Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

lucky_charm_2

Thank you HBS!!! I have my fingers crossed that it will be your turn next

wangdoodle

Congrats lucky_charm

heartbreak_star

D'ya think it's cheeky if I put an engagement ring or at least an engagement-style one on my Amazon wishlist? I know he refers to that for birthdays and things haha!

HBS x

HeadAboveWater

Subtle lol

LEJC

heartbreak_star wrote: »

D'ya think it's cheeky if I put an engagement ring or at least an engagement-style one on my Amazon wishlist? I know he refers to that for birthdays and things haha!

HBS x

You made me chuckle...

My husband was never backward at coming forward with the engagement ring but he has a mental block where flowers are concerned...in the 22 years ive known him ive had 2 bunches of flowers...not a deal breaker,but I do like them.....so with less than a week to go before a significant wedding anniversary and an email popping into my inbox from interflora with a discount code...I felt duty bound to forward the email on to him....fingers crossed.

heartbreak_star

I shall cross my fingers for you too

HBS x

Stonecaster

I'm interested in some opinions as I think the gf of a friend of mine has just shot herself in the foot as far as a proposal is concerned. She's been living with her bf for several years now and really wants him to propose. He's a great guy and loves her a lot (from what I can see) but is rather stubborn and has been put off proposing due to the constant comments and teasing from her friends and family. For example, when he organised a trip to Paris for her birthday last year he got told that her sister was running a book among friends to bet where he would propose while there. Consequently, he refused to propose in Paris at all and has (unbeknownst to her) been waiting to be able to propose in an unexpected but romantic time/place.

To add to his problems, the gf is very designer driven and rather fussy about the engagement ring. She has already told him the name of the jewelers the ring must come from and showed him the ring she wants... a mere £2,900! :eek:

I must admit my friend is not the best with money and is inclined to spend on luxuries such as meals out, holidays, his hobbies etc but they are also saving in order to buy their first house together this year. He got left a small legacy (around £8,000) from his grandparents a few months ago and, in order to keep his intentions to propose a secret from her, he squirreled away the £2,900 needed for the ring she wants from this money and only told her about the remainder of the money.

They went to see a financial adviser recently to sort out a mortgage for their house purchase and, during the meeting my friend felt obliged to reveal the previously hidden £2,900 in a separate savings account. Understandably his gf got upset that he had hidden some money from her so he had to explain what it was for. At this point, if I were her, I would have been thrilled to think he had kept this part of his legacy for the ring and wanted to propose.... however she got even more upset and said that she did not want him to buy a ring with his legacy as he had not 'earned' the money himself and that she wanted him to save from his earnings rather than use his legacy. Given that their outgoings are about to increase considerably with the house purchase and they will be pretty skint for some years to come, I can't see how he can do this even if he wanted to. He was upset she had snubbed his desire to spend a large portion of his grandparents' legacy on her ring so is now even less likely to propose than before. I feel so sorry for both of them as they are both lovely (despite their little foibles) but seem to have reached an impasse!

My question is, do you think it is wrong to put aside part of a legacy or other windfall for the engagement ring or should it always be saved from earnings?

LEJC

Does it really matter how you obtain the money...as long as its legal...surely its also not about what you spend on it necessarily,but the meaning in which it is given.

Some of you know im from a jewellery background which incidentally scared boyfriends to death because some of them felt intimidated perhaps by the family business...then along came my now husband and proposed within a very short space of time....and we chose a ring together....that ring didnt have to match anything I'd had before or be as grand as anything else...simply because it was a gift of love.

heartbreak_star

Stonecaster, I think your mate's gf sounds like a pain in the backside and he's making a rod for his own back if he marries her...

(EDIT: Yea, that's harsh...but you can probably see what I'm getting at!)

HBS x

minerva_windsong

Congratulations lucky_charm!