Those who are waiting to TTC

RebekahR

Xaniwoop wrote: »

I'll post my birth stories if you like - or will that make you more nervous?

Running behind here as I have visitors so haven't been on for a few days. I never say no to a birth story!

RebekahR

kavics17 wrote: »

laurabllue wrote: »

*sneaks in*

Hi Ladies!


I've been on the pill for about 7 years so I'm worried it'll take ages for my cycle to regulate one I come off it. But at the same time, my preriods were so irregular in the first place I don't really want to come off it unless we're actively trying - it had the terrible habit of showing up when it wasn't wanted!QUOTE]

I was on the pill between the age of 17 and 25. Came off it and my cycle is as regular as it was back than. The only problem I occured is the bl..y pain I experience, it's really really strong every month!

Same here in regards to the pain! I had so forgotten the strength of it until it hit me again last month!

sarahevie

Hiya ladies, please can I join in.

I've got a DD1 who's 3 in October, DD2 will be 1 in July and we are contemplating a third. Probably TTC end of the year so our others will be 4/2 with new baby. We are currently 26/27

Would love more children but have had a hard time previously, DD1 unplanned and OH really not keen. Managed to find an illegal abortion place when I was 29 weeks pregnant. Didn't hold her for first 6 months of her life.

DD2 born with 8% chance of survival due to heart and lung problems. Was detected on a 12 week scan so we had a tough decision to make and then a hellish pregnancy. Now got 96% chance of survival, will be same as any other child by two if she stays as she is. She's my miracle.

The pregnancies of our girls pushed our relationship to the limit and I'm not sure I could emotionally manage another pregnancy like the one I had with DD2. It was one of those things though and not genetic, so no reason why I can't.

OH would love a boy and I'd just like another baby.

Doglover

Hi ladies, just popping on to say that when I was prepping to TTC I would have loved a thread like this! DH and I spent about 2 years sorting finances and accomodation out before being able to come off birth control. It got a bit depressing at times but I can now day it's been worthwhile.

Best of luck to you all and stick to your goals - it does happen!

Xaniwoop

It all started with a show just before bed the day after my due date. I was woken by pains at 1ish. Dozed on and off, pains were every 10 minutes and seemed quite regular. Despite being determined not to be a typical first time mum I called out the midwife at about 3. She told me I was definitely in labour – which was all I needed to hear – but wasn’t established yet and to call again later on. I got Ben to hook up the TENs machine and then go back to bed while I lay on the sofa.

Pottered round the house all morning contractions building in intensity but still controlled by the TENs. At about 12 Ben rang the midwives. He did a great job reminding me of ways we had discussed to cope with the pain, such as leaning on my birthing ball, breathing more deeply, keeping my shoulders relaxed and sitting cross-legged. The midwives arrived about 2ish They thought they’d soon be off as I seemed too calm to be in established labour, however, when Kay examined me I was 4-5 cms and they decided to stay. Ben started to blow up the birthing pool while I bounced on my birthing ball.

I got into the pool at 3 and it was heaven, I just chilled out and took every contraction as it came and time just slipped by. At about 6.30 I decided I needed a bit more pain relief and asked for the gas and air so Sue phoned the second midwife to bring it. I had another examination in the pool at around 9 and was told that I had an anterior lip on the cervix and should wait a little before pushing. I experimented with different positions in the pool, floating on my back was very comfortable but not very effective so I soon settled back into the kneeling over the side position that I had used for most of the labour.

Things had started to slow down and so the midwives suggested I get out of the pool and go to the toilet. They had me use the one upstairs so the change of position would have maximum effect. I did this twice, it was also good to get me away from the gas and air as it had made me a little spaced out and unable to focus. On the second trip to the loo, Sue had me squat backwards on the toilet and push, this seemed to get things moving and while I was hunched over the sink I felt Florence shift downwards and knew it was time to deliver. I waddled back downstairs and got into the pool – the gas and air had mysteriously disappeared. I assumed my all fours position supported by the side of the pool and pushed! It took quite a bit of pushing but finally my waters broke and Florence shot out all in one big push at 11.07pm. Ben reached out and caught her. I turned around and the first thing I said was ‘where did that baby come from?’ Clearly I was a bit spaced out! Went on to have a lovely relaxed time leaning back on Ben cuddling my new baby in the warm water.

Xaniwoop

Labour started the night before the due date but having already had one false alarm it took a while for me to be convinced I was in labour. I
sniffed my clary sage impregnated hanky, listened to my hypnotherapy CD and waited. I couldn’t get back to sleep so I went downstairs and watched TV. Ben came down after a bit and helped me put the TENs machine on, then made me a hot chocolate and got me some paracetamol and went back to bed. Having dragged a midwife from her bed when I was in labour with Florence I was determined not to over-react this time around.

