Husband has "thrown me out" and has children

patchwork_cat

Sorry, but there is a lot more to this story IMO.You are a headteacher and yet are asking complex legal questions on an open forum! Your barrister husband has changed the locks on your jointly? owned house. He knows full well that he can't do that. The childrens' passports have all been stolen from your car!! What are the chances?

clearingout

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Sorry, but there is a lot more to this story IMO.You are a headteacher and yet are asking complex legal questions on an open forum! Your barrister husband has changed the locks on your jointly? owned house. He knows full well that he can't do that. The childrens' passports have all been stolen from your car!! What are the chances?

why wouldn't a headteacher seek advice on an open forum? she has given no detail that could identify her so what's the problem? she may well be able to afford legal advice, yes. but why not seek support and opinion from people who have been there, done that?

As for the husband, people do funny things when under pressure. He should know better, yes. So should my psycho(therapist) ex but he didn't. 2 1/2 years later and he has yet to talk to me. Highly amusing when you think about what he does for a living! What the husband is doing here is setting himself up as the children's main carer and doing what he can to make sure that his children aren't taken from him. You can't blame him for that. He hasn't gone about it very well, but he knows that legally, the worst that can happen is a slap on the wrists whilst CAFCASs get involved and decide who the children should live with. He's relying on his wife, presumably a pillar of her local community, not to want to have her life dragged through the courts. He's putting her in an inferior, weakened position and sticking two fingers up. The passport thing is 'convenient', if you want to read it that way. It's also 'one of those things' if you read it another.

izzybusy23

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Sorry, but there is a lot more to this story IMO.You are a headteacher and yet are asking complex legal questions on an open forum! Your barrister husband has changed the locks on your jointly? owned house. He knows full well that he can't do that. The childrens' passports have all been stolen from your car!! What are the chances?

I agree; two seemingly very intelligent people both acting like novices about the legalities of home ownership and rights and passports; something isn't ringing right here.

Gloomendoom

Intelligence and common sense do not necessarily go hand in hand.

Especially in a stressful situation.

pearl123

You have a right to go home. And if you husband is a barrister he knows that. Time to stand up for yourself and not get pushed over!
He does seem to be very aggressive in his actions.
I too question if there is more to this sorry than meets they eye.
Anyway you are doing the right thing by getting swift legal advise.

Nicki

izzybusy23 wrote: »

I agree; two seemingly very intelligent people both acting like novices about the legalities of home ownership and rights and passports; something isn't ringing right here.

Lots of us with good educations and stable marriages can reach a ripe old age without knowing, or needing to know, the intricacies of when or if a husband can lock his wife out of the house! If the social circles you mix in don't include anyone who has gone through an acrimonious divorce, why would you ever know anything about this?

As for the husband, just because he was once a barrister doesn't mean he knows anything about matrimonial or housing law. Barristers usually specialise in very narrow areas of law, and matrimonial and housing law principles will have changed considerably since he did his law degree. I am a qualified solicitor, but there are whole area of law outside my speciality about which I know little more than the man on the street. OP's husband could have specialized in shipping law or corporate tax for all any of you know and know nothing at all about this.

OP has already said she works long hours, and teachers, even head teachers, can't just up and leave in the middle of a school day to deal with personal issues, so why shouldn't she ask for advice on here? Would her situation be more credible if she worked in a call centre and her husband was a retired market gardener?

puddy

he hasnt gone about things the right way at all, but why 'agressive' there's women all the time on these boards doing exactly the same thing and in fact OP was advised to take her children early from school and keep them until the court case!!!

father doesnt seem to have 'put himself as the main carer' the OP states he has been their main carer.

Mojisola

Why would you expect to get custody of the children when he has always been their main carer?

izzybusy23

Nicki wrote: »

Lots of us with good educations and stable marriages can reach a ripe old age without knowing, or needing to know, the intricacies of when or if a husband can lock his wife out of the house! If the social circles you mix in don't include anyone who has gone through an acrimonious divorce, why would you ever know anything about this?

As for the husband, just because he was once a barrister doesn't mean he knows anything about matrimonial or housing law. Barristers usually specialise in very narrow areas of law, and matrimonial and housing law principles will have changed considerably since he did his law degree. I am a qualified solicitor, but there are whole area of law outside my speciality about which I know little more than the man on the street. OP's husband could have specialized in shipping law or corporate tax for all any of you know and know nothing at all about this.

OP has already said she works long hours, and teachers, even head teachers, can't just up and leave in the middle of a school day to deal with personal issues, so why shouldn't she ask for advice on here? Would her situation be more credible if she worked in a call centre and her husband was a retired market gardener?

Sorry, but something doesn't ring right and no the story would not be any more credible if her husband was a refuse collector and her an avon lady... passports and clothes are the only things gone missing out of her car.. very odd. I agree he is being very heavy handed but I get a feeling he has a cause to be which the OP isn't revealing just yet.

Flyboy152

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Sorry, but there is a lot more to this story IMO.You are a headteacher and yet are asking complex legal questions on an open forum! Your barrister husband has changed the locks on your jointly? owned house. He knows full well that he can't do that. The childrens' passports have all been stolen from your car!! What are the chances?

This was my initial thought as well.

Isn't strange, however, if the title of this thread was "Wife has "thrown me out" and has children," there would have been very different advice given on this thread