Needing some advice..... Things not going well

pearl123

Everthingsnotok. I think you need a mental health assesment. You sound unwell. And to be honest you and your OH sound highly, highly disfunctional. What mother would give up her 6 year old child. Heartbreaking if true. I wonder if child has been removed from the house because of safety issues with both parents?
I don't understand why a solistor would have anything to do with decoratating a room? If such serious issues are going on - what does decorating the house come into it. (Solistors cost time and money !!! ? ) Sounds bonkers to me!
Whether this is a tall tail or not I can no tell, but if it is a true story - then I feel desperately sorry for the young child. There seems to be no love towards the child at all.

I do hope this is just some fool telling a tall tale.
And to be honest Everythingsnotok - if you are concerned about the other family reading this on the forum - I surprised you wrote at all ? You could not have expected much sympathy. There is nothing more shocking than child abuse in any form.
You say there has already been a previous allegation. If this is a true story - I would be inclined to believe the child.
And again if this story is true, and you are indeed not guilty - then any stupid actions should not be popping into your head.

1sue23

I find it very hard to believe what I have read here and find it unbelievable that any mother could turn her back on a child who is clearly in need, all I can say is whatever the truth here this child is better off away from such cruel and thoughtless parents .

*max*

This is too sad for words. I hope, I really REALLY hope someone is looking after this poor child properly, and that he manages to pull through without too much lasting trauma. His mother is a disgrace, and the OP is beyond vile to speak of a little boy in that way, mental health problems or not - there is NO EXCUSE. I'm shocked to the core by this story.

pearl123

I don't understand this ? And I would say yes, my current income is now more important than a child who has made me feel so upset and angry and OH feels the same - You get JSA ?

onlyroz

My son is nearly 6 and I know that he wouldn't be able to fabricate such a story and stick to it consistently. He also most certainly comes out with some peculiar statements of "fact" dreamed up by his 6-year-old brain (as an example, he's always "allergic" to things that he just doesn't like - he's got no real idea what the word even means).

In circumstances like this, no matter what my child had said or done, I'd choose him over ANYBODY else. I might feel differently if they were in their late teens or above and had done something horrendous, but we are talking about a very young child here.

Either this is a wind-up or you are a very sick puppy.

sashadesade

You think if your OH abandons their child it will prove your innocence? Honestly, I'd be more suspicious of you *because* your OH has walked away from their son. It makes you look like exactly the kind of heartless, manipulative person that could hurt a child.

blabberwort

If and it's a big IF this story is true, why on earth is your wife a witness. You say she was meant to have seen you incite the child yet the woman is only a witness. Surely she should also be facing charges unless she was the one who had reported you, which clearly isnt the case.

Im sorry but I just dont understand how the police/family/social workers are meant to have ignored the childs claims that his mum was in the room at the time and yet she never reported you.

If your post is genuine then I would have been sympathetic. Unfortunately you lost all my sympathy when you started with your concerns over money, redecorating the childs room and generally being a total insensitive hard nosed " bleep". The poor child will have no idea what is happening and all my sympathy is with him. I truly hope he receives the love and understanding he deserves.

marvic31

My thoughts are windup

You must be doing some sort of social work course, your assignment is late, you have tweaked a case study that you have to complete and now got 5 pages of views and analysis.

If this is true, then you both should be ashamed of yourselves. Turning your back on a six year old boy, who probably needs you both more than ever really angers me.

If you both loved him so much as you previously stated then you should fight, fight fight, to clear your name and get this boy back to where he belongs, with his mother. I dont believe for one second the mother has disowned her 6 year old son. She must be insane or taking illegal substances.

Social services/police wouldnt let him come back, because OH chose to side with me, which actually spoke volumes to the police with regards to the investigation.

Yes, this speaks volumes of incredible insanity.

cant question why my OH has chosen me; I am grateful that she has. She also helped me redecorate the son's room, which we now use as a dining room/office. We were told to do this by our solicitor, as it would help us kill some time and focus our thoughts elsewhere.

This is complete nonsense. You need to get a new solicitor. He is assuming your guilty already.

not because of us but because of OH's family who keep kicking up a stink everytime a case against us is dropped due to lack of evidence

What I don't understand is, has this happened before? Does the family keep accusing you of things. Maybe its time too move far away from them.


STOP THINKING ABOUT ME, ME ME AND THINK OF THAT POOR BOY WHO THINKS HIS MOTHER AND STEPFATHER HATE HIM.

You two are a disgrace

Dave101t

if i could just say...this is exactly the reason why they say never get involved with a woman who already has kids..but good luck, your innocent until proven guilty...tho so was jacko.

slightlyconfused1

If this is a wind up you are a very strange person in need of help.

If this is true then I cannot begin to describe my reaction to yourself and this child's mother. I hope he is now with a famiy who will love him and help him.