Waiting for a proposal - how did you stay sane?!

eleanor73

Old_Git wrote: »

havent you realised men just want to remain bachelors like their fathers .
(think about that one )

Don't get it.....I suppose I could try and work it out and 'think about it' but frankly I've better things to do. Thanks for the input though!

verandi

It looks like my time on this thread has come to an end. I wish I could say that it's because I'm now happily engaged. But I'm afraid it's the opposite. I don't really wanna go into it cos I'm pretty upset still. Suffice to say that he has done something that's hurt me so so much, and I don't think I can ever forgive him. Never thought I would be alone at 30. To be honest, the way I feel at the moment, alone is the only way I ever want to be. No-one can let you down or hurt you then.

Good luck to all of you. I've really enjoyed reading all of your ups and downs, you're all wonderful people and I've no doubt that you'll all be truly happy in the near future xx

74jax

verandi wrote: »

It looks like my time on this thread has come to an end. I wish I could say that it's because I'm now happily engaged. But I'm afraid it's the opposite. I don't really wanna go into it cos I'm pretty upset still. Suffice to say that he has done something that's hurt me so so much, and I don't think I can ever forgive him. Never thought I would be alone at 30. To be honest, the way I feel at the moment, alone is the only way I ever want to be. No-one can let you down or hurt you then.

Good luck to all of you. I've really enjoyed reading all of your ups and downs, you're all wonderful people and I've no doubt that you'll all be truly happy in the near future xx

Aw I'm so sorry for you, however at least you know now, before the ring was on your finger.

All the very very best to you, big hugs. x

rdchick

verandi wrote: »

It looks like my time on this thread has come to an end. I wish I could say that it's because I'm now happily engaged. But I'm afraid it's the opposite. I don't really wanna go into it cos I'm pretty upset still. Suffice to say that he has done something that's hurt me so so much, and I don't think I can ever forgive him. Never thought I would be alone at 30. To be honest, the way I feel at the moment, alone is the only way I ever want to be. No-one can let you down or hurt you then.

Good luck to all of you. I've really enjoyed reading all of your ups and downs, you're all wonderful people and I've no doubt that you'll all be truly happy in the near future xx

Oh Verandi, big hug, that sounds like you've had a horrid time, I hope you are ok and even if you choose to go it alone at least you know you'll be happier in the long run

Big hugs xxx

AllyS

verandi wrote: »

It looks like my time on this thread has come to an end. I wish I could say that it's because I'm now happily engaged. But I'm afraid it's the opposite. I don't really wanna go into it cos I'm pretty upset still. Suffice to say that he has done something that's hurt me so so much, and I don't think I can ever forgive him. Never thought I would be alone at 30. To be honest, the way I feel at the moment, alone is the only way I ever want to be. No-one can let you down or hurt you then.

Good luck to all of you. I've really enjoyed reading all of your ups and downs, you're all wonderful people and I've no doubt that you'll all be truly happy in the near future xx

Awww sweetie I am so so sorry, it will be ok though, it might take time but i am sure you will be very happy one day xxx

rdchick

eleanor73 wrote: »

Sorry RDchick for some reason I can't quote your post-Is there a reason you don't like going out with friends and having a dance?? I am not thinking that you should. I suppose it's because I do! I'm 31 and don't get me wrong I stay in soooo much more than I used to but I do still love a night out. I think I probably will do until I have kiddies (and even then I reckon I'll sneak out for the odd dance on a table!!) Does your partner know how much it upsets you for him to sit there in front of you and talk about how he 'doesn't want to be tied down'? I think he maybe deserved a bit of a kick in the shins for that one

I don't mind going out, don't get me wrong and I love to dance however I don't actually have many friends that I can go out with and the friends I do have are all married and don't like going out to clubs! Lol! Every time the bf and I go to clubs and even the works Xmas party girls chat him up, ask to have pics taken with him, dance with him and it's like I am not there. It breaks my heart. So I don't like going out with him to clubs etc. As my self esteem is pretty much rock bottom and that stuff doesn't help. Even at my birthday party we all dressed up as Disney characters, I went as Belle from Beauty and the Beast and he went as Woody from Toy Story, we were dancing and girls would come up and ask him questions like can they take him home to play with... Hello?!

I have been really questioning our relationship over the past couple of days, especially after Friday and his 'I don't know, I don't want to talk about it' when I questioned it when we got home as he gives me such mixed signals about the future I don't know if I can deal with that. I know what I want for a change, I want to get married and have kids for definite and the sooner the better I think. My brother and his wife are expecting their first child, which is my mum and dads first grandkid so they are bouncing off the walls and I am really excited for them too but mum asked me 'how many kids do you want?' today and then said 'I'm sure you won't have to wait too long'. I didn't have the guts to say 'well actually if it's up to the bf you won't be getting any grandkids from me'.

He bought up the conversation about moving back to Holland, while this sounds great I don't know a word of Dutch have no decent qualifications (I've got my degree but it's next to useless, especially if I can't speak Dutch) and I also have a massive debt around my neck so would need a decent wage pretty half sharpish... I don't think it's gonna happen, at least not for me...

Pretty much a pessimistic weekend really, did go shopping yesterday to buy the 'ingredients' for my nappy cake for my big bro's baby. Made me feel a bit better!

Hope everyone else had a lovely weekend in the sunshine! Xxx

findingmyownway

I am usually just a lurker on here now, but just wanted to say hi to Verandi and I hope things work out for the best in the long run. You know you can chat on here about anything you like

minerva_windsong

Oh Verandi, I'm really sorry No sensible advice I'm afraid but as others have said better you know now than before any big decisions had been made about marriage. Take care of yourself.

verandi

Thanks all. Means alot to read some kind words. Finding it really difficult at the moment. I burst into tears in the middle of the cafe at uni today in front of a load of strangers, had to sack off lecture and come home.

Minerva your travel plans have inspired me. Ive been saving up money for ages, was hoping to buy a ring with some of it, the rest for a house deposit. But it doesn't look like I'm gonna need it for them anymore. I'm thinking of blowing the lot on three months travels over the summer. Got some time to kill before I start my job (if I still do) and when else am I ever gonna get three months free!

squ1rrel5

Verandi, am so sorry to hear your news. Not much I can say apart from that I am thinking of you and hope that it all turns out okay. I know how hard these situations can be, just try and take some time out for yourself.

A good old night out with the girls or perhaps a holiday (with others or on your own) is sometimes a good a cure as any.

When this happened to me a few years back, it was awful and it did take me a long time to fully recover but I look back now and realise that it totally changed my life and I couldn't be happier. Sometimes stuff like this does happen for a reason...

Big hugs coming your way, don't feel the need to stay totally away from this board if you need to vent or please PM if you need to. X