Those who are waiting to TTC

Ellie83

misscoupon wrote: »

No need to be ashamed, it's only natural. Don't they call it nesting?

I don't know... Isn't nesting for pregnant women? If not then I guess I have a big case of nesting

Toothfairy4

Our letting agency are great but I would just like the stability of our own house before TTC. At the minute we pay £700 for a 3 bed house and a mortgage on a 2 bed would cost about £500 so would give us more oppotunity to save. We have saved a deposit and could buy soon...

We are planning on TTC next year though and i am just stressing a bit i guess about savin up enough to cover the deficit if i were on maternity leave as I earn a good deal more than DH.

Ellie83

We are planning on TTC next year though and i am just stressing a bit i guess about savin up enough to cover the deficit if i were on maternity leave as I earn a good deal more than DH.

I know what you mean about the above. We have planned everything based on my husband's wage alone. So everything that I bring home is a bonus (I can only do part-time). But I still worry about money. I'd like a nest egg before having a child. Just in case...

Ellie83

PS: I have entered some of my French CDs on music magpie and some of them would go for £6 :rotfl: I'll just make sure they're all on my ipod and sell them then. I never use the CDs anyway, I just found them, full of dust, in the garage, and thought I'd enter them out of curiosity... I did well!

ETA: I added this because this money will go straight to our baby fund

browneyedbazzi

Well done with the CDs Ellie...I think I'm going to go on a bit of a ebaying spree in the near future mostly so I have less stuff to pack up and move! I might have a look on music magpie too and see what my things will go for. They're all on my laptop and backed up on our home server so the actual CDs haven't been touched for years!

Toothfairy4

Ellie83 wrote: »

I know what you mean about the above. We have planned everything based on my husband's wage alone. So everything that I bring home is a bonus (I can only do part-time). But I still worry about money. I'd like a nest egg before having a child. Just in case...

I would love to be able to do this but theres no way we could survive on DH's wages alone. He works in a restaurant so I totally feel your and blondy's pain re alternate shifts!

Miss_Bolan

Hi ladies. I was wondering if you'd mind if I joined you on your thread? It's lovely to know that there are other people out there feeling the way I do :j

it's also interesting to see a few names off the wedding boards (where I have spent my previous time on mse!).

Just to give you a bit of background I am 27, my husband is 32. He has 2 children aged 8 and 4 who we see regularly and support financially. We have been married since April 2012.

we are at a point at the moment where we have a bit of debt, I am the main earner and my husband has just finished work to study full time at uni for 3 years (although I was earning more before he finished anyway). And the other point we are at? My biological clock is TICKING big time!

I am so happy for my husband for getting in to uni, and we discussed it before hand and at the time I thought 3 years to delay having a family would be completely ok with me, unfortunately my body isn't as rational as my brain and I could cry (and do) sometimes with the thought of waiting that long..

People keep telling me 'if everyone added it up no one could afford children', but not everyone has step families to support and debt to pay. I am trying to be sensible, rational and practical. I know it's the right thing to wait financially. Then the 'ifs' and 'buts' kick in... 'what if' we start trying and it takes 2 or more years? 'but' my sisters and friends are having children now and I want to bring them up together, 'but' my step children are at an age where they are so excited to have a little brother or sister.

I am sure I am not the only one who feels like this, and I swing between rational and emotional wreck on a daily basis! Sorry for the long post, but having a bit of a 'wreck' day today

optimistic-mummy

Miss_Bolan wrote: »

Hi ladies. I was wondering if you'd mind if I joined you on your thread? It's lovely to know that there are other people out there feeling the way I do :j

it's also interesting to see a few names off the wedding boards (where I have spent my previous time on mse!).

Just to give you a bit of background I am 27, my husband is 32. He has 2 children aged 8 and 4 who we see regularly and support financially. We have been married since April 2012.

we are at a point at the moment where we have a bit of debt, I am the main earner and my husband has just finished work to study full time at uni for 3 years (although I was earning more before he finished anyway). And the other point we are at? My biological clock is TICKING big time!

I am so happy for my husband for getting in to uni, and we discussed it before hand and at the time I thought 3 years to delay having a family would be completely ok with me, unfortunately my body isn't as rational as my brain and I could cry (and do) sometimes with the thought of waiting that long..

People keep telling me 'if everyone added it up no one could afford children', but not everyone has step families to support and debt to pay. I am trying to be sensible, rational and practical. I know it's the right thing to wait financially. Then the 'ifs' and 'buts' kick in... 'what if' we start trying and it takes 2 or more years? 'but' my sisters and friends are having children now and I want to bring them up together, 'but' my step children are at an age where they are so excited to have a little brother or sister.

I am sure I am not the only one who feels like this, and I swing between rational and emotional wreck on a daily basis! Sorry for the long post, but having a bit of a 'wreck' day today

im exactly the same hun, got dept and trying to pay it off asap so we can try for a sibling for our son. and due to medical reasons i dont want to wait any longer than needed.

welcome aboard. everyone is lovely sorry im not much help. but i can understand how you feel some days im sat thinking its ok everything will be fine and other days im thinking each month we wait could be the difference between another child and not another child or a healthy pregnancy and extreme complications.
good luck hunni xxx

Ellie83

Toothfairy4 wrote: »

I would love to be able to do this but theres no way we could survive on DH's wages alone. He works in a restaurant so I totally feel your and blondy's pain re alternate shifts!

I know we are very lucky toothfairy. We will have to live a very frugal lifestyle but it is much more than most people have at the moment. But I still wish I had a job too, to remove a bit of the financial pressure off my husband's shoulders...

Which leads me to what Miss Bolan wrote (hello Miss Bolan!). I am asking myself the same questions when I go to bed. I think because deep down it scares me to become a mother, I'll try to focalise my anxiety on something else. So my latest thing is to wonder whether I should finish my PhD asap, get a job and wait a year or 2. Or maybe find a small permanent p-t job to fit around the PhD (which could take some time). That would mean that I would have a job to go back to once I'm ready to go back to work. But then it'll probably 2+ years and that is not taking into account the time it could take to get pregnant...

Although, as it stands, we'll TTC at the beginning of 2013, which means that I could stay home, study and take care of a mini-Ellie. But will I have the courage to do it? That is the question......

Hi Optimistic-Mummy: how are you doing at the moment?

optimistic-mummy

Ellie83 wrote: »

I know we are very lucky toothfairy. We will have to live a very frugal lifestyle but it is much more than most people have at the moment. But I still wish I had a job too, to remove a bit of the financial pressure off my husband's shoulders...

Which leads me to what Miss Bolan wrote (hello Miss Bolan!). I am asking myself the same questions when I go to bed. I think because deep down it scares me to become a mother, I'll try to focalise my anxiety on something else. So my latest thing is to wonder whether I should finish my PhD asap, get a job and wait a year or 2. Or maybe find a small permanent p-t job to fit around the PhD (which could take some time). That would mean that I would have a job to go back to once I'm ready to go back to work. But then it'll probably 2+ years and that is not taking into account the time it could take to get pregnant...

Although, as it stands, we'll TTC at the beginning of 2013, which means that I could stay home, study and take care of a mini-Ellie. But will I have the courage to do it? That is the question......

Hi Optimistic-Mummy: how are you doing at the moment?

im good ty hun how are you ? im aiming to have the debt paid by the new year. march at the latest. keeping my fingers crossed im slightly getting impatient because its so near but it feels so far. xxx