Husband has "thrown me out" and has children

pearl123

If we have heard the full story re passports. Then I would question whether your husband was completely mentally well. He has acted, as I said earlier very aggressively. If you were living together prior to him changing the locks -you can go home stay in spare room etc.

Confusedmumex -You do come across to me, as rather resigned to your lot ?

meer53

Her husband is suspicious - why ? I too think we don't have the full story either. I don't go with the passport story, it's a bit far fetched isn't it ? The OP also seems a bit too calm too ? Not pointing any fingers, just wondering.

DevilsAdvocate1

puddy wrote: »

on those issues you may have a point, its strange that the obviously valuable things were not taken but the bag containing passports were.

however, to state that things dont ring true, simply because of the OP's profession and her husbands ex profession is not valid for the reasons others have given above.

As it happens, the passports for 2 of my children (plus mine) are in the car right now and have been for at least a month. I needed photo copies of the main page for their bus passes. Mine is there because I have to do a CRB and the company want me to send a copy of the passport details to them. I'm not the most organised of people and haven't got round to bringing them in. Will do it now

So I think it is plausible especially when you read the reasons given.

I think her husband is hoping she doesn't know the law and is trying to get himself into the most favourable position possible. While what he has done is wrong, he knows he is unlikely to get more than a slap on the wrist for it. It also puts him in a stronger position regarding the family home and children.

D.

Mojisola

confusedmumx - do you have family abroad? Have you ever talked about moving abroad?

It seems an over-reaction to the loss of the passports if there hasn't been some kind of threat made in the past.

dmg24

pearl123 wrote: »

If we have heard the full story re passports. Then I would question whether your husband was completely mentally well. He has acted, as I said earlier very aggressively. If you were living together prior to him changing the locks -you can go home stay in spare room etc.

Confusedmumex -You do come across to me, as rather resigned to your lot ?

I fail to see any aggression, and I am intrigued as to why you are suggesting that he is mentally unwell?

liney

dmg24 wrote: »

I fail to see any aggression, and I am intrigued as to why you are suggesting that he is mentally unwell?

As a retired Barrister perhaps he has witnessed cases that have panned out very badly, so sees his actions as a perfectly reasonable form of prevention.

I too am intrigued as to whether a SAHM doing the same thing would be 'mentally unwell'? :cool:

patchwork_cat

clearingout wrote: »

why wouldn't a headteacher seek advice on an open forum? she has given no detail that could identify her so what's the problem? she may well be able to afford legal advice, yes. but why not seek support and opinion from people who have been there, done that?

As for the husband, people do funny things when under pressure. He should know better, yes. So should my psycho(therapist) ex but he didn't. 2 1/2 years later and he has yet to talk to me. Highly amusing when you think about what he does for a living! What the husband is doing here is setting himself up as the children's main carer and doing what he can to make sure that his children aren't taken from him. You can't blame him for that. He hasn't gone about it very well, but he knows that legally, the worst that can happen is a slap on the wrists whilst CAFCASs get involved and decide who the children should live with. He's relying on his wife, presumably a pillar of her local community, not to want to have her life dragged through the courts. He's putting her in an inferior, weakened position and sticking two fingers up. The passport thing is 'convenient', if you want to read it that way. It's also 'one of those things' if you read it another.

For exactly the reason that Izzybusy has said. I would never ask advice like that from people whose qualifications I have no idea of.

patchwork_cat

Flyboy152 wrote: »

This was my initial thought as well.

Isn't strange, however, if the title of this thread was "Wife has "thrown me out" and has children," there would have been very different advice given on this thread

Not by me. IMO this is not a sex related issue, don't make it one to fit your agenda.

pearl123

The agression to me was her husband changing the locks. Husband also seems to been putting his wife under alot of pressure. She is after all the mother of three children.

My husband says that he thinks (The breaking and taking of passports) is suspicious, and fears I still have the passports and am planning on leaving the country with the children, he says that this is why he doesn't want me to have unrestricted access to the children, and that if I don't agree he is confident of obtaining an interim decision from a court in his favour.

The poster is a headteacher. One would presume that she is a respectable member of society to hold such a position.
I questioned whether her husband was mentally well. I didn't say he was unwell.

joeblack066

Why does the Head Teacher of a large Secondary School use the term "would of" when it should be "would have"?
I feel that this is all either a) blatantly untrue: b)making what could be an amicable seperation that protects the emotional needs of the children into a soap opera style divorce feeding the egos and needs of the adults: c) research for a book/soap opera.
It needs to stop. Whichever is correct.