I am done

Darlyd

OP you do come across as a right selfish cow. However I think it's YOU that has the problems, You need counselling, Perhaps you think what you have got is to good for you, and you push them that try to love you away. In months to come If and when you leave you will regret it.

Please seek some help for yourself. Go away on your own or something, Your poor poor husband, he does not deserve this, you can't expect to take HIS money from him, that is so not fair. If you do decide you want out, then ask him for your 5k back, sign the house over to him and move on!

Southpaw18

"He is an amazing husband and father and devotes every minute to me and our daughter but it’s just not enough I want out."

So amazing you want his savings? God i love you ladies.

Women like you make me feel sorry for men doing time for the stresses you cause good people. Women can do awful things, yet we get all the grief. . . terrible.

Kid wasnt a scapegoat for a bit of cash then?

As for entitlement? Nothing, you might get whats yours but cheating is a breach of any chance to get anything that isnt yours. . so was it worth it?

Think we should horde women like you in a little town somewhere like District 13?!

and £35k in savings? hell, ill marry him!!

the_cat

I think we can all assume that the disappearance of the OP confirms this as a troll.......



The OP sure needs help, but not for any problem fabricated here

leos-mummy

I feel for your poor husband... he is a devoted father, cares for you and LO and you repay that by cheating and trying to get every penny you can out of him? If it was me I would be leaving in shame with my tail between my legs. You want your daughter to be cared for? How do you expect this to happen if your willing to take the poor man to the cleaners and pay God knows how much in legal fees? Lets hope your not one of these women who will use your kid as a weapon when you don't get what your after!

p_joker

Gleeful wrote: »

Guys! It's a TROLL!

1) Admits to cheating
2) Wants all the savings
3) Wants the house
4) Is going to go and live in a flat on income support....

There is so much there to indicate this is a troll post!

Don't fall for it.

what does that mean? troll? ive seen people say it a lot but what does it mean?

DVardysShadow

whitewing wrote: »

Don't be, because while it's totally possible there is a woman out there in similar circumstances, I would think this is a male troll.

Hmm. I think this is right. Someone who is in the process of being dumped and is is playing it from what he imagines is the perspective of his partner.Someone who is quite gratified by all the 'selfish cow' comments.

But the one thing he cannot do is be objective about his own role in all of this.

Cookiee

OP - Put yourself in your husbands shoes.

If he had cheated on you so soon after your marriage would you have stayed with him? If you had £35k saved up would you just hand over half to him?

I think the answer would be NO! so why would you expect him to hand over his money to you? You need to get some self-respect because not a lot of people will give it to you if this is your attitude.

I understand that sometimes people fall out of love. It is not sometimes down to anyones fault but if it is now over then you need to show your daughter your an adult. Your main priority should be the walfare of your daughter and if you are unable to give this to her and your husband is then the Adult decision is to come to a joint custody agreement.

If you are just posting on here for a reaction then you have one and just proves that you need serious help as people have taken time out to offer support to genuine poeple who need advice and you are just causing people to get their backs up with posts like this!

Cookiee

Caroline_a

p_joker wrote: »

what does that mean? troll? ive seen people say it a lot but what does it mean?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_(Internet)

paddy's_mum

sarah_23 wrote: »

[FONT=&quot]Hi All,[/FONT]
I have hurt my husband a few times in the past by cheating on him

You don't say whether this was a single act with each of several different men or an affair with just the one man.

Whether or not you are trolling, and leaving moralising aside, what you surely need to do is find out why you were so willing to cheat so early in the marriage to a man you yourself describe as loving and loyal. Only when you work out what led you down that path to hurt, trouble and destruction will you be equipped to make sensible decisions and move on with your life.

Living in a loveless and troubled marriage is corrosive so that leaving is sometimes the only realistic thing to do. However, given that there are several problems which are likely to be difficult to resolve, I suggest that sound legal advice is really the only way forward so that both you and your husband know where you stand and how the courts would be likely to react if eventually you have to resort to law.

sarah_23

paddy's_mum wrote: »

You don't say whether this was a single act with each of several different men or an affair with just the one man.

Whether or not you are trolling, and leaving moralising aside, what you surely need to do is find out why you were so willing to cheat so early in the marriage to a man you yourself describe as loving and loyal. Only when you work out what led you down that path to hurt, trouble and destruction will you be equipped to make sensible decisions and move on with your life.

Living in a loveless and troubled marriage is corrosive so that leaving is sometimes the only realistic thing to do. However, given that there are several problems which are likely to be difficult to resolve, I suggest that sound legal advice is really the only way forward so that both you and your husband know where you stand and how the courts would be likely to react if eventually you have to resort to law.

I did nto physically do anything I simply spoke to a few guys on the phone and over the internet.

Having talked to with the correct people today I am entitled to half. also all women settle so why can't I?