Needing some advice..... Things not going well

LadyMorticia

I find it worrying how this poor 6 year old is being treated. His own mother turning his back on him? He's 6! He's probably terrified and thinks that mummy and daddy don't love him anymore. I really feel for him. You have to remember that he's a child. At 6 years old he probably doesn't have a clue what's going on.

LadyMorticia

I'm really hoping this is a wind up. If not, then I really despair at how anyone can treat a young child like that.

EverythingsNotOK

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

The original post was not gender specific - the poster kept referring to the OH and never to him or her.... replies then tended to assume the poster was male and OH female..... only later has the OP suggested he is male.

I think this thread may have been a it of a social experiment to see reactions and which way we all jumped.

If you looke back over the last week or so there have been loads of newbies posted long-winded stories which stretch the imagination - I think this is another one of those.

Social experiment?

So how would you like me to prove this to you. I am no troll, I am not experimenting with people to see what they think. Maybe the reason I havent really given too many details away is that if the OH's family read this and can associate it with myself, maybe I would then be in more hot water for talking about an ongoing police case. But no, if you say I'm a troll then I must be a troll, even when you dont even know me. Well done for being so presumptious.

Maybe if I told you I was prescribed 20mg Fluoxetine capsules this afternoon (anti depressants) that you might believe me? No? Maybe if I scan you a copy of my bail notice, you would believe me then? No, thats not enough? Well how about I give you the damn number of the OH's family and you can ask them scum themselves - that way you can have all the gory details :mad:

peachyprice wrote: »

Seriously??? He's 6 years old !!!!!!.

What dispicable people you are. You're either turning your backs on a vulnerable child who has been manipulated be your OH's family and has been ripped from his mother, or you're both guilty as sin.

Wherever this poor 6yo boy ends up he'll be better off than with a mother who can turn her back on him so easily.

6 years old, 16 years old, 60 years old, it doesnt matter to me anymore. He has a brain, he has been taught right from wrong. If he hasnt got the damn common decency to think "no thats not right" then maybe he is best off finding a nice foster family to live with.

Sorry if I seem blunt, but I have been bordering on totally losing the plot today, and its still a long wait until the bail date so excuse me if I sound a little hacked off.

shegirl

LadyMorticia wrote: »

I'm really hoping this is a wind up. If not, then I really despair at how anyone can treat a young child like that.

It's got to be.There was no need for a sudden revelation about changing the boys room into an office or that the solicitor said to do it,it wasn't related to anything either.Furthermore,the comments that he's making about how it would be unfair on him and how he never forgets things etc..he's after a reaction.

kerrypn

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

Social experiment?

So how would you like me to prove this to you. I am no troll, I am not experimenting with people to see what they think. Maybe the reason I havent really given too many details away is that if the OH's family read this and can associate it with myself, maybe I would then be in more hot water for talking about an ongoing police case. But no, if you say I'm a troll then I must be a troll, even when you dont even know me. Well done for being so presumptious.

Maybe if I told you I was prescribed 20mg Fluoxetine capsules this afternoon (anti depressants) that you might believe me? No? Maybe if I scan you a copy of my bail notice, you would believe me then? No, thats not enough? Well how about I give you the damn number of the OH's family and you can ask them scum themselves - that way you can have all the gory details :mad:



6 years old, 16 years old, 60 years old, it doesnt matter to me anymore. He has a brain, he has been taught right from wrong. If he hasnt got the damn common decency to think "no thats not right" then maybe he is best off finding a nice foster family to live with.

Sorry if I seem blunt, but I have been bordering on totally losing the plot today, and its still a long wait until the bail date so excuse me if I sound a little hacked off.

That is so far over the line you can't even see the line.

Seek help for your mental health issues that you say you are facing.

I hope the little boy has help to do the same.

Janepig

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

So what you are saying is you would end your marriage over a spiteful allegation? Why should me and OH split up over this, when this is what they have been trying to do since last year?

I cant question why my OH has chosen me; I am grateful that she has. She also helped me redecorate the son's room, which we now use as a dining room/office. We were told to do this by our solicitor, as it would help us kill some time and focus our thoughts elsewhere. Also because the solicitor doubts very much whether son will be allowed back, not because of us but because of OH's family who keep kicking up a stink everytime a case against us is dropped due to lack of evidence.

And what you are saying is that it's okay for your partner to lose a six year old son over a spiteful allegation.

And why would it lead to you splitting up? You may have to live elsewhere for a period of time whilst on bail, but once the matter is cleared up (presuming you aren't found guilty) you would be free to return home and carry on as before. Meantime, the little boy would be able to stay in his home environment. And if you had nowhere to go, there's always bail hostels which, as well as Probation run "hostels", are also now privately run houses, which although not ideal, is better than being remanded in custody because of the lack of an address.

peachyprice

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

Sorry if I seem blunt, but I have been bordering on totally losing the plot today,

And how do you think your OH's child is feeling?

kathy206

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

Thankyou for posting this - this is exactly how I am feeling.

The problem is, I never forget things. Once this all goes away, if the suggestion came about that he could move back in with us, how would I be able to live under the same roof as him again? Would it be very fair to me to be put under that situation?

Those two statements say a hell of a lot about you,quite frankly.:mad: If this situation is for real, (which I very much doubt) and you have been falsely accused, then you have my sympathy,however I do believe that you need to try and stop thinking about your own situation and hurt feelings, and put yourself in the shoes of a bewildered 6 year old who is being pulled from pillar to post.
Your OH is a very poor excuse for a mother IMO- I would kill to protect my boys, and if that meant DH moving out for the sake of their safety then so be it. If you had anything about you, you would move out until it was sorted, rather than make a mother choose between her child and you.
I'm out before I say something I regret.

lisawood78

Either a complete pile of horse manure or a very selfish someone who does not deserve any help or advice from the good people here.
IMHO

EverythingsNotOK

peachyprice wrote: »

And how do you think your OH's child is feeling?

He is probably confused, upset, etc. We feel he is being used as a weapon against us, so he is probably feeling the same as we are I would imagine.

Its difficult for my OH to get in contact at the moment because OH is being used as a witness for my defence. Her solicitor advised her that this wouldnt usually stop the "parental responsibility" and would be able to see her son in a contact centre; but Social services and police have both advised her to steer clear until the bail date, so the investigation can be completed.

So it wasnt just a clear cut choice; would people rather she backed her son up knowing it would lead to a miscarriage of justice, just so he could continue to live at home?