Husband has "thrown me out" and has children

Flyboy152

puddy wrote: »

she may not be real, she may not be who she says she is, but many teachers i have worked with cannot spell or use correct grammar for the life of them, and in the rush of writing on a forum neither do i and many others

It's not just the writing, it is the use of proper English.

peachyprice

pearl123 wrote: »

Of course she can do wrong peachyprice. Just stating my opinion. I do of course presume that she would be holding such a responsible position because she is damm good at her job. She is afterall responsible for alot of children.

Sorry, but that is rubbish. There are bad headteachers (not saying that OP is BTW) just as there are bad policemen, solicitors, vicars etc etc, just because someone holds a job with responsibility it doesn't mean they are damn good at it at all.

FBaby

mmm, the whole thing does sound very strange.... you left the passport at the grand parents? Why? Was it just theirs or also yours and your husband? If so, weren't these stolen? If not, why were the passports separated?

Did you and your husband had an argument just before he announced the separation? Did you threatened to take the kids away before? I guess it all depends on the circumstances but assuming he isn't completely senile, he must have had pretty good grounds for suspicion to worry about kidnapping...

xangeleyes

I am sorry you are going through this.

I have to ask though, about the passports, WHY would he be suspicious in the first place? If ours went missing in that way, I wouldn't think my husband had faked a theft to get them, and vice versa.

Has he got a history of being paranoid? Or have you given him reason to think of you fleeing the country with the children?

Can you cancel the passports, then get new ones and give them to HIM or HIS parents of something, so that he knows where they are and that you're not going to take and flee?

With the house, are you actually wanting to stay living in there? You mention you have another house that you own outright, can you stay in there?
As he is the main carer, and you tend not to see much of the children (You're out of the house from 7am-11pm), then shouldn't he have the children and you see them on weekends and holidays?
I understand that this is hard, and of course, maternal instinct will make you want to hold, protect and take your children back - no one can blame you for that, but is it the best option at the moment?

I think he should be giving you access like he said, but WITHOUT the supervision, they are your children and you shouldn't need to be supervised unless you're an unfit mother and would cause your children harm.

Chin up. Talk to your solicitors about your access to the children and about it being unsupervised.

NickyBat

Can't quite work this one out

ceridwen

NAR wrote: »

In that case have either of you reported the passports stolen to the Passport Office? Surely if the Passport Office cancelled the passports then they cannot be used, thus alleviating the situation.

Sorrees - that I've not read all this thread.

My thoughts about the passports are that someone stole them to aid with identity theft. That is certainly a perfectly feasible reason to me as to why someone would steal passports and not more financially valuable stuff. Apparent British nationality is a very "valuable commodity" in some peoples eyes:cool::(.

Have you taken action to ensure the thief cant misuse those passports?

peachyprice

ceridwen wrote: »

Sorrees - that I've not read all this thread.

My thoughts about the passports are that someone stole them to aid with identity theft. That is certainly a perfectly feasible reason to me as to why someone would steal passports and not more financially valuable stuff. Apparent British nationality is a very "valuable commodity" in some peoples eyes:cool::(.

Have you taken action to ensure the thief cant misuse those passports?

But the alleged thief would have had no way of knowing the passports were in the car, what are the chances of an ID thief striking lucky and breaking into a car that had just what they needed?

Even if it were kids/druggies they would have taken anything they could sell, not just the one bag with passports that would need a specialist contact to sell them too.

If everything of value had been taken I'm sure the husband would have been less suspicious.

andy.m_2

The fact that passports were stolen is not in it's own right a suspicious thing, it is what has happened in the run up to that even that makes it suspicious.

There is clearly more to the story, examples could be that there were prior marital issues, maybe a separation was on the cards already and the passports' theft merely fueled an already smouldering fire? Maybe there is a history of unwellness, mental or otherwise, maybe not.
Maybe this storyline will end up at Albert Square in a fortnight, unlikely though as the writer's have made big balls ups with the Christmas baby abduction story and didn't run it passed a forum first.


My guess? there was unrest in the marital home (where is the talk of love in the OPs post or a desire to get back into the home to be with the husband?), possible talk of splits, Father is protecting what he sees as most dear to him (he retired to bring up the Children?) and the backlash on here has at times been comical if not a little stereotypical.
Seems to me that you are happy to split and just want to make sure you have access.
Without all the facts (and they are your business and your business alone until any court asks for them) it is impossible to accurately give any meaningful advice to your specific case.

Get professional advice and good luck with howerver you wish this scenario to pan out, it seems that you want what is best for the children which with what you have stated about your husband being the main carer, is brave of you.

Money_maker

There are no outpourings of grief. There are no declarations of how the OP misses her children. There is purely cold, hard facts.

Either the OP is one cold fish or a bored person with an active imagination. I for one am very sceptical.

Flyboy152

NickyBat wrote: »

Can't quite work this one out

That's because it's a load of BS.