Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

heartbreak_star

Hugs right back, CoC!

Part of me wonders if he just doesn't see the point as we're never going to have children, but aside from anything else it would give us both a bit of security financially and legally etc. Mainly though I'd just love to be his wife...I waited for him for so long and this just makes me feel sad.

At least we know we are loved though - and so many people in the world are unhappy in relationships that I still feel lucky to have a good man.

HBS x

Jessycat

HBS and COC is it the wedding part putting them off marriage or are they just not believers in marriage?

heartbreak_star

He just doesn't see the point in marriage, apparently considers it a waste of money.

HBS x

Jessycat

Could you just go to the registry office with your immediate family/closest friends, then a meal somewhere after?

My parents did this. They've been together 32 years but only married for 7. There were only 6 of us at their wedding. They wanted to ensure each other would be financially secure. It was a lovely, cold spring day

heartbreak_star

I'd be happy with that but he still won't do it - he just really does not see the point.

Thanks though Jessycat

HBS x

Jessycat

That's a real shame . Maybe one day he'll change his mind

burnoutbabe

well you could arrange to see a solicitor to find out how much it will be to have wills drawn up and POAs and all that sort of thing you need if unmarried but want to be responsible for each other.

Then you can see how much that compares to cost of a small ceremony.

CupOfChai

I don't really know what it is exactly with him, I think possibly he's just not interested in getting married and isn't considering the legal aspects it brings. He's not really a one for looking to the future, he likes things not to change too much. Hoping he might start to fancy the idea of marrying me at some point soon, maybe as more of his friends start doing it he'll start to feel like he's at that stage too.

No idea how long he's going to take with that though, the man is already 31 for god's sake!

Jessycat

CupOfChai, I think that's often the push males need.

I got so frustated at other couples getting engaged and yet they hadn't been together as long as we had. It caused many arguments :mad: We'll have been together 8 years when we get married, he'll be 29, myself 31 but we will be one of the first couples in our social circle to actually get married.

burnoutbabe, that's a good idea.

burnoutbabe

its no problem. Its more to see is he scared of legally committing anything to you over just general worry about "a marriage". Though its more important to get legals sorted if you have kids or a house.

I was keen to be engaged but now we are, neither of us are in a hurry to marry as such right away. But it was important that he would be happy to do it and wanted to one day (and tell the world that) IYSWIM. The actual going and doing it is less important (and no house together or kids that would make it much more legally important to sort things out).