Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

daisiegg

eleanor, remember how I was certain I wasn't getting proposed to in Prague as I'd searched his luggage (bad daisie) and there was no ring? then he proposed without a ring because he wanted me to have the fun of ring shopping!! so anything is possible...

Lancslass1982

Thank-you for the replies!:) My gut feeling is that we will eventually get married and that he is just cautious because his parents had a pretty awful (often violent) relationship, which he often witnessed. It has definitely affected him and he is also determined to be a better dad than his father has been to him. When he mentioned he wanted a child, my feelings did waiver towards thinking that maybe we should have one without being married (I am 30 this year and am starting to feel broody). But having thought about it further, I'm pretty determined to wait until we are married. Although, whether this will change in the next year, I don't know!:D

squ1rrel5

I wonder if eleanor is engaged yet!!

jemb

Daisy I got engaged in Prague and didnt think it would happen. He hid it in his shoe though! a ring worth nearly £5k in his trainer on his foot!!!

Brightside

Lancslass, I can truly relate to what your boyfriend may feel about his parents marriage. My parents had a very volatile though not violent marriage and it affected how i thought of marriage for years. My h2b father was a very violent man, as was his grandfather and his parents had an awful marriage before his mum eventually fled leaving the kids to cope alone as she was convinced she was the problem.

It can take time to realise that you can avoid what your parents went through if you are with the right person.

Taadaa

I didn't think my husband would get there. We got together in early 2002, moved in together in May 2003, moved to a house in Nov 2007, had talked about marriage, he had hinted he was going to propose. In the end l thought we would be one of those couples who never got married. To be honest l was getting itchy feet, then he proposed out of the blue on Christmas day 2008. I was gobsmacked. I asked him why them and he said he could afford a ring....sigh. As if that mattered!

squ1rrel5

I know I said I wasnt going to think about it until end of month but another weekend is here, another day spent in a really lovely location (our local bird reserve, its one of my favourite places ever and it's so quiet and this time the sun was blazing so no rain to put him off!) yet no ring.... I'm actually thinking that I might just ask him to take it back to the shop so someone else can buy it who is actually going to USE IT!!!! :rotfl:

Even though I said he would probably think about it more since our conversation... I bet he hasnt even spent 5 mins thinking about it since last weekend.

MrsDrink

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Even though I said he would probably think about it more since our conversation... I bet he hasnt even spent 5 mins thinking about it since last weekend.

Bless you but I totally know how you feel with respect to this!! ((hugs))!

squ1rrel5

Funny thing was, we attempted to go to a castle today too (I love castles/old ruins) - we have never been to this one before even though I keep saying how lovely it looks....
Normally OH just drives past but today he was like 'oh shall we go in and walk up to the castle - it might be nice' but I just thought is this another teaser that isnt going to lead to anything... so I thought I'd try some tactics.... i said how I would LOVE to go up there and how beautiful the views would be but I moaned a little bit about the cost to get in (as it is quite expensive for a pile of old ruins) and I thought if he insisted on paying then my luck might be in... but instead he just said 'I suppose you're right, maybe we'll go again when we're feeling more flush' and we came home!!!!

PS.... Do you think men propose with a ring in a box or would they take the ring out and put it in their pocket/wallet or wherever??

I only ask because the other day I was cleaning and I accidentally (really, it wasnt even that hidden...silly boy) came across the location of THE box... I quickly looked away as I didnt want to ruin anything but was a little bit excited that I actually saw it.
Thing is when we came home from the castle and OH was otherwise occupied I quickly peeked and the box hadnt moved... so I was glad that I hadnt spent the money to go into the castle, nor walked the few miles up hill to get there only to be disappointed!! I think I might just have flung him offf the top if nothing had happened!!!
I just dont think he'd risk keeping it in his pocket in case he lost it. :eek:

I'm going to try and not sneak any more peeks - as I'll only disappoint myself the longer this goes on for!!!!! :rotfl:

carm_2

Hi girls! I thought I'd finally say hi and stop lurking. I don't belong in this thread but a month or so ago I stumbled across it and it has kept me intrigued ever since. I've been coming back pretty much every day to see how you're all getting on. Reading this thread has really moved me, and I've been close to tears at some points reading about all your frustrations and the rollercoasters you've been on!

I just really want to wish you all good luck, your boyfriends all need a kick up the bum because I don't know how they can't not snap you up YEARS ago! You're all so wonderful and lovely and reading about the teasing and the conversations made me want to go and smack them for you! I think it's a bit of an understatement to say you've all got the patience of a saint. I hope no one finds this post patronising or anything like that because it's really meant to be quite the opposite.

I hope you're all having a lovely weekend xx