Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

MrsDrink

((Verandi)) x

Brightside

aw verandi, sorry to hear you've had such an upset.

hope you have a good support network of friends and family around you to get you over this, and there is always here too.

time to be selfish and do what you want for a while and life will all fall back into place.

BugglyB

Hi Verandi, just delurking to say, hope you're ok and that you dont need to blow a huge ton of cash travelling, have a look at sites like workaway.info or helpx. You can go away and meet some new people and have a blast with your new found freedom. Best of luck to you for your future x

daisiegg

Verandi, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened sending lots of hugs

eleanor73

verandi wrote: »

Minerva your travel plans have inspired me. Ive been saving up money for ages, was hoping to buy a ring with some of it, the rest for a house deposit. But it doesn't look like I'm gonna need it for them anymore. I'm thinking of blowing the lot on three months travels over the summer. Got some time to kill before I start my job (if I still do) and when else am I ever gonna get three months free!

Do it Verandi! Have a wonderful trip and treat yourself!!

RDChick - sorry to hear that you are struggling a bit. It's obvious your partner loves you but it does appear that he is not massively great for your self esteem. It might be time to try (I know it's scary) to start doing things and going out without him so that you build a fab life of your own as well as a great life with him. I think sometimes I am too 'availabale' to my bf. I know that sounds crazy but when I am busy and I have a lot going on we make quality time together rather than just every night. He wants to see me rather than just sees me every day if that makes sense? When my life is quieter and I am at home all the time we just muddle along and we just don't get on as well. Maybe some would think it's sad we don't want to spend all our time togehter but I suppose it just works for us.

rdchick

eleanor73 wrote: »

Do it Verandi! Have a wonderful trip and treat yourself!!

RDChick - sorry to hear that you are struggling a bit. It's obvious your partner loves you but it does appear that he is not massively great for your self esteem. It might be time to try (I know it's scary) to start doing things and going out without him so that you build a fab life of your own as well as a great life with him. I think sometimes I am too 'availabale' to my bf. I know that sounds crazy but when I am busy and I have a lot going on we make quality time together rather than just every night. He wants to see me rather than just sees me every day if that makes sense? When my life is quieter and I am at home all the time we just muddle along and we just don't get on as well. Maybe some would think it's sad we don't want to spend all our time togehter but I suppose it just works for us.

Thanks Eleanor, I spoke to one of my long standing friends (he's a bit older than me, has no kids and a bit of a rubbish GF but that's a different story!) and he kinda made me realise that actually as much as I would love a ring on my finger I am only 23, I have a good 10 years to do all that, it's not the be all and end all if it doesn't happen now. He also said that because I am surrounded by people who are getting married / having kids I probably feel a bit left out or jealous. I guess if worse came to worst he could be my donor and I can still have kids even if I'm old and alone :rotfl:

I will stick around, I love hearing your stories but I am not going to worry about 'the one' or anything of that nature - when it happens it happens!

Also as for going out, that's a great idea, I have been trying to get myself out and about like going to the cinema and stuff so yeah, I will try and do that!

Verandi, travelling sounds awesome!! When I am DF I am getting myself as far away as I can, maybe volunteer in Africa, teach kids in Korea...

We are young!! The world is our oyster and we don't have to grow up so soon!

BIG HUGS!! xxx

squ1rrel5

Is there anyone else left on this thread still wanting to get married... feel a bit lonely now you're all changing your minds (or had it changed )

I'm seriously hoping that OH has something special up his sleeve when he gives me the ring. If he just asks me at home on a random day I shall be questioning why the wait. Sorry if that sounds ungrateful but from stuff hrs said I actually think he's got the ring back now... but no proposal, plus no special plans for the weekend... except picking up some garden stuff We bought on ebay! Hell probably ask on april fools day knowing my luck!

verandi

Haha I was thinking that the other day squirrels about April fools, you wouldn't know if it was for real or not! That'd be just my luck lol.

I'm sure he'll do it soon, maybe he's waiting til you're away on holiday?

squ1rrel5

Maybe he tried to throw me off the scent by saying the holiday was too long to wait.... but because he said that I'm on tenterhooks every single day.

I'll be happy if it is on holiday but have so many occasions coming up before then when I would have liked to make the announcement!!

Daisy-May*

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

Is there anyone else left on this thread still wanting to get married... feel a bit lonely now you're all changing your minds (or had it changed )

I'm still here and very much waiting still so you are not on your own!! (i wish your OH would hurry up as well - he is taking his time!)

I've been really busy with starting a new job so not had much free time recently to post.

I'm sorry to read the bad news from people on this thread, I hope everyone is ok xx