Needing some advice..... Things not going well

hjsmum

Dave101t wrote: »

if i could just say...this is exactly the reason why they say never get involved with a woman who already has kids

Thats a bit harsh, I know lot's of families with 'step-parents/children' who get on really well, in fact I love my step-parents to bits!

make_me_wise

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

About 2 weeks ago I was arrested for inciting a child to engage in sexual activity - without going into too much detail I did not do it and this is another malicious allegation from my OH's family, who seem to hate everything I do.

Then the false allegations started, they seem adamant they want me and the OH to split up.

They made a false allegation last year, for domestic abuse involving a child - this came to nothing, police did not take any further because they had no evidence, no bruises or anything.

As of last week, the son was "kicked out" of the house for making such a malicious allegation. Son is 6 years of age. I would like to point out that I was questioned for inciting a child only, no sexual contact was ever accused. It was only suggesting an activity take place.


Thanks all for listening

As far as I could see you had very little to worry about until I read the paragraph of yours that I have highlighted.

You stated that these same people had made false allegations against you last year that came to nothing because of lack of evidence. In which case, if you are innocent, the same process will work its way through and these nasty individuals will be shown to be wasting police time yet again and will probably be dealt with accordingly.

Why on earth then would you 'kick out' a 6 year old boy and send him to these people? Six year olds who have never been subjected to anything vile by an adult wont know how to talk about such things, unless a third party is drip feeding it into them. This just doesn't add up to me. By sending him away it makes it look as if your partner doesn't trust him around you and you seem to be very annoyed with the wrong person. Its not the six year olds fault.

Hard_up,_not_happy

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

Social services/police wouldnt let him come back, because OH chose to side with me, which actually spoke volumes to the police with regards to the investigation.

OH put all of son's belongings into bags, flat-packed his wardrobe, etc, and gave it all to the family. We have been given the impression by social services that he will never be returning to our care, and my OH has told the social that he isnt wanted back here. I know its hard for people to read and understand that, but he has torn this family apart (whether or not he understands what he is doing!) - how can we love him after all this has happened?

Put yourselves in this position. A member of your family makes an allegation against you. Would you ever love that person again, trust them?

:eek:

Very little on this forum shocks me but I am actually disgusted by the attitude of yourself and your OH. That poor little boy. He is just 6 years of age.

Something is quite clearly amiss that a 6 year old is able to give enough graphic detail to the police in order for them to be investigating you like this. Maybe you are innocent, but has it crossed yours or his mums minds that maybe another member of the family is abusing him and making him say it is you?

Yet your response is to wipe your hands of him and ask on an internet forum 'Would you ever love that person again'.

scooby088

My gut feeling on this subject is it's a wind up

make_me_wise

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

May I suggest that if anyone doesnt agree with what has happened, then dont bother posting. I havent posted the full story because of the ongoing investigations, but I can assure you if you knew the full story then you might not be so judgemental.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Whats the point of posting for opinions on an internet forum when you only want responses that support and agree with you.

The more I have read of this thread and the greater detail you have divulged the more sick I have felt. I dont believe a word you say, this has got to be a complete wind up from someone very bored and with nothing else to do.

heretolearn_2

It's either a windup or that poor little boy is better off as far away as possible than the two monsters that have been raising him.

Minxz

My heart goes out to that poor little boy. He is a small child, and as a mum of 4, one who is nearly 5, I doubt a 6 year old could possibly make up stories like you claim.

Children need love and support , and clearly he gets neither from you or his mother.
I am shocked at how easily your wife has turned her back on him, heartbreaking.
No normal mother could do that, no loving family would ever do what you are both doing. If he were to return the poor child doesn't even have a bedroom anymore!

Disgusted. I hope your son has an amazing set of foster carers, who find him a wonferful new mummy who loves him.

Lets just hope for your sake he doesn't track you both down when he turns 18. God knows what this warped, unloving relationship has done to this little boy's head.

consultant31

EverythingsNotOK wrote: »

6 years old, 16 years old, 60 years old, it doesnt matter to me anymore. He has a brain, he has been taught right from wrong. If he hasnt got the damn common decency to think "no thats not right" then maybe he is best off finding a nice foster family to live with.

:eek: Jeepers, you come across as a hard-nosed, evil !!!!!!.......but you're right about one thing, the child will certainly be better off finding a nice foster family to live with than you and your OH.

Minxz

6 years old, 16 years old, 60 years old, it doesnt matter to me anymore. He has a brain, he has been taught right from wrong.

So have you.

YOU are an adult, you should know right from wrong- by this behaviour, you obviously don't.

MoneySavingMamma

:eek::eek::eek:

This is just CRAZY!!!

I have a 5year old, he could never lie like this on his own.
Whatever he did I would be there for him. Even if my OH, his DAD had to move out until it was sorted, that is what would happen!!!
Any decent human would agree with that!

Why the hell have you decorated his room?! It's like you couldn't wait for him to be gone!

Have you sold all his toys off too? Burnt his birth certificate & trying to remove his existance?

A terrible situation for you if you are telling the truth about everything, but your coming across as an evil person for treating a child this way!

That would have it's own impression on me if I was on the jury, how you and 'mother' are treating him!