Those who are waiting to TTC

euronorris

Of course we'll have you COMP!

Hope you're OK hun xx

browneyedbazzi

euronorris wrote: »

Ooohh, I didn't realise that you originated from another country. Which one?


Who visits at home? Are you talking about the Health Visitors, or Midwife perhaps (both can and do do home visits)?

I grew up in Canada and moved to the UK almost 10 years ago (scary how time flies!).

Thanks for the school information - I'll need it! It is all so different here and I'm not sure it's in a good way (i'm probably a bit biased because I really enjoyed my education at home and did quite well out of it).

On the programme I watched it was a midwife who was visiting the mums at home. What on earth does a 'health visitor' do?

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Welcome, HIC - I've added you to the OP.

Before we were TTC DH had several wobbles (many of which are documented on this thread!) but since I had the implant taken out, it's actually me that's having wobbles. At the moment I'm considering giving it a break for a bit but I may change my mind again which is why I've not raised it with DH yet. I'm also concerned that events from last week may be affecting my judgement at the moment.

So I may hang out here for a little while if you'll have me...

I think wobbles are pretty normal...it would be a bit odd to not have a bit of a wobble about such a big life changing decision. You're always welcome here but hopefully you'll be over your wobbles and back to telling us what TTC is like soon

LittleMoog

euronorris wrote: »

Ooohh, I didn't realise that you originated from another country. Which one?

I'll try to answer the school question as best as I can:

Nursery - Ages 2-3/4 (depending on birthday) - Not compulsory, but recommended to help build social & interaction skills, as well as preparation for school

First year in school - Age 4/5 - Kids often start at different times of the year, depending on when their birthday is. ie, a child who's birthday is in September, is likely to start in September. But if their birthday is in August, they tend to start later - usually January I think.

Some schools will refer to this first year as Reception (I think), and others will simply call it Class 1, or Year 1. It will vary from school to school and area to area a little bit.

Who visits at home? Are you talking about the Health Visitors, or Midwife perhaps (both can and do do home visits)?

*unlurks* What Euro said about starting school was the case when I was at infant school, but nowadays most kids now start from September, although some might do half days for a few weeks. They don't LEGALLY have to start school until the term after their 5th birthday, but most people choose to put them in school from the September so they start at the same time as their year mates. Also Reception is Year 0, just to be really confusing! You have to apply for schools in the autumn of the year before they're going to go, deadline is normally December/January.

You can get 15 hours of nursery free in the UK during term times only, starting the term after their 3rd birthday. That can be at a pre-school nursery attached to an infant school, or at a private childcare nursery. Our little one will be going to nursery from 9 months when I go back to work, but from the term after they're three we'll get some money knocked off the bill in term time.

Hope all you ladies are getting on ok, and not feeling too impatient. I felt like I'd never get to TTC, we were waiting for 5 years or so from when I first really wanted to. I almost can't believe that our baby will be here in a few months!

*relurks*

clearing_out_my_pockets

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

I think wobbles are pretty normal...it would be a bit odd to not have a bit of a wobble about such a big life changing decision. You're always welcome here but hopefully you'll be over your wobbles and back to telling us what TTC is like soon

I'm not permanently moving over here (although you ladies are also lovely to talk to!) but at the moment my heart isn't really in TTC. I'm giving a lot of moral support to a friend at the moment and to be honest I'm finding it very draining. I work with her too (I even sit next to her). Every day so far this week I've been with her between 8.30-5.30 then getting texts from her up until around 8/9pm. Today she's on annual leave and I've had two phonecalls and two texts.

Don't get me wrong, I don't begrudge it, but I'm not getting a lot of time to unwind myself.

Because she's on annual leave today I've actually had to buy my own lunch today! :rotfl:

browneyedbazzi

Thank you LittleMoog - glad to hear that all is well with you!