I dozed on the sofa for as couple of hours just waking for the contractions and going straight back to sleep afterwards. Around 3am I decided that all this lying down wasn’t going to help get the baby out so I hopped on the birthing ball but sitting on it was incredibly uncomfortable so I returned to the sofa where I had a really big contraction. I remember thinking that if this was early on then I was never going to get through this with no pain relief. I felt the need to use the toilet so headed for the utility room. As I sat down I realised that I didn’t want to use the toilet I wanted to have a baby! I tried to call for Ben, still snug upstairs in bed, but at that moment I had another huge contraction which took my breath away and resulted in me dropped my TENs controller and the batteries falling out – that was the end of that! As soon as it was over I bellowed for Ben and he raced downstairs. ‘Do you want me to call the midwives?’ he asked ‘no call an ambulance!’ I yelped. It took a couple of seconds to sink in but Ben soon grabbed the phone and was relaying the details to ambulance control.

After another contraction I told him that I was going to have this baby NOW! He asked me what I wanted him to do and I said to put a towel on the floor and help me to kneel on it . He did this and with one more contraction and one more push Beatrice’s head was out. Ben was still on the phone to ambulance control describing what was happening. He then helped me move from a kneeling position into a squat so I could catch her as she came out. With one last push out she came and I scooped her up and held her to my chest, pulling off my top to put her on my skin. We had done it all by ourselves!

RebekahR

Wow how exciting! I sooo love birth stories!

bigzippy

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Yay! You joined me! I had visions of me talking to an empty thread with tumbleweed blowing around.

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

If people think this thread is pointless, I am happy to let it die off. I will not, however, post on the main thread. I know the majority of posters are happy for us to be there but the minority are VERY vocal about their opinions and I personally am trying to be sensitive to everyone's feelings. A couple of posters have said on numerous occasions that they will no longer be posting, yet they come back to swipe at those who are WTTTC. I for one don't want to have to tread on eggshells.

Financially (and this is MSE after all) the needs of those who are waiting (e.g. to clear debts etc) are different to those of those who are actively trying which is why (from a moneysaving point of view) I think we probably are better off separate.

Note that the main thread seems to have calmed now

euronorris wrote: »

I think the fact that we have some members on here, who have never previously posted on the other thread, shows that there was a need for a separate thread anyway.

I think the fact (as Euro said) that a fair number of newbies have joined you on here means that there is a demand for it. Regardless of how I feel about the main TTC thread and what happened on it, if others feel more comfortable posting on here than on the main one, then it's serving a purpose.

That being said, I'm sad it came to this.:o

I'm even a little wary of going back once I am actively trying to conceive. What if I get pregnant on the first month(I wish!!), or 2nd or even 6th? I want to be able to announce that without fear of a backlash.

I REALLY hope you don't feel like that. As far as I'm concerned, if you've been planning a baby for 6 months and the first cycle you remove the (contraceptive) barriers it happens for you, then that's like (mentally at least) you've been TTC for 6months...iyswim. Either way, I'd be happy for you.

And by the time you guys get to the TTC thread and BFP announcing the current ones will've cleared out to the preg threads anyway

Good luck with prepping for TTC guys

MrsBryan_2

Can I join in too please?? Such a good idea to start this thread, well done ladies! I've lurked on the other post but would never have posted, so this is great!

As someone whose 2 best friends have had fertility problems (1 currently 10wks pregnant with 2nd IUI, 3years TTC, the other still no joy after 7 years of TTC, been saving up £7000 to try IVF), this waiting to TTC is scaring the hell out of me!
I'm 28, OH is 30, we've been together been together 12 years and I've never been on any contraception (very very careful lol)! Have thought I was pregnant many a time due to late period but it always happens when I'm stressed!
Sometimes I worry how we've never had any 'accidents' and can I even get pregnant?
My cycle is spot on, regular as clockwork, always has been. But I worry all the time, thinking it might not happen.

We're waiting until after we're married (3 weeks to go!!-eek!) and had our honeymoon (probably September time) to TTC, really unsure as to what to do leading up to it, Folic acid etc? Do you take them just when you're actively trying or can I take them before?

It's interesting to hear everyones stories and experiences x

euronorris

Morning All!

Guess what?! My OH has fixed my laptop! WAHOOOOOOO!!! It probably won't last much longer, a year tops, but it gives me some breathing space to save up for a new one.

Welcome to all our newbies! And thank you Xaniwoop for sharing your birth stories! I'd love to be able to have a natural birth but my eldest sister had to have a c-section both times. My other sister is now pregnant, so we'll see how she gets on. And I've asked my sister, and my sister in law (who had a natural birth first time, and then a c-section with the twins), which type of birth they'd chose if they could have, and both said natural birth. The reason being that recovery time was much, much quicker.

MrsBryan - I believe the docs advise to start taking folic acid 3 months before TTC, so I would say that now is a good time for you to start taking them. I am unsure of the recommended dosages though, so will have to look that up.

A little more about me ladies. I'm 28 and OH is 31. We have the finances to sort first, and we also need to move into a bigger, more suitable place first. Am really hopeful for OH to get a local contract this year so that we can finally buy somewhere, but I'm really not sure if this will happen anymore as OH is getting a strong impression that there is going to be a merger or takeover at his work. I hate that, it's the thing I hate the most as I can't control what his work will/won't do, but it has a big impact on our plans. Grrrrr.

Anyway, some PMA.....4 day week for me this week! Woop! Am heading off to Birmingham on Friday for my geeky convention thing. I am soooooooo looking forward to it. Gonna have my pic taken with Jensen Ackles! SWOON!

Hope you're all having good days!

xx