Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

Andy_89

hieveryone wrote: »

I think it is acceptable too, I would have just preferred it a little sooner :rotfl:

I have compromised lots for the sake of 'us'. I gave up an amazing opportunity of working abroad, moved 50 miles away from friends and family to live with him, have supported his career choices (and recently a very big career move where he is away for 2-3 weeks at a time), I 'allow' him (that sounds awful! didn't know how else to write it! :rotfl:) his football/golf/rugby/cricket/generic sport on the TV 24/7 when he is home, as well as playing golf 2-3 times a week.

Crikey!

The boy best up his game!

hieveryone

Andy_89 wrote: »

Crikey!

The boy best up his game!

:rotfl:

We have a great life together, we do. We are both laid back and just get on with it. He puts up with my slight OCD on certain things, I put up with his extreme OCD on other things.

He's not a bad boyfriend and I am not a bad girlfriend, is it so bad to want to 'move it along' a bit?

Andy_89

hieveryone wrote: »

:rotfl:

We have a great life together, we do. We are both laid back and just get on with it. He puts up with my slight OCD on certain things, I put up with his extreme OCD on other things.

He's not a bad boyfriend and I am not a bad girlfriend, is it so bad to want to 'move it along' a bit?

Me and my OH are like that, I won't let her clean the kitchen or bathroom - she just doesn't do it right.

Oh and DVD's have to be in alphabetical order.

But I can't put the shopping away or peg the washing out - (I put it on an airer in the conservatory, dries in about 10 minutes)

hieveryone

Andy_89 wrote: »

Me and my OH are like that, I won't let her clean the kitchen or bathroom - she just doesn't do it right.

Oh and DVD's have to be in alphabetical order.

But I can't put the shopping away or peg the washing out - (I put it on an airer in the conservatory, dries in about 10 minutes)

:rotfl:you and my OH could be friends... fancy talking some sense into him?!

cloverfan

Hi hieveryone, I've decided to try and not mention anything for a while but think I might need to Sellotape my mouth shut lol

hieveryone

cloverfan wrote: »

Hi hieveryone, I've decided to try and not mention anything for a while but think I might need to Sellotape my mouth shut lol

:rotfl: me too! But it's always when you decide not to mention it that someone goes and bl00dy posts on Facebook that they're engaged or something and you just want to :mad::mad: at your OH!!

cloverfan

Hey Sophie. I guess to set a deadline only you would know when because only you know how long you can wait?? Whilst I desperately want to move things forward I do feel at the moment that I wouldn't leave him over this. But I know what you mean about Facebook there's me saying not going to say anything and I've just seen a lovely ring in town and it's only £60 so I don't think that's too much for me to ask for. And then a friend has suggested maybe he will ask when we go on holiday next month.

Sophie when is your holiday?

hieveryone

Sophie8 wrote: »

Can i ask, how do you decide on a deadline? I might need to set one myself, if nothing happens on holiday:o

Oh god now I sound psychotic :rotfl:

During one of our many, many 'chats', I told him I was NOT comfortable with getting to being together for 4 years and not having plans for the future. I'll be 30 by that point, my career is going well, as is his. There is no need in my mind to wait any longer.

I do NOT want to get to the stage where people ask me 'how long have you and OH been together' and I have to reply 4+ years - without being engaged?!

Maybe it's cutting my nose off to spite my face, but I refuse to wait around for someone who may or may not grant my 'wishes', or leave me dangling - and then it may be too late for me. I remind OH that a wedding takes approx a year to plan, but I don't think my information is sinking in :rotfl::rotfl:

hieveryone

cloverfan wrote: »

Hey Sophie. I guess to set a deadline only you would know when because only you know how long you can wait?? Whilst I desperately want to move things forward I do feel at the moment that I wouldn't leave him over this. But I know what you mean about Facebook there's me saying not going to say anything and I've just seen a lovely ring in town and it's only £60 so I don't think that's too much for me to ask for. And then a friend has suggested maybe he will ask when we go on holiday next month.

Sophie when is your holiday?

This is what I am beginning to despise - and in fact tried to talk OH out of going on holiday this summer because I am so sick of everyone else, and my own hopes getting up and then not happening.

I don't want to be 'girlfriend/boyfriend' anymore, I really don't. I feel we are passed that.

cloverfan

I know I don't want to come back and tell everyone no he didn't ask me but more than that I am worried I will spoil our holiday by hoping for it and it not happening.

He even suggested opening a savings account for a wedding but hasn't ever even put 1p into it so what was the point in having it?