Heartbroken!

suki1964

leos-mummy wrote: »

My rent is always paid were not on the streets. My son is loved and cared for. Trust me, im far from a bad mother

So why did you post on this very thread that you had given the oh the rent money to go on a four day bender and that the rent was now not paid and no idea where you were going to find it?

May inreiterate what others have already said and walk away fromthis thread as you obviously can't keep up with the stories you are coming up with and also add it may be a good idea to delete your profile and start again if you ever want any credibility on here cos right now most of us are thinking either troll or Chav mother

andrealm

leos-mummy wrote: »

I dont think its fair being called a bad mother, no-one is perfect. My OH has admitted his problem and I am going to support him. When things between us are good their great. Obviously Ive been angry the past few days and things have been pretty one-sided but he is a good person taking care of me and our son, taking care of me when i had PND etc. Thanks for all your advice and will probably look it again in the future whether that be for something completely different or not, things are nowhere near perfect between us but not willing to give up at the first sign of trouble. If there wasnt love in my heart i wouldnt be with him

So he has admitted his problem, but is he going to do anything about it? Or is it just talk?

leos-mummy

Hes off the drink for a while. My rent may be late but i wont be kicked out. I have a crap landlord and have to withhold my rent sometimes after waiting months and months for repairs. Im no troll nor a chav mother... we only know what people are like from their posts... this is only one aspect of my life and although you's judge me on what i post the people who matter to me judge me on all aspects of my life. Thanks again for your support and advice and i hope it will continue in the future... if you's didnt want to get involved you's wouldnt have posted

rachbc

ha ha ha ha enough already...

if you are for real I wish your son all the very best of luck fro the future....if not well done, you had a great audience for 14 pages...good work - but I too am out!

make_me_wise

leos-mummy wrote: »

Hes off the drink for a while.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Perfect all sorted then. If you's ever need any help in the future when hes back on the drink you's pop back and we's see what we's can all do for you's.

essexgirly

Yes we do only know people from what they post..... As an outsider, and to be honest in the same position as everybody else who has posted. We can only comment from what you have written. He has been on a four day bender, you were frantic/worried he had sexted somebody else, the rent may/may not be paid, your insecure.... etc etc etc.... and yes the list will go on.... You asked for advice and support, from what I've read, you got 100 per cent backing, from people who were not JUDGING you, but what you had told them. They were only thinking of your best interests, you chose not to listen, lots of people with lots of experience, who probably, like you, were in those situations and have lived and learned and gained experience. People only judge when they have to. Your son will not benefit from this, and you need to start loving yourself and being aware of who you are and what you want, before putting any man first.

I'm not lecturing, but like many others who have listened to you go on and on.... We have lived those experiences and have come out on top. Stop complaining and start doing. Your in denial lovely, your complaining and defending and your enabling. Get out whilst you can and your child is young enough not to be affected. Dont put up, or shut up, jfdi (just F****ing do it).

Good luck, cos you need it

Dawning

suki1964 wrote: »

right now most of us are thinking either troll or Chav mother

I'm hearing music...'In The Hall Of The Mountain King' :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Errata

ah well, the little boy has a great future to look forward to as he'll be living in a home with a physically violent mother and a drunken father.

peachyprice

Jacka-flaming-nory

Money_maker

Money_maker wrote: »

I really think the posters on here are wasting their time. Every so often you get a thread with these horror stories of 'partners' who treat them like a bit of dog !!!! stuck to their shoe.

Everyone wastes their time explaining that nothing will change unless the OP and partner sit down and instigate it. Many reveal life histories of similar problems - all with the same net end result.

OP usually gets defensive and explains that their partner is a 'good' person, thread goes on a while then dies a natural death.

Three months later it all starts again and so forth.

IF you cannot sit down and have an adult conversation without an argument
IF your partner cannot see that there is a drink problem here
IF you are prepared to carry the family alone without your partners help regularly
IF you are considering another child by him
IF you feel he is such a catch that you couldn't bear another woman having him
IF you think he is treating you better than a doormat
IF you want to make excuses for him

Then no one can help you on here. See you in a few months.

Told you so