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Relationship advice needed - boyfriend hasn't moved in
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I have often told my OH had my mother still be alive i would still be living with her, nothing to do with me not wanting to be with my OH just that i only had 17 years of my life before my mother died and i'd liked to have known her for a lot longer. There is also the fact that he might be a mommies boy and probably has got life pretty cushy at the moment. Whereas when he moves in with you he will be 100% independent some people cannot cope with that.0
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Is there a cultural reason for the mother demanding that her sons and wives/children must live in the family compound?
I'm with Errata on this one, is there a cultural reason that might explain it?Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)
December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.100 -
Is there a cultural reason for the mother demanding that her sons and wives/children must live in the family compound?
Well, they are a Muslim family, but I don't think that's any excuse. I don't really think it's anything to do with that - his brother married a Muslim girl and he's getting the same treatment.0 -
Not an excuse LOL, nor a treatment, more an expectation. It's quite usual for the wife to move in with the husband as part of his family. Used to be the norm here once upon a time.Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
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Low carb, low oxalate Primal + dairy
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Well, they are a Muslim family, but I don't think that's any excuse. I don't really think it's anything to do with that - his brother married a Muslim girl and he's getting the same treatment.
It's not an excuse, it's a reason. Don't expect him to move in with you, and make sure you get this month's rent off him because I suspect that will be the last financial contribution he makes..................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0 -
Well, they are a Muslim family, but I don't think that's any excuse. I don't really think it's anything to do with that - his brother married a Muslim girl and he's getting the same treatment.
May I ask are you a Muslim?
Are they objecting to you because you don't share their religion & cultural habits?Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
May I ask are you a Muslim?
Are they objecting to you because you don't share their religion & cultural habits?
I suspect not, given that she doesn't appear aware of the importance of family in the Muslim religion, law and culture.Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
48 down, 22 to go
Low carb, low oxalate Primal + dairy
From size 24 to 16 and now stuck...0
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