Needing some advice..... Things not going well

EverythingsNotOK

shegirl wrote: »

The 'mother' is a disgrace.

Along with that -the mother puts you first,doesn't want her 6 year old child anymore and according to you follows you around -you've never been alone with her child and you are always together...

You know what,I think I can see exactly WHY the child may have done what they've done and I wouldn't put it all down to family members.

There is only one person I feel for and he's 6 years old

So what you are saying is you would end your marriage over a spiteful allegation? Why should me and OH split up over this, when this is what they have been trying to do since last year?

I cant question why my OH has chosen me; I am grateful that she has. She also helped me redecorate the son's room, which we now use as a dining room/office. We were told to do this by our solicitor, as it would help us kill some time and focus our thoughts elsewhere. Also because the solicitor doubts very much whether son will be allowed back, not because of us but because of OH's family who keep kicking up a stink everytime a case against us is dropped due to lack of evidence.

Tiddlywinks

The original post was not gender specific - the poster kept referring to the OH and never to him or her.... replies then tended to assume the poster was male and OH female..... only later has the OP suggested he is male.

I think this thread may have been a it of a social experiment to see reactions and which way we all jumped.

If you look back over the last week or so there have been loads of newbies posting long-winded stories which stretch the imagination - I think this is another one of those.

Bettybigboobs

kerrypn wrote: »

He might not have even been made to say it. When my eldest was 2 he went to the barbers with grandad and he had a small bruise on his head(you know what 2 year olds are like) Barber said how did you do that? He said "daddy did it" I was mortified!!!! But luckily, everyone knows he is a very well cared for little boy and never hit in anyway, but just goes to show, sometimes kids come out with all sorts!

Feel sorry for OP for the accusations but feel sorry for the way you have treated your step son since. Now you are guilty of something-and something he will probably never forget. I imagine he feels very rejected now-and hasnt got the adult mind to rationalise it.

Not being funny, but at 30yrs old, i don't think i would have the stability of mind, to deal with it either.

peachyprice

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

People say that it seems I feel that other things are now more important in my mind than the care of the son; I can honestly say this is true. My heart has been ripped out and I have told all the involved agencies that I am no longer having anything to do with him. And I would say yes, my current income is now more important than a child who has made me feel so upset and angry and OH feels the same - my OH cant believe that they are related to the son, my OH is mortified that son has done this to us, 6 years old or not.

Seriously??? He's 6 years old !!!!!!.

What dispicable people you are. You're either turning your backs on a vulnerable child who has been manipulated by your OH's family and has been ripped from his mother, or you're both guilty as sin.

Wherever this poor 6yo boy ends up he'll be better off than with a mother who can turn her back on him so easily.

EverythingsNotOK

kerrypn wrote: »

Feel sorry for OP for the accusations but feel sorry for the way you have treated your step son since. Now you are guilty of something-and something he will probably never forget. I imagine he feels very rejected now-and hasnt got the adult mind to rationalise it.

Thankyou for posting this - this is exactly how I am feeling.

The problem is, I never forget things. Once this all goes away, if the suggestion came about that he could move back in with us, how would I be able to live under the same roof as him again? Would it be very fair to me to be put under that situation?

kerrypn

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

She also helped me redecorate the son's room, which we now use as a dining room/office. .

Says it all.

Sorry OP but I dont understand what you wanted advice on now. Seems to me you and your OH have a clear plan what you are doing regardless.

kerrypn

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

Thankyou for posting this - this is exactly how I am feeling.

The problem is, I never forget things. Once this all goes away, if the suggestion came about that he could move back in with us, how would I be able to live under the same roof as him again? Would it be very fair to me to be put under that situation?

You have to. Its part of being a parent.

Bettybigboobs

I was always taught, loves unconditional.

Tiddlywinks

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

So what you are saying is you would end your marriage over a spiteful allegation? Why should me and OH split up over this, when this is what they have been trying to do since last year?

I cant question why my OH has chosen me; I am grateful that she has. She also helped me redecorate the son's room, which we now use as a dining room/office. We were told to do this by our solicitor, as it would help us kill some time and focus our thoughts elsewhere. Also because the solicitor doubts very much whether son will be allowed back, not because of us but because of OH's family who keep kicking up a stink everytime a case against us is dropped due to lack of evidence.

So, in a short time and with suicidal thoughts and a limited budget you have managed to redecorate a bedroom into a dining room on the advice of your solicitor - without any regard to how that might appear to other interested parties - yeah, right.

Time to start a new thread with a new story... oh, and don't forget to choose another new user name.

peachyprice

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

The problem is, I never forget things. Once this all goes away, if the suggestion came about that he could move back in with us, how would I be able to live under the same roof as him again? Would it be very fair to me to be put under that situation?

Would it be very fair to stop a child living with his mother because it might hurt the feelings of you, the adult?