Those who are waiting to TTC

clearing_out_my_pockets

Hi Trina!

What date do you want me to put on the OP? I'm happy to put TBC for now or I can put September.

I only check my temperature in the mornings so I know when I'm ovulating. Heps me know when to expect AF and when to test. Although I haven't tested much yet!

trina2010

Hi, September would be good for now thank you

its quite a lot to take in seeing all the talk about temping and discharge etc. but im sure ill get there! everyone seems lovely and its great to get a bit of an idea of what im in for, rather excited now, specially since ive got the husbadn in agreement.....

he took time out of his lunch break today to send me a link about how walnuts improve sperm health! haha

browneyedbazzi

Welcome Trina! I understand about keeping away from the TTC thread. I don't think I'll go over there straight away. I'd like to just have some stress free not trying not preventing time before going actively into TTC. I know things don't always work the way you would like them to but I'm hopeful that I won't need to do all the temping etc.

LittleMoog

euronorris wrote: »

Hi and thanks LittleMoog! My information is a bit outdated it seems! lol They change things all the time.

How is the pregnancy going? I hope you are getting to enjoy it!

All good thanks Seems to be going well now the morning sickness is mostly gone. Pretty miserable weeks 8-16! 27 weeks now, so in the home stretch, which is both :j and :eek:! :rotfl:

Sorry your OH's job still isn't sorted - hope you can move home asap now that you've decided on that xx

bride2be2012

Morning everyone

Had good talk with dh last night. Told him I was pretty upset that the test was negative and I wasn't as ok about waiting as I thought I was. I only have one ovary, lost the other as I had a huge cyst on it that caused my tube to twist, no symptoms til it was too late. Doctors have told me it shouldn't cause probs TTC, that's not really my worry, its the fact it happened with no symptoms so I'm often worrying about loosing the remaining one.

DH understands where I'm coming from but would still like us to be more secure - own our own house, pay off debts, be in better jobs - first.

But we have decided I should come off the pill and let my body settle down. Won't actively be TTC, in fact will prob be using withdrawal method (sorry if TMI), but its a step in right direction and one were both happy with.

claire16c

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

It seems not!


That new programme doesn't paint nearly as nice a picture as One Born Every Minute! (although one of the midwives on One Born was a right cow too!) There's definitely less polish on it so it seems a lot more gritty.

How much choice do you get in what hospital you go to for the birth here? Do you have to go to your nearest one or pay to go private or are their options on the NHS?

One of my big reservations about having kids is that I don't really understand how the systems work here! I'll have no idea what age they have to start school at etc and I didn't realise they visit you at home. I also find it odd that medical advice about pregnancy and looking after babies is so different here from back home...I'll be very tempted to follow the advice from home but wonder how that will go down with people here!

Hi, I just popped over from the ttc thread as I sometimes read this post as was on it not long ago myself and Ive only really just started to ttc properly again. And this was interesting to read because my sister now lives in Canada! So shes done the opposite to you. Do you have any examples of what type of stuff is different with the medical advice? It would be really interesting to know as I reckon it wont be more than a couple of years before my sister is possibly pg!

browneyedbazzi

Hi claire - I've noticed a few things so far, the one that is most shocking to me is that women are not expected to give up alcohol completely during pregnancy here. At home alcohol during pregnancy is very taboo and I wouldn't dream of touching a drop of the stuff and if you're visibly pregnant and ordered a drink at the bar I'd expect you to be challenged by bar staff or other customers about it. Having spent years working with children who had foetal alcohol syndrome and seeing the effects it had on their lives it's not a risk I could ever take.

On the flip side, I think there's less stigma attached to things like pain relief during labour and formula feeding at home than there is here. In this country there seems to be quite a militant group of people who put pressure on women to do without pain relief/medical interventions and to breast feed no matter what. In terms of pain relief, a lot of women at home use tens during labour but I haven't seen that here (indeed I have a tens which I use for another condition and the instructions on it say not to use it during labour).

The other things are quite small..I don't remember hearing the massive lists of things you shouldn't eat back home and I don't know if that's because they think something different or because the foods that are commonly available here are different to what we would have at home (ie you don't get a lot of unpasteurised cheeses there).

Kalama

Right - this time I am not so much tiptoeing in so much as stomping in with a fanfare and concrete boots :rotfl:

I promise this time I am going to stick around and actually post. Now the Olympic madness at work has subsided and I have finished my nine months of full time work plus full time study, I can properly concentrate on this whole getting ready for TTC thing.

My and OH are going paleo for 80% of each month - we've worked out that most of the stuff which is not allowed seems to be what triggers our weight gain/upset tums. I've got my hands on the 30 Day Shred dvd - wowser. The dog is demanding many long walks and the weights have been broken out. We are on a mission!

Big wave to everyone and a :T for COMP for being such a wonderful friend (I've been lurking on the TFAB thread...)

dizsiebubba

browneyedbazzi - Tens is advertised everywhere you go once you are pregnant... you can hire it at the hospital, they cover it at antenatal classes and its in every magazine you read. Also there is alot of talk about pain relief once you are pregnant too...its just a few of the older generation try to discourage the young becuase in their day...

With alcohol I guess they decide that we are all adults and have to make our own choices... I have decided not to touch a drop since getting my BFP although they say it has no effect on baby until around 16 weeks! I have friends who have had the odd glass and others who (in this day and age) have smoked through their entire pregnancy!!!

Breast feeding is encouraged
but they are quick to let you give up if you are struggling or if the baby requires extra medical treatment at birth e.g I was jaundice and in an incubator for 2 weeks yet my mum still breastfed… a friend who recently had the same situation with her baby was told by her midwifes not to bother trying… yet I spoke to a community midwife last week about expressing so oh could do some feeds and she flew off the handle saying it was the mothers job to feed…I just smiled politely and rolled my eyes back in my head as I walked away!!!

With the list of good foods and bad foods - they vary from organisation to organisation and from month to month... mostly i ignore them because most of them are about the risk of food poisoning to YOU nothing to do with baby's health. But too much vit a has been proven bad for baby which is why liver etc and shark has been banned!!! The rest are just a listeria risk and if you clean and cook things well enough you should be fine! (I have avoided bree and camebert unless baked though becuase they are the riskiest i'm told)

clearing_out_my_pockets

Kalama wrote: »

Big wave to everyone and a :T for COMP for being such a wonderful friend (I've been lurking on the TFAB thread...)

Thanks

I'd like to say that anyone else would have done the same, but I'm not entirely sure they would. She's much better now which is good. Although the texts are now coming earlier in the morning (7.30 this morning!) and later in the evening (9.30 last night).