Leaving your children with people

gingin_2

Your son is still young and I definitely found it hard at that age, it was also hard letting them go off to nursery. I'm not a fan of thees drop off creches the staff don't know the children and their needs properly and the children don't know anyone else but I do think at 3 or so its important for them to go to nursery and learn to socialise before school.

I do let mine go to family for weekends/ the night, so we can have a night out, we also have lots of reciprocal playdates but only when dd got to school.

peachyprice

Greener_Grass wrote: »

Im angry because she keeps going on about it and doesn't seem to understand why this is a big thing for both of us.

It's a big thing because you're making it a big thing.

blessings3

Then from what you say this is really nothing to do with your child care choices but your friendship.

ajaney

Greener_Grass wrote: »

Im angry because she keeps going on about it and doesn't seem to understand why this is a big thing for both of us.

From the friends point of view, she maybe realises it is a big thing & is trying to help you but going about it in the wrong way!

How do you feel he will react to going to preschool?

CH27

Greener_Grass wrote: »

Yes i go to plenty, He sees other children almost every day and socialises very well. When we are out he is a confident child and will happily play on his own, he is not clingy in the slightest.

That's good.
Maybe leaving his at the gym creche for an hour is your next step?

Greener_Grass

blessings3 wrote: »

Then from what you say this is really nothing to do with your child care choices but your friendship.

You're right, She irritates me at the best of times so this is just another thing she has annoyed me about.

Sambucus_Nigra

Do you think this guy would have had a CRB check? I'm thinking yes....

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-13683387

sooz

In a gym creche you are obliged to stay in the same building, so the staff can call you if he's upset or needs you.
At playgroup they might have a settling in session with parents, but after that you have to leave.

It is entirely up to you. But an hour in the creche with you in the same building is not the same as abandoning him.

Why not go and have a look at the creche, meet the staff and see what you really think, rather than getting angry with your friend for suggesting it.

mishkanorman

thinking back I dont think my first was 'left' with family much before a year, however it did him the world of good to be in the care of other people for short periods of time. He wasnt mentally scarred by it and because we did little and often, when it came to the big one of being at nursery without me, or his dad, for over an hour he was fine and would happily toddle off knowing we always came back to get him !

Its not dumping your child or burdening them on someone else, its getting them used to being their own person and comfortable in their own skin. Otherwise you will end up with a very clingy child who will feel abandoned when they HAVE to leave your side !

shellsuit

My son is 25 months old and my Dad babysits for him often, on the odd occasion we go out of an evening, or in the day when we want to pop somewhere. He had him for a week last year when we went on honeymoon and he's having him this October when we go away for our anniversary for 4 days. My Dad knows him inside out, knows all his demands and knows where everything is, so I don't worry at all.

My Mum and stepdad watched him though a few weeks ago but I did worry as they're not used to him at all.

I've put him in a creche 3 times while I was having my hair done for a consumer testing panel and he loved every minute of it! First time I was dreading thinking he would cry ~ he didn't even look at me when I was going lol!

I'm quite confident he will be fine when he starts pre school next September.





Do you and your husband not have any time together just the 2 of you? You should do ~ of course the little one is your responsibility, but where does adult time come into it? It's not mean to leave the little one with someone while you go out for the day or night ~ it's perfectly normal!