The school thing may not be as different as I thought but they should put out a step by step guide lol. At home we had play-school from 3-4 (optional, sounds a bit like your nursery), Kindergarten at five (usually half days, mandatory...perhaps like your reception?) then started elementary school at 6 (although those with a birthday september through january start the september before they turn 6). I think it gets a lot different later on though...GCSEs, A levles, college etc don't exist back home!

euronorris

Hi and thanks LittleMoog! My information is a bit outdated it seems! lol They change things all the time.

How is the pregnancy going? I hope you are getting to enjoy it!

Browneyedbazzi - Ooohh Canada! I've always wanted to visit Canada and still hope to some day. My sister spent some of her honeymoon there Oh, that reminds me, there is a colleague in the CA office with the same name as me. I kept getting emails meant for her!

I can totally relate to missing aspects of home. I actually think that the UK education system is outdated and needs updating quite drastically. There is so much focus on academic qualities, not enough on sports, and no room for the more practically minded students to flourish. I like the Dutch system for that. In their early teens, they either go off into studying practical subjects/courses dedicated to getting a specific job (like a mechanic, for example), or they focus more on academic stuff. Seems more logical to me. Relieves the pressure from those who aren't academic too.

My sister was pregnant last year, and mostly she would go to the mid wife, but I know that towards the end, the mid wife came to visit her. Health Visitor.....I *think* do things like visits after the child is born to mark progress, help with queries about their progression or any health worries you have (I think you get a book to record height, weight, milestones etc in). There is a bit more info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Health_visitor

And I agree - wobbles are normal and part and parcel of this. It's HUGE!

browneyedbazzi

If you ever want help planning a trip to Canada let me know! It is a really nice place and I'd be happy to assist with a bit of local knowledge

The education system at home is quite academic - it's a diploma system and when I went there wasn't much provision for people who wanted to go into trades until after you've achieved your High School Diploma at 17 or 18 but they are changing that so that an apprenticeship can count towards your diploma now (although to get a diploma you still need to pass English, math, a science and social studies). What I liked is that it gives a really solid foundation and emphasises problem solving skills and lateral thinking rather than just learning facts.

Thanks for the health visitor link, i need to learn these things lol

bride2be2012

Where about in Canada are you from BrownEyedBazzi? I spent about 6 or 7 months out there about 6 years ago and loved it! Spent a few weeks in Vancouver, then moved to Banff to work a ski season then spent my last 2 weeks on the east coast (Toronto, Montreal and Ottawa). I really want to go back in the summer time though! Would just be a holiday this time though, I think I'm too old to get a working holiday visa now

browneyedbazzi

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Where about in Canada are you from BrownEyedBazzi? I spent about 6 or 7 months out there about 6 years ago and loved it! Spent a few weeks in Vancouver, then moved to Banff to work a ski season then spent my last 2 weeks on the east coast (Toronto, Montreal and Ottawa). I really want to go back in the summer time though! Would just be a holiday this time though, I think I'm too old to get a working holiday visa now

I grew up in Alberta and spent my summers in BC (the lower mainland and the okanogan).

I don't know how old you are, but there are a few different programmes you can use to get a working holiday visa and some will accept you up to 35

trina2010

Hi all,
id like to join for a little time if thats ok
Ive been lurking around the thread and have had the full chat with the husband, he wants me to go to the TTC thread but i feel im not quite there yet. Though hopefully it wont be long!
Ive got an IUD at the minute but am having this removed the 2nd week in Sept when im off work. we've agreed from then we're going to suck it and see.....(not literally, thats not quite the right way to go about it i understand )
Ive been reading a bit on the TTC thread and its quite intimidating from here, all the talk about taking temperatures daily at the same time, checking ur cervix for discharge, ovulation tests etc. (i dont mean the people btw just the amount of work that goes in) I dont intend to do any of that to begin with and am prepared it will take more than a few months (PCOS) but ill just take each day/week/month as it comes and enjoy the ride......(deary me!)
Ok i think ive rambled enough now (no doubt itll happen again, prepare yourselves! hehe)