I am done

whitewing

jess1974 wrote: »

I'm almost ashamed to be a woman after reading this selfish cows thread...

Don't be, because while it's totally possible there is a woman out there in similar circumstances, I would think this is a male troll.

TeamLowe

it used to be that a wife could get records of her husband's bank accounts to prove in court their assests and vice versa
however in a recent case a judge ruled this was invasion of privacy so that basically if the husband refused to admit to the savings, and it was in a sole account, there was very little the wife could do to prove he has the money.
so hopefully your husband has his 35k in an account somewhere you have no access to and it will be your word against his in court. so he can choose to set up a trust for his daughter or give her a nice room or any other excuse you can find for having some of it x x

happy_lass

sarah_23 wrote: »

[FONT=&quot]Hi All,[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]I have been married for 5 years now and have a 1 year old daughter.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]I have hurt my husband a few times in the past by cheating on him in the first few months of our marriage and no matter how hard I try I just can't be the wife he wants me to be. [/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]We decided to have a child after just over a year ago as everything was going great but since her birth mentally I just can’t cope and seem to do everything wrong. We argue all the time of things that always seem to be my fault and I have been on antidepressants for a few weeks and tried everything but I just want out of this marriage.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]He is an amazing husband and father and devotes every minute to me and our daughter but it’s just not enough I want out. We purchased our first house about a year ago from which I put in £5k for the deposit and he paid for all the fixture and fittings and also has paid for all the bills since. I pay for our daughter’s clothes and shopping.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]He has also has around 35k of savings which he had before we get married of which I want access to for my daughters sake. I also want my share of the house as I am planning to take our daughter to a flat and live on single parents allowance, I don’t want to stay in this house. Like every human I have a right to be happy and I am tired of people calling me names I just want what’s best.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]I will stay as close to him as possible so he can access to her whenever he wants.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]Am I entitled to his savings and the house? And can he use the fact that I cheated and was on antidepressants to stop me from getting the money? He would never fight for custody.[/FONT]

are you for real?????. You want access to his money which is HIS? If you are that desperately unhappy then do what most of us have to do when unhappy about something, and that is change your attitude. Leave him if you are unhappy and let him be happy with someone who truely loves him. Start your own life in your own flat/house with your own job earning your own money !!!!!!!!!

pearl123

pinkshoes wrote: »

Selfish selfish selfish selfish! I really hope this thread is a joke.

I'm inclined to believe it's a troll.

euronorris

sarah_23 wrote: »

I need money so I can decorate her new room and make our new flat as nice as possible for her. Having talked to a few people I have every right to that money.

Decorating her room is your main concern? Not a roof, food, heat, water, clothes etc? I would suggest that you start saving for all of that now if you are serious.

And, if you believe you are entitled to the money, and are sure about going after it, then do it. See a solicitor and work it out. Talking on here will do nothing.

Oh yes, you don't want to use the courts? Well, tough. I can't really see your husband just agreeing to give you half his hard earned cash just because you asked for it and your friends say you're entitled. Can you?

pearl123

OP - You're having a laugh !!!

vicx

He's the best dad and husband yet you want to leave him?! It seems like its all about money to you.

I'm sure he would be happy to give you 5k to see the back of a cheating wife that is trying to take him to the cleaners.

You want 5k plus 17.5k of his savings to decorate your daughters room. Since when did it cost 17.5k to decorate a bedroom? You could near enough buy a flat out right for that price.

I'm sure he will set up a trust fund for your daughter without you having access to it and leave all his savings to your daughter.. in his will.

lisawood78

I believe op lives under the nearest bridge.

make_me_wise

Hmmmmm cant work out if you are a troll or not. One thing is for sure you come across as a selfish, money grabbing bint who only has her own interests at heart. In every reply you have made on this thread you ask how much cash you would be entitled too.

Is it a case of trip, trip, trip trap whos that going over my bridge or grab, grab, grab?

If I were married to someone like you Id pay you to go. You wouldn't be taking a kid anywhere though. Dont be so sure this devoted dad you occasionally throw into the mix wont fight for custody of a child he adores.

Stephb1986_2

If I was him and you wanted half of my savings I'd tell you to jog on!! You say your a good mother but a bad wife by your own admission yet you want half of his savings for what??? You haven't even "earned" them by being a good wife.

If my H2B wanted half of my savings I'd tell him to take a run and jump of the largest bridge in the world!

You must be having a laugh!