Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

Buzzybee90

Sophie8 wrote: »

A few days ago a uni friend of mine sent me a message to ask when I was getting married... We haven't talked for a year and we didn't particularly enjoy each others company. We are not in touch, we don't even live nearby... She was always jealous of other girls in our class, she didn't even tried to hide it. Anyway, she tried to push me a bit, pressuring to give her a date (what is wrong with her?), she's been together with her boyfriend for over 3 years and they've been living together almost since the start, at their 1 year her OH found a steady job and she started pushing him to marriage (she was doing it in front of us,there would be a table full of 10 people and she would nag his ear off, she would make snide comments) and she told me that they weren't thinking abour marriage and that she was a kept woman etc etc (not really but beacuse they've been living together so long and without a ring she feels that way), even after that she became hostile making snide comments to me and then started nagging me to tell her when I was getting married, I said we'll see and I logged off from facebook that moment...
I know how her mind works, in our uni group there are 3 girls with steady relationships, 1 is wanting to get married desperately (they've been together over 2 years) and whenever they fight she tells him she's not gonna marry him (he hasn't asked), there's me, you know my story and there's this girl I wrote above and she thinks if I'm not getting married then she has time to get married as well (she's weirdly competitive in outrageous ways).

Sorry about the rant, had to get it out

I really don't understand why people take such notice of other people's relationships.

UnlikelyButTrue

Hi all,

I (female) proposed to my OH (male) last week- bought him a ring, made him a coffee, asked him to marry me.

He said yes!

When he told his work colleague, he was asked 'is it a leap year?'

'No, mate' replied my (well trained) OH,
'it's the twenty-first century.'

moral of the story, ladies?
Just blooming well ask. :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

Sophie8 wrote: »

.It was a month after my OH's deadline and I felt so strung along...

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but from what I've read in your posts, it does sound like he's stringing you along. He dangles a carrot by saying he's going to propose to buy himself time, then when the deadline comes he backs down and swears it'll happen next time.

I'm confident that this time my OH won't fail to deliver (I hope so so so so so much.). Told my close friends and family oh god last time everyone kept asking if he proposed, as in every person i talked to it was horrible.

I don't understand why you would tell everyone? When the proposal fails to materialise, you're setting yourself up for embarrassment and even more heartache.

I hope I'm wrong and you get your proposal. But reading your posts, you do come across as fairly desperate, and your OH is probably seeing that too. Try and relax more and go with the flow.

74jax

UnlikelyButTrue wrote: »

Hi all,

I (female) proposed to my OH (male) last week- bought him a ring, made him a coffee, asked him to marry me.

He said yes!

When he told his work colleague, he was asked 'is it a leap year?'

'No, mate' replied my (well trained) OH,
'it's the twenty-first century.'

moral of the story, ladies?
Just blooming well ask. :rotfl:

And moral of this thread is read it...

You will see many have, including me, who was met with a no.

heartbreak_star

74jax wrote: »

And moral of this thread is read it...

You will see many have, including me, who was met with a no.

Yup, I know I'd be met with a no. He's very rarely alpha-male or traditional, but I think this is one of the situations where he would be

HBS x

cloverfan

So last night OH and I were watching TV and there was a wedding on there so he says " only fools get married" I ignored him and carried on watching TV. So he leans over and says in my ear " fools fools fools marriage is for fools" by this time my 15 year old son is killing himself laughing at me. So I just said well you think what you want to and he said " I can see your desperate to say something I know what your thinking" so again I tried to ignore him. So then he says " you think I don't want to marry you, how wrong you are you have no idea. You don't know what we talk about at work, we've been thinking up ways if proposing. In fact xxxxxxxx (my eldest son) knows my favourite idea already" So here I am desperately trying not to get over excited but can't help it. Surely he can't still be stringing me along??

duchy

That just sounds really nasty tbh.
Why if he knows how important it is to you would he taunt you?

CH27

cloverfan wrote: »

So last night OH and I were watching TV and there was a wedding on there so he says " only fools get married" I ignored him and carried on watching TV. So he leans over and says in my ear " fools fools fools marriage is for fools" by this time my 15 year old son is killing himself laughing at me. So I just said well you think what you want to and he said " I can see your desperate to say something I know what your thinking" so again I tried to ignore him. So then he says " you think I don't want to marry you, how wrong you are you have no idea. You don't know what we talk about at work, we've been thinking up ways if proposing. In fact xxxxxxxx (my eldest son) knows my favourite idea already" So here I am desperately trying not to get over excited but can't help it. Surely he can't still be stringing me along??

How blo*dy cruel!

heartbreak_star

That really does sound mean I would have walked out of the room.

HBS x

74jax

cloverfan wrote: »

So last night OH and I were watching TV and there was a wedding on there so he says " only fools get married" I ignored him and carried on watching TV. So he leans over and says in my ear " fools fools fools marriage is for fools" by this time my 15 year old son is killing himself laughing at me. So I just said well you think what you want to and he said " I can see your desperate to say something I know what your thinking" so again I tried to ignore him. So then he says " you think I don't want to marry you, how wrong you are you have no idea. You don't know what we talk about at work, we've been thinking up ways if proposing. In fact xxxxxxxx (my eldest son) knows my favourite idea already" So here I am desperately trying not to get over excited but can't help it. Surely he can't still be stringing me along??

That to me sounds extremely controlling. Of course, we don't know how it was put across, but if it's how you've worded it I think i would have left the room.