Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

savvy

I should say, I feel bad as this thread has now gone slightly of topic, sorry to those waiting for a proposal

Personally, I really wouldn't hang about for it as it cah become a very big issue and resentment may set in etc. There are so many reasons why some men can't/won't do it, so I really think patience is the key if you want them to propose to you, relax about it and if the pressure is off them, they may well do it. If you're not bothered about that and just want to marry them, then crack on and either ask them, or as somebody else did, just start setting dates etc. If he runs a mile and you desperately have to be married, then you know it was never going to work well

Georgiegirl256

Tashatutuw wrote: »

This is what I am most worried about changing my name - he really wants me to and say's it is very important to him so I have agreed but I have a lovely maiden name, very straight forward... His name isn't too bad but EVERYONE asks how its spelt (even though its very much spelt how it sounds) and even his own family (from his mothers side) spell it wrong!! :think: :think:

My married surname is also (IMO) very much spelt as you say it too. I signed for a parcel yesterday and he asked me what my surname was and I told him, and give him his due, he never asked how to spell it, and gave it his best shot, he missed an E out (but I think there is 2 different spellings of it?), but at least he tried bless him! I think he's the first person to ever attempt it without asking!

Duchy, it's unbelievable that some people can even get a four letter name wrong!

Georgiegirl256

savvy wrote: »

OMG we could be twins :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:I always thought I was out on my own with is, so glad to hear I'm not alone in it Were you a punk or a tomboy at any point?? LOL just wondering if it's that that does it?

Yep same here, don't fancy being on show and not lovey dovey either, ooooo I used to cringe when it came to wedding talk of any kind, and have never understood everyone cooing over it......so clearly I won't be a Bridezilla. BUT I do know what I want, a nice alternative, rustic style, with me looking like a ship wrecked person or Miss Haversham stylee :cool: So that's why I like this Wang and this Wang :rotfl:

Hey Twin! :rotfl:

Yes, I was a tomboy, and was in to Punk, although more into Rock, so was more of a goth! :rotfl:

Those dresses are v cool! I really like them.

Apologies also for taking the thread off topic.

heartbreak_star

Hey I was goth for a long time and still have my glam-rock tendencies

I'd never change my name. It's already double-barrelled and much more interesting than his

FBaby, it's possible that maybe he is testing commitment. We shall see. I'd love us to marry before we hit the big 4-0 so he has 5 and a bit years

HBS x

Georgiegirl256

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Hey I was goth for a long time and still have my glam-rock tendencies

I'd never change my name. It's already double-barrelled and much more interesting than his

FBaby, it's possible that maybe he is testing commitment. We shall see. I'd love us to marry before we hit the big 4-0 so he has 5 and a bit years

HBS x

Ooooo I love glam rock, and hair metal too!

Tashatutuw

To bring my contribution more to topic...

A friend of my aunts met a man who announced very early on in their relationship that he NEVER wanted to get married OR have children. She loved this man very much and made the decision that having him was more important to her than those other things and that the idea of leaving him just to have those things was too much. About 4 years ago, when they had been together 8yrs they got married and they are now having IVF.

My OH really didn't want to get married, his Mother had been a 3 times loser in marriage (although no.3 died..) and he had been brought up that it was a waste of time and money. We are getting married in 5 months because I made it clear to him how important marriage and children are to me. We talked about it on many, many occasions and argued about it as well and in June last year he took me to a Church and told me that this was the Church he was going to marry me in. He told me that he wanted to make me happy and though he believed it 'gumpf', he would do it for me... Its worth holding on in there ladies...

They do change their minds!!! x

savvy

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Hey Twin! :rotfl:

Yes, I was a tomboy, and was in to Punk, although more into Rock, so was more of a goth! :rotfl:

Those dresses are v cool! I really like them.

Apologies also for taking the thread off topic.

AHA........my theory could be right then lmao :) They are awesome aren't they, obviously gonna have to have fake of one of them.........or a mash up of them both The people at wedding fairs are like 'you WHAAAAAT?' when I turn up and they ask me things, and I say I want a rustic shipwrecked wedding,. Bless them they are like 'oh what, shabby chic?', I'm like 'noooo not neat and contrived like that, more boho/haversham/cowgirl type thing looking, with rough old falling down barn-esque stylee not contrived clean varnished barn, I want dirt as the floor'....and their little faces fall and desperately look for a more normal bride in the throng :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Although having said that, a couple of them have been up for the challenge and got really excited by my alternative norm shunning ideas

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Hey I was goth for a long time and still have my glam-rock tendencies

HBS x

Yay so you could embrace your inner goth and shun the whole wedding thing Actually, I wonder if some reverse psychology might work with your man?? You know the whole 'I'm actually not sure that I do want to marry you now you know, who actually needs to know we are a couple when I go out on the town hey?' thing, might make him think omg.......she's losing interest in me, better get her up the aisle! ;):rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

savvy wrote: »

AHA........my theory could be right then lmao :) They are awesome aren't they, obviously gonna have to have fake of one of them.........or a mash up of them both The people at wedding fairs are like 'you WHAAAAAT?' when I turn up and they ask me things, and I say I want a rustic shipwrecked wedding,. Bless them they are like 'oh what, shabby chic?', I'm like 'noooo not neat and contrived like that, more boho/haversham/cowgirl type thing looking, with rough old falling down barn-esque stylee not contrived clean varnished barn, I want dirt as the floor'....and their little faces fall and desperately look for a more normal bride in the throng :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Although having said that, a couple of them have been up for the challenge and got really excited by my alternative norm shunning ideas

Yay so you could embrace your inner goth and shun the whole wedding thing Actually, I wonder if some reverse psychology might work with your man?? You know the whole 'I'm actually not sure that I do want to marry you now you know, who actually needs to know we are a couple when I go out on the town hey?' thing, might make him think omg.......she's losing interest in me, better get her up the aisle! ;):rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

IMO there should be more weddings like yours!

Good idea about the reverse psychology! :rotfl:

savvy

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

IMO there should be more weddings like yours!

Good idea about the reverse psychology! :rotfl:

Lmao thanks Georgiegirl.....will be a miracle if I can pull it off I can tell you, have picked a ruined castle since fiance didn't want to get married down a cave, the weirdo!! And have located a rough and ready barn miles and miles away from the castle......excellent planning hey , but not flamin located the owner as yet :mad:

May have to make my own dress yet to reduce costs, should be very interesting since I'm a shocking sewing person, but guess I have enough time since our wedding date is 13.9.13........yes you read that right......last year lmao! :(:rotfl:

butterflylady

Help ladies!!

I've been with my boyfriend (that sounds like I'm 12!!) for almost 2 years, have a house together and a baby, been a busy 2 years!! Lol!!

His divorce finally came through last week and I am desperate for him to propose, I know he won't we've had (heated) discussions about it and he doesn't see the need to get married. I seem to spend half my life in tears at the minute about it!!

I love him so much, I know he loves me but the idea of not being married breaks my heart, I want that ring on my finger, I want to be his wife he just doesn't seem to get it!! The really annoying thing is in the past we had discussed it and too me it seemed like it was half planned!!

I don't no what to say to him or even if I should mention it!! Any suggestions??