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Boyfriend help

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  • Thanks Lilybeth.
  • make_me_wise
    make_me_wise Posts: 1,509 Forumite
    I have a question for you OP. Does this guy often try and play mind games? Only in your first post you said he was messing around asking to see your messages. Not the behaviour of someone who is totally anti sharing what goes on between a person and their friends etc. Then when you respond by asking him he gets cagey and leads you to mistrust him. When you end up in a state and question him he turns things on you and gets annoyed.

    He sounds like a right Jekyll and Hyde. I am shocked he is 38 and behaves this way. I thought he was in his late teens by the way you were describing him.

    Maybe he is heading for a mid life crisis. Do yourself a huge favour and let him get on that bus by himself. Wave him off then run.
  • If i get annoyed with him for any reason he'll often turn it on me and make it all my fault. Like last night he started having a go at me saying he does so much for me so i shouldn't go on at him. When i tried to say that just because he does things for me doesn't mean he can do what he likes he started shouting over me and i couldn't get a word in edgeways. He stormed off in the end after telling me i was paranoid and couldn't handle any woman even talking to him. This isn't true i don't often get jealous, i should after everything he's done but i don't.
  • make_me_wise
    make_me_wise Posts: 1,509 Forumite
    He sounds controlling and like a verbal bully to me OP. You have to kiss alot of frogs before you meet the prince *sigh*. Chalk him down to experience, move on and find someone who will respect you and treat you well.
  • justanotherregularuser
    justanotherregularuser Posts: 24 Forumite
    edited 6 June 2011 at 11:06PM
    I thought the Prince thing was a fairy tale, i've yet to meet one.
  • diable
    diable Posts: 5,258 Forumite
    I thought the Price thing was a fairy tale, i've yet to meet one.

    Money Grabber ;o))
  • diable
    diable Posts: 5,258 Forumite
    Do you have children together or do you have your own as you may be in an awkward position?
  • Yes we do have a child together or it'd be easy for me to just leave.
  • diable
    diable Posts: 5,258 Forumite
    Makes it awkward for both of you then.

    You really need to think this over, is this an immature reaction from both of yourselves as there are trust issues from the past and it's also worth considering that some people react uncontrollably when accused of something.
  • scooby088
    scooby088 Posts: 3,385 Forumite
    shegirl wrote: »
    :rotfl::rotfl::T

    Just felt like adding,I don't get why so many people seem to think that couples should share their login details and allow access to their personal things.I have friends who think it's horrific that me and my oh don't share ours and don't even have each other on facebook anymore (there were problems caused by said friends that caused upset and worry),they think it's horrific and that sharing details is showing trust...personally I think it's showing lack of trust!! Everyone is entitled to their personal space

    I agree with this 100% my OH said you know all my passwords and i said change em as i dont want to know em. We did have each other on facebook but we soon got rid of one another as we didn't like what others were writing. It doesn't show trust as when i am on facebook the OH can see who or if i speak to anyone on there, don't worry me as i only write stupid stuff anyway.
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