Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

rdchick

littlesnuggy wrote: »

I've never posted on this thread before because didn't want OH to somehow find it but we're off to New York next Saturday for our 10 year anniversary (of being together). We've got lots of nice dinners, walks in the park, seeing sunset from brooklyn bridge etc planned so here's hoping I might come back with a ring!

I know some people seem to get engaged really quickly now but I honestly wasn't even thinking about it until the last couple of years. We got together in our first year at university & have lived together ever since, bought our house in 2010 and got a dog shortly after. I don't think I'd have wanted to get married any sooner, really. But saying that if he doesn't propose in NYC I may start getting impatient!

Let me know about NYC, going in 3 weeks as my birthday present from the BF... I'm hoping he will propose there too... I wish! xxx

Gonzo1987

I think he's gonna propose sooon! He needs to, but it's been a topic of conversation most days

Wine_of_the_World

Just to update.
I’m engaged!!!!



My boyfriend and I talked and he convinced me that he did want to ask me sooner, but was too nervous. When he finally asked he was actually shaking, so it clearly was a big deal.



Although, to some extent I feel that talking / arguing about it would spoil it, I don’t regret bringing up the subject, because I realise that if I didn’t, he wouldn’t have asked, and in fact Im fine about the whole thing. He did manage to surprise me with when he asked, which I didn’t think would be possible.


Now a wedding to plan! Despite being desperate for a proposal for so long, I don’t have strong ideas of what I want for a wedding, and neither does he. I just know I want some lovely photos of us both, to look the best I can for the day, and not spend a crazy amount of money. Ideally we would like to get married in 2014, but I guess a lot of places will be booked up by now.

Gonzo1987

ooo congrats!! I'm engaged too! :-)

heartbreak_star

Congratulations to both of you I still just have my hopes up haha!

HBS x

littlesnuggy

Well I'm finally engaged! OH proposed in Central Park on our 10th anniversary with his grandmother's ring, so it was all very romantic.

Wine of the World - I'd like to get married in 2014 too but am worried about availability like you. I'll be having a small family-only wedding (hoping to hire a private house with a wedding license) but its things like photographer and caterer that I'm not sure about. Having waited 10 years for the proposal I don't want a long engagement!

dizsiebubba

Ladies we just got engaged (21st Nov) and are getting married September 2014 ... there is less availability but it is possible xxx

kerri_dfw

Congratulations all 4 of all I'm still waiting...

heartbreak_star

Happy new year to all my fellow proposal-waiters!

Sadly, a potential bit of pants news to report. After talking to one of OH's oldest friends last night, it turns out OH has no interest in marriage and considers it "just a word". Clarified this with another close friend too

So it looks like I may have to quietly bow out of hoping.

I'm still going to stay with him - would rather have him unmarried than break up because I want a wedding!

And I will keep following everyone's escapades on here. I hope 2014 is your year!

A slightly sad HBS x

CupOfChai

Hugs for you HBS.

I've lurked for a bit but feel like I should post here now. OH won't say much on the subject if I bring it up, but I'm sure it isn't a case of not saying much because he's planning anything. I fear he doesn't want to get married at all, but it's something that I really do want to do and I feel that he's the one for me. At the best he just isn't ready for that stage in life yet, whereas I really am!

Like you HBS I'm not going to break up with him over it, I'd rather have him than a wedding, but it'll be one big sadness/regret in my life if it never happens.