Those who are waiting to TTC

Miss_Bolan

Ellie83 wrote: »

I know we are very lucky toothfairy. We will have to live a very frugal lifestyle but it is much more than most people have at the moment. But I still wish I had a job too, to remove a bit of the financial pressure off my husband's shoulders...

Which leads me to what Miss Bolan wrote (hello Miss Bolan!). I am asking myself the same questions when I go to bed. I think because deep down it scares me to become a mother, I'll try to focalise my anxiety on something else. So my latest thing is to wonder whether I should finish my PhD asap, get a job and wait a year or 2. Or maybe find a small permanent p-t job to fit around the PhD (which could take some time). That would mean that I would have a job to go back to once I'm ready to go back to work. But then it'll probably 2+ years and that is not taking into account the time it could take to get pregnant...

Although, as it stands, we'll TTC at the beginning of 2013, which means that I could stay home, study and take care of a mini-Ellie. But will I have the courage to do it? That is the question......

Hi Optimistic-Mummy: how are you doing at the moment?

I see we all think the same then :-) I think I am ready to be a mum, I can't wait to have someone call me 'mummy', step children are wondeful, but I actually think it makes me even more aware that I don't have my own child when I am caring for my step children :-)

it's hard to settle on one plan I think when there are so many things you could do, but I am sure you'll figure it out. I think we are going to start TTC in April 2013 when our debt is down a bit, I think it will take time to conceive anyway and hopefully baby will come towards the end of my husbands course, if it's before then then that's just fate (thats what I tell myself anyway!)

Ellie83

optimistic-mummy wrote: »

im good ty hun how are you ? im aiming to have the debt paid by the new year. march at the latest. keeping my fingers crossed im slightly getting impatient because its so near but it feels so far. xxx

That's exciting! It looks like I'll reach my goal weight earlier than I thought too I'm losing so fast at the moment, my clothes are falling off me

Glad to see the debt busting is still working. You've inspired me on your diary. I have entered over 50 bar codes for CDs, DVDs, video games on MusicMagpie and some of them, because they're foreign, fetch a good price :rotfl:

Ellie83

Miss_Bolan wrote: »

I see we all think the same then :-) I think I am ready to be a mum, I can't wait to have someone call me 'mummy', step children are wondeful, but I actually think it makes me even more aware that I don't have my own child when I am caring for my step children :-)

it's hard to settle on one plan I think when there are so many things you could do, but I am sure you'll figure it out. I think we are going to start TTC in April 2013 when our debt is down a bit, I think it will take time to conceive anyway and hopefully baby will come towards the end of my husbands course, if it's before then then that's just fate (thats what I tell myself anyway!)

We all have our anxieties when it comes to the future, especially at our age. I'm 29, not much older than you, but next year I'll be 30 :eek: Not that I'll be much different at 30 than I was at 29, but it is a psychological milestone. Hence why I think my husband and I are just going to go with the flow and TTC beginning of 2013 and see what happens

Of course being a mum is different to being a step-mum. Your step-children, even if you love them and they love you, have their own mother (unless your husband is a widower?). And it is wise to get rid of the debt before trying. You should go see Optimistic-Mummy's diary on the DFW board. If anything I learnt a lot about budgeting there, and I am not even in debt.

Ellie83

A friend of mine sent me an article on co-sleeping. Have you ever heard of it? I used to think it was dangerous to have your baby in bed with you but apparently they now do special cribs that you can put next to your bed? I have always wondered how I would react if I had to wake up, get up, walk to another room to (breast)feed every 3 hours... Would I be able to survive? :rotfl:

clearing_out_my_pockets

Ellie83 wrote: »

I'm 29, not much older than you, but next year I'll be 30 :eek:

Hey!!! Don't write us 30-year olds off just yet

Ellie83

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Hey!!! Don't write us 30-year olds off just yet

No of course not As I said, it won't make any difference physically, but psychologically, it is a huge step I'm actually glad that I waited until I am older. I was not mature enough in my mid-twenties: I could barely take care of myself :eek:

(PS: I didn't mean to offend any ladies over 30, soon I'll be part of the club too :rotfl: )

clearing_out_my_pockets

Ellie83 wrote: »

No of course not As I said, it won't make any difference physically, but psychologically, it is a huge step I'm actually glad that I waited until I am older. I was not mature enough in my mid-twenties: I could barely take care of myself :eek:

(PS: I didn't mean to offend any ladies over 30, soon I'll be part of the club too :rotfl: )

No offense taken!

amus

Ellie83 wrote: »

A friend of mine sent me an article on co-sleeping. Have you ever heard of it? I used to think it was dangerous to have your baby in bed with you but apparently they now do special cribs that you can put next to your bed? I have always wondered how I would react if I had to wake up, get up, walk to another room to (breast)feed every 3 hours... Would I be able to survive? :rotfl:

I have read about that but its not something I would do, theyre so tiny and delicate I dont think I would ever sleep properly for worrying that I would roll over or the covers would go over the baby.

Would definitely recommend bf at nightime its so much easier than going downstairs and messing with bottles, and if you can get them on the boob before they really start crying they tend to just drift back off quite quickly (mine did anyway!). I kept our kids in the room with us for the first 8 months.

browneyedbazzi

Good morning all and welcome Mrs Bolan and becciboop!

I hope everyone has had a good week. I've been far too stressed to even feel broody this week! I'm so glad that it's the weekend and I'll be able to catch up on sleep, tidy the house and just relax a bit.

I had some good news yesterday about my new job - the advertised salary for it was quite a bit lower than what I currently earn and I was a bit worried about the impact that would have especially after seeing what we'll have to pay in rent in the new location (we'd have been able to get by but it would mean having to rely on my partner to pay more and I'd have less disposable income). Anyway, I emailed the new boss mid-week asking if there was room for negotiation on starting pay because of my experience and current salary etc and they've come back with an improved offer I think that once my reduced travel costs are taken into account I might actually be better off financially which is brilliant. It was so nice to have some good news on Friday afternoon to kick off the weekend :j:

amus

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

I had some good news yesterday about my new job - the advertised salary for it was quite a bit lower than what I currently earn and I was a bit worried about the impact that would have especially after seeing what we'll have to pay in rent in the new location (we'd have been able to get by but it would mean having to rely on my partner to pay more and I'd have less disposable income). Anyway, I emailed the new boss mid-week asking if there was room for negotiation on starting pay because of my experience and current salary etc and they've come back with an improved offer I think that once my reduced travel costs are taken into account I might actually be better off financially which is brilliant. It was so nice to have some good news on Friday afternoon to kick off the weekend :j:

Well done and good luck in your new job!!!

I had my interview on Wednesday but will only find out how I did in a couple of weeks (was quite a big recruitment exercise and I think they had quite a lot of interviews to do). Really not sure how I did to be honest will have to just wait and see, I just get si nervous and forget all the things I want to say!!