. But if I've never known her before then I would propose on our second year if Ithought I knew her well enough, that I know for sure. (Again granted we're both adults with jobs etc. I'm not talking about high school or uni sweethearts here.)

Yes no I agree with you, I'm not sure how old you are. My parents were engaged within a year but they were late twenties (admittedly you could be this age or older, I don't know). But yeah once you're sort of life sorted then there's not too many obstacles.

It's just a year seems so short, I don't know how people who have never met before know each other well enough to get married (I've seen this happen!)

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

That never ceases to amaze me! I've seen people get married in 6 months of their first meeting and they do absolutely fine! But I couldn't do it, I wouldn't even go out with a man if I hadn't known him at least for a few months unless a friend of mine badgers me to do it!:D

I'm 26 btw, late twenties you could say (or is it still middle?:D:rotfl:).

I'm counting that as mid twenties Sophie!

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

teehee then I'm in my mid twenties :rotfl:
How old are you buzzybee90? I'm guessing 24 from your nickname?

I'm not 24, I don't know why I did that username! I'm 22

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

I've been reading some of your posts/threads, I must say you sound more mature than a lot of 30 year-olds :T:T

Well thank you I'm just quite boring...!!

Maybe you'll see me on this thread in a year or two...!

(Though I'm sure you won't still we waiting then!)

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

No in my book you're the interesting one not boring one!

Well even if I wasn't on this board I'd still like to have your news so if I somehow graduate from the board please let me know when you get the proposal, etc. :happyhear

If you take a girl to paris for the second time you better propose bro! (to my OH in a gangsta accent, in my own head obv.:rotfl:)

Of course! I always secretly wanted to be a part of this thread because I like engagements, but I'm not really waiting or one yet so I didn't really think I was allowed!

For sure, I've heard those are the engagement rules! We are hoping to be in a position to buy a house at the end of next year so then I will probably be turning into a crazy engagement lady!!

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There's another one got a question popped on FB...

Le sigh!

HBS x

Anatidaephobia

My Facebook is full of either engagement or wedding posts. Can't scroll down the newsfeed without seeing it all. I think I know four separate couples who got married at the weekend.