Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

Only_a_ginger

It's this! She can then choose her own ring.

I plan to ask the question on holiday!

Pinzy

Oooh how unique, love the design! A friend of ours proposed and didn't know what ring she'd want, so he got her the cheapest one he could find at Argos to pop the question with! Good luck with it oaginger :dance:

duchy

Thing is........

Living together for more than a few months before marriage is a relatively new thing.

Even in the seventies and early eighties *most* people didn't move in together without getting engaged and intending to marry within a year. For many it was their first home - and the incidence of early divorce was really low compared with today.

I don't think there is a right or wrong way- I don't officially live with my HtB but our houses are four apart so odds are we may still have two homes by the time the wedding rolls around (we intend to sell and buy somewhere that is "ours" but there is no rush) . In some ways I think it would be rather nice to move in together properly when we get married.

Most people have a pretty good idea what their intended is going to be like to live with before they move in - so long as they take off the rose tinted specs The problems seem to be with couples who think "Oh they'll change after we get married/move in together"

CharlieRabbit01 wrote: »

Hi Lucky Charm,

I think it is a good idea to live with each other first, I've had 3 friends marry then move in together with the following results:

couple 1: still living together happily after 5 years of marriage 9 years in a relationship.

couple 2: she was OCD he was the messiest person in the world 6 months later they split up

couple 3: childhood sweethearts, been together for 14 years, married then moved in 9 months later split as they just didn't work together in the same house.

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Only_a_ginger wrote: »

It's this! She can then choose her own ring.

I plan to ask the question on holiday!

Ahhhh that's lovely What a good idea! :j

HBS x

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CharlieRabbit01 wrote: »

Hello all, so i've read a few posts and thought this was quite an interesting one to follow.

Of those who are desperate for a proposal have you actually spoken to your OH's about getting married?

Me, but only in a joking fashion. His ex burned him badly so I don't want to push it.

HBS x

CharlieRabbit01

my OH and I have been totally up front with each other on the subject of babies and marriage, I'm glad that we are as one of us isn't left wondering.

heartbreak_star

We're exceptionally upfront on the subject of babies - neither of us want any, ever, lol!

I've made it pretty clear that I would like us to marry and left the ball in his court

HBs x

CharlieRabbit01

duchy wrote: »

Thing is........

Living together for more than a few months before marriage is a relatively new thing.

Even in the seventies and early eighties *most* people didn't move in together without getting engaged and intending to marry within a year. For many it was their first home - and the incidence of early divorce was really low compared with today.

I don't think there is a right or wrong way- I don't officially live with my HtB but our houses are four apart so odds are we may still have two homes by the time the wedding rolls around (we intend to sell and buy somewhere that is "ours" but there is no rush) . In some ways I think it would be rather nice to move in together properly when we get married.

Most people have a pretty good idea what their intended is going to be like to live with before they move in - so long as they take off the rose tinted specs The problems seem to be with couples who think "Oh they'll change after we get married/move in together"

I think its very hard to pinpoint what might or might not work.

I don't know what the statistics are but I've seen things go right and wrong from various angles.

I'm quite neutral on the subject of marriage and divorce.

lucky_charm_2

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Anyone had any more luck? It's my birthday soon and I'm trying not to hope.

HBS x

I had some luck! OH and I are engaged!!!! Even after we had talked about it so much it was still a huge surprise (it happened a few days after i told him i was just going to take a step back and not talk about it any more!) back when I was waiting I didn't believe this but so worth the wait!!!

Hugs to those waiting and I am sure it will happen for all of you, I 100% know how it feels waiting for it to happen though! I can't say for sure what worked for me but I think it was having a really honest open conversation with OH and then promising that I would not be bringing it up again at least for the foreseeable future and telling him the last thing I wanted was for him to feel forced and it had to come from him and be something he wanted.

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CONGRATULATIONS!!

*pops party poppers*

So pleased LC!

HBS x