Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

wangdoodle

lucky_charm I know what you mean. Waiting is killer and the temptation to drop some hints is almost irresistible, but I really do not want to be a nagging wife before I'm even his wife, or he might never get there!

Thanks for your post Fbaby it's encouraging to hear when the patient waiting has paid off as it gives me some hope, but it does feel like the waiting is relentless and my patience may go unrewarded. I'm glad it's all worked out so well for you though

Jessycat

heartbreak_star wrote: »

*lip wobble*

I don't want to bring anyone down but I think you guys will understand.

Two of my friends have recently got engaged (to each other). He can't afford a big diamond so he chose a silver and CZ ring that's almost identical to the one they both liked for her to wear while they save for the diamond, and did a lovely romantic proposal because "he couldn't wait any longer".

They've only been together 6 months, and are in their early twenties.

I've been with OH nearly two years and known him 14 years. It just doesn't seem fair.

I'm absolutely made up for my friends, I squeaked with delight when she told me, and I don't know why this was the one that finally sent me over the edge - loads of my friends have got engaged and married over the time we've been together.

But I cried when I was next on my own.

Why am I so bothered? I know I should count my blessings - I have a very handsome OH who loves me for who I am and has said there is no danger of him leaving me. We live together and are very happy.

I still just want to marry him. I could cry again now.

*sniffle* sorry for the rant everyone.

HBS x

It's so upsetting I was like that, felt as though everyone was moving on in their lives except for me.

You aren't being a stroppy brat at all. I think you just become so sensitive to these events when it's something you so desperately want yourself.

HeadAboveWater

FBaby wrote: »

The hug pictures made me spit my coffee from laughing!

:rotfl::rotfl:

Thanks for sharing your story FBaby

heartbreak_star

Thanks everyone, you've all been awesome and made me feel better

I'm trying to screw up my courage to talk to him - I keep thinking "fgs, you have a responsible job, you're a sports coach, you have a black belt in kickboxing, you powerlift...and you wilt at talking to your beloved?"

But it is hard. I will certainly update you when I pull myself together and sort it out

HBS x

Only_a_ginger

I'm not sure if being a man I'm allowed to post in here (or should be...)

But...two things...

1 - for you ladies who want an engagement and to be married, why don't you ask him? Is it jut because its not 'the norm'?

2 - my other half want to get married, she probably feels like some of the posts in here...I'm not really 'into it' I suppose, but have started thinking about it.
She has told me she would be happy doing it just the 2 of us, which would be my preferred option....but she kind of mentioned that to her mum recently and her mum didn't seem keen....should I care?:eek:

LEJC

a male poster...fantastic...its great to get the other perspective
but I cant help think that you've slightly contradicted yourself in your post...

You say the girls here should just ask their men...and to an extent I agree with you...but dare I ask the question to you that if your lady proposed to you what would your answer be in light of your comment that youre not "really into it"....

And without frightening you off completely...what makes you not into it?

Jessycat

We are quite traditional and I know my OH would have turned me down if I'd seriously asked him. He wanted to do the whole surprise and do it properly, so if I'd ruined that, he would have not been happy.

74jax

Only_a_ginger wrote: »

I'm not sure if being a man I'm allowed to post in here (or should be...)

But...two things...

1 - for you ladies who want an engagement and to be married, why don't you ask him? Is it jut because its not 'the norm'?

2 - my other half want to get married, she probably feels like some of the posts in here...I'm not really 'into it' I suppose, but have started thinking about it.
She has told me she would be happy doing it just the 2 of us, which would be my preferred option....but she kind of mentioned that to her mum recently and her mum didn't seem keen....should I care?:eek:

If you read the thread - yet I do appreciate its a lllloooooonnnnggggg one, you'll see some of us have asked. Me for 1 and he said no.

I think if you want to care you will, if you don't care you can't 'pretend' to. If you're both happy just you 2 I'm not sure what her mother haas to do with it.

tatabubbly

My Hubby-to-be-one-day is saving hard at the moment for that important piece of jewellry. I've told him I don't care if its from argos but he says he wants to do it "right"..

I only know this cos all the money goes in and outta my accounts Bless him!

lucky_charm_2

Only_a_ginger wrote: »

I'm not sure if being a man I'm allowed to post in here (or should be...)

But...two things...

1 - for you ladies who want an engagement and to be married, why don't you ask him? Is it jut because its not 'the norm'?

2 - my other half want to get married, she probably feels like some of the posts in here...I'm not really 'into it' I suppose, but have started thinking about it.
She has told me she would be happy doing it just the 2 of us, which would be my preferred option....but she kind of mentioned that to her mum recently and her mum didn't seem keen....should I care?:eek:

I once said to my OH what would he do if I proposed and he didn't like the idea. He is pretty traditional and to be honest I am a bit of a romantic and when it comes to the proposal would like to do things the traditional way too. Also, he is well aware of how I feel, so he knows if he asks I would say yes. On the other hand if I asked I don't know if he would just feel forced to say yes even though he might not be ready. We've had some open, honest discussions and he's suggested that he might be nearly emotionally ready but that financially he wants to save up.