Those who are waiting to TTC

bigzippy

*crosses fingers*

flutterby_lil

Good luck Walby and sorry to hear of your recent mc.

clearing_out_my_pockets

My name isn't on the front page any more! I don't know if I'm scared or excited...........

bigzippy

Both! :j

And well done on losing 2st! :j

KScarlet

Hi all I hope you don't mind me joining?

I am officially waiting to TTC, we already have a 19 month baby so don't want to start TTC just yet. We want to save a bit of money up first and hopefully move to a bigger house.

I have kept all my babys stuff so will need very few things, I am just worried whether I will be upto handling two little monkeys but I am so broody we shall see!!

Can't wait to get to know you all xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

Hi KScarlet! You may have noticed that the thread can be a little quiet at times, but don't be put off by that!

walby1993

I have had a little knock in the last few days - my cousin has announced he has got someone up the duff, never met her or even knew he had a girlfriend. The bloke is a complete waster - flitting between jobs, steals, gambles most of his wages, takes drugs and doesn't even have anywhere to live! I know it is stupid but I can't help feeling how unfair it all is - DH & I have both always worked, own our own home, have never stolen or taken drugs, very rarely gamble (probably spent a grand total of £20 on gamble in our entire lives between us), have been together almost 7 years and are married and I had my baby taken away from me (I know it is just one of those things but still sometimes feel like God is punishing me for something). Its all over FB and everyone is saying what a great dad he is going to be, which is utter b*ll*cks and to put a cherry on top he is now saying he likes the name that DH and I have had picked out for our first daughter for over a year! I know this seems juvenile but it has kind of knocked me back when I have been trying to stay positive

greenbee

((((Hugs)))) Walby.

I know what you mean - its hard seeing people get pregnant without thinking about it and finding it so easy, when you want it so badly and its so hard. I adore my niece and nephew, and my friends kids, but I do find it hard when everyone around me is talking babies and who is pregnant (particularly unplanned) when I don't know whether I'll ever be able to have my own.

ETA - I do remember someone saying a couple of years ago that the people who should be having children aren't, and the ones who shouldn't are... intelligent responsible people are busy being intelligent and responsible and then often leaving it too late to have children. Maybe we should have a rethink, and encourage people to have children and THEN build their career - the people I know who have done it this way have been very successful in their careers

euronorris

Hi All,

Woo! Congrats COMP! It is both scary, and exciting, like BZ said. Hope your arm is beginning to feel better too.

Welcome to our newbies, and a *sorry I haven't been around much recently* to our regulars. Had a lot on my plate recently.

Walby - I am so sorry for your loss. And I understand how hard it is to see someone like that, get what you want, when they don't deserve it, and never planned it. It sucks! I know. But you have to try and focus on the positive things that you are able to offer your future babies, that these people never will. And that isn't just financial either, it's emotional. It's giving them good morals, a stable home life, and an excellent example for how to live their own lives in the future. All of which you and your man will be able to offer. ((HUGS))

Not much update from me. Only that OH's contract still isn't finalised. Turned out the offer they gave him was wrong (10k wrong!!), and my situation is not so great either. So nothing happening here at the moment, and no idea of when it will be either. We will gain some clarity, one way or the other, in the next few months though (next couple of weeks for OH).

In the meantime, I am enjoying a week with the family in the UK. Shared some more cuddles with the babies, and took lots of pics. Not too happy about my mate's brother's (and his mate) behaviour on the way home on Saturday night, or how he spoke to me, her or his girlfriend, but I think waiting for an apology would be an exercise in futility, so I have opted for simply never speaking to them again (the lads, not my friend). I am so glad I am not 21 anymore. And I'm so glad that I realised years ago, that I deserve better than to be in a relationship with someone like that. A realisation that his girlfriend has still to reach.

Sorry, I've come on and had a bit of a moan really. Wasn't my intention.

How is everyone else doing?

xxx

clearing_out_my_pockets

Hi euro! You shouldn't be on MSE when you're on holiday! Glad you're having a nice time though. Even with the irritating mate's brother...

greenbee - that's interesting. My brother had his first child six and a bit years ago when he and his partner were 20/21, whereas I've 'chosen' to wait until we're more financially secure and set in our jobs. I saw my brother struggle to keep up which is what put me off a little bit. I'd hate to be struggling to keep up with mortgage payments etc.

Bigz - nice to see you lurking! And a massive pat on the back for your weightloss also!