I am done

bluenoseam

In the event it's not a troll

I'd have booted your backside to the kerb at the very start after cheating, problems or not it does not excuse the fact you cheated on him, now you expect to get your grubby hands on some of his savings? If i were him, i'd divorce you citing YOUR cheating, put a sum of money into a trust fund for your daughter and subsequently start proceedings aimed at getting full custody of the child.

katerinasol

I don't think it's necessarily a troll. At least she is being honest about what happened. I'm sure it's not the most pleasant thing to live with, so maybe you people should try to be nicer.

emmaanddave

sarah_23 wrote: »

He works full time how on earth can he manage her? She spends every day with me as I only works nights. Nothing would change for her apart from her bedroom a few nights a week. I will make sure he has as much time as he can with her.

Working full time will give him more than enough finances to put her in childcare, like everyone else who works full time does. However, you working nights would be more tricky as there is no childcare, unless family, who cover nights. IMHO your husband is in a better position to look after your daughter. Maybe you need a break to get sorted and clear your head....don't sponge after his money as that just makes you come across as money digging, selfish and only interested in how much you can get. Yes you may be intitled to SOME things but NOT all. You said you are not in a good frame of mind and want out, don't you think moving out will cause you further distress....it is not easy and very stressful living alone. Money does not solve your problems, only covers it up. No child needs a fully kitted, newly decorated flash room with 15k in the bank for savings. YOU have to start saving for YOUR daughter if you want her to have savings. If you want to seperate then if your current husband wants to start his own saving pot for her then that is up to him.

shegirl

You want half of his savings to put in trust for your daughter? What planet do you live on?:rotfl:Yeah,sure it would stay there and you wouldn't request maintenance right...yeah,we believe you

That,aswell as money from the house..morally you deserve nothing.

pinkshoes

sarah_23 wrote: »

He works full time how on earth can he manage her? She spends every day with me as I only works nights. Nothing would change for her apart from her bedroom a few nights a week. I will make sure he has as much time as he can with her.

I'm sure he wouldn't mind changing his hours... He'd manage. And how can you say nothing will change other than her bedroom?! Do you know the extent something like this will have on a child?!?

Perhaps re-read all your posts and try and see what a self-centred selfish cow you come across as!

Just to try and make yourself happy, you're going to screw up TWO other lives and make them miserable instead.

Selfish selfish selfish selfish! I really hope this thread is a joke.

balletshoes

sarah_23 wrote: »

5k and half his savings for my daughter, which the majority will go into a trust fund which I won't touch.

half his savings for your daughter - if thats what you really want it for it can be set up in a trust fund for her now, by her Dad, and with stipulations that you are not one of the trustees. That sounds reasonable, doesn't it?

Spring_Time

I really hope you would not be awarded half of his savings that he worked hard for BEFORE he met you. Let him be the one to set something up (Trust) for his little girl for when she is older. You have no need to be a part of that. If this is true...in all honesty you only put £5k into the purchase of the house, you would of spent more then that over the years on rent. So you have had a good return on your £5k. So go, take your poor little girl and arrange for him to pay maintenance for HIS daughter, not you, his daughter.

BitterAndTwisted

At marriage all of your savings became a joint asset. If you split the most that you can hope for is half. And half of the negative equity on the property to come out of that and the estate agent's commission on selling as well. If you decide to walk you could be in danger of walking away with nothing but the clothes you stand up in and 20% of your husband's net income in child support.

How attractive is giving it all up now?

If your husband knows how you betrayed him barely five minutes after getting married you're lucky to have a husband at all!

jess1974

I'm almost ashamed to be a woman after reading this selfish cows thread...

Melonade

I don't usually get involved in this kind of stuff but seriously OP are you serious?

I'm sure if you want to leave then it's up to you to foot the bill, specially as your poor husband doesn't actually seem to be doing anything wrong!! Why on earth you expect him to tip up half of HIS savings... and you did say in the first post that would you be entitled to house/savings I suppose after he gives you what you think your entitled to you'll then want some child payment thingy stuff too?

If you cheated in the beginning then maybe the clue was already there?

Good Luck with your daughters room, will there be crystal chandilers hanging from each corner?

I'm not usually such a cow but this isn't a real thread, surely!